between two worlds

Charleygirl, perhaps you have already heard back from Trotty.....

from your post above, about being behind and the way you refer to Trotty, I suspect you didn't see the message I posted on November 10th about her.
A set-back--

Here it is again--for Charleygirl and anyone else who may have missed it:


[my post of Nov 10 pasted in]:
Well I have heard from Trotty and alas as we all feared, she has had a set-back.

She said she is sorry to have worried us all, and asked me to post a little note to explain to everyone; she herself will be back on the forum once it has all sunk in.

They took her appendix out as planned, and in the process they found a cancer on her appendix.

They did as much surgery as they could when they took the appendix out, but just a little of the cancer is left behind and it cannot be surgically removed.

She will need chemo to treat it. This will probably start in December.

They have reassured her that the remaining cancer is small, and that after the chemo she should be absolutely fine.

I don't know if she will see this--but I hope she knows how our hearts will go out to her, and all our hopes and wishes for a fast recovery.

Chemo is an amazing thing and I think all of us know people who have had extraordinary results from it.

Tina (Nov 10)

That's what I wrote on Nov 10--since then, she should have seen the specialist to find out the details of the chemo treatment.

Let's hope it will be a short, easy course of treatment and then--all right as rain!


Tina.

bandrui

Rodney, I always get a lot out of your responses. They are very thoughtful

Sally, Hebden Bridge sounds great. Can we move it south of the M4?

Bee, have you thought about taking your boxes down to your new job in the car and then selling the car when you get there? It would save on moving costs, train fares and time. You might even sell the car for more in your new more affluent area.

Cheers... the light just went on. I see the post was signed Rodney. What a great adventure Rodney. I like all those places you travelled to. San Francisco and Berekely would have been great places to be, especially in the 70s.

between two worlds

Bee, many congrats on getting the job! Best of luck with the move and the planning and all....

Tina

J.JsOH

Moving Country's and Retirement, each alone is a big life change, it would be odd if we didn't get the down's from time to time.

Here's how I am rebuilding a 'life'.
Although I have been working now I am back I have been working from home and it has been very very isolating.
Recently I forced myself to 'walk to work', just a turn around the local park before coming back in the house and it got me on 'good morning' terms with people I see regular.

I think once we are seen regular and not as strangers then conversations begin to strike up.

I think I mentioned before that I went on a community 'get fit' walk and now I see some of those people at the bus stop we get to chat.
Taking the same bus / same time helps get on nodding / chatting terms with people I now see regular.

I had attended a few talks from a local history Society and while folks didn't talk much socially I answered the call (with trepidation) to assist the committee. Duties are light, merely signing people in to the events but it brings social interaction which I wasn't otherwise getting.

While not a fan of social media I have recently joined Facebook to stay in touch with friends back in USA, not much more than sharing photos but it does keep a connection.

Now that I have discovered managing, yes managing, these deliberate efforts to open up myself a bit more (I am not an outward person) I can see the benefits - and I have less fear about the redundancy / probable retirement coming on Dec 31.

J.JsOH

I had been focusing too much recently on the bad side of UK society, but was heartened (despite the sad reason for the occasion) to see so many people attend the recent home town Remembrance Day parade.
Even some of the much maligned Eastern Europeans were present wearing poppies and applauding.
My anticipation of a few old folks gathered miserably in the rain was realised to be hundreds of ordinary people of all ages in brilliant sunshine.

J.JsOH

We find, both June and I, that we can sometimes have a very short fuse at things we never before found frustrating.

sallysimmons

This was a lovely report. I do like the way Britain celebrates these things. I'm just more comfortable with the low-key approach.

Glad you have started to find your way into a happy retirement. If you're anything like my mum, two years in and you'll be so busy you won't have time to sit down. I know lots of people here complain that their kids don't stay in touch but for me, it's the other way round. Every now and then I get a hurried note from mum saying "sorry I haven't written - just so busy. Will try to call at the weekend!" Not that I mind - like you, she was initially worried about being bored, so I'm thrilled to see her so happy.

Is New Maldon more affluent than the part of Cheshire where Bee lives? I had the opposite impression - I thought she was living in a very affluent area at the moment.

jasper123

Yes Bandrui the 70,s were great in northern ca. in fact America was a different world to me in the 70,s and 80,s I loved everything about life there in those days, I noticed the downfall starting in the early 90,s when the big corporation greed really got there teeth in,
But then everywhere in the world is a different place now isn't it, they call it progress.

jasper123

John,
Thank you for that, yes getting around and even walking through the park at the same time every morning or getting on a bus the same time, etc etc I can see would help me in the long term, just that first time of saying something to someone as simple as good morning is good, and sooner or later conversations should I think start with people, all it takes is the first few words to be said regardless of who is the one that initializes it,
So Dec 31 seems to be your time or forced retirement Huh, well if it happens then Im sure you will be alright John, and Im sure June will support you in anything you wanted to do,

Mummy in the foothills

:sunglasses: I got here in the mid 80's and it was wonderful. I really got to dislike it through the 90's and have been wanting to leave since then.

Celticspirit

Rodney.......how about a cute little doggie to walk in the park??? People constantly stop to talk when I am walking my dogs :-)

Celticspirit

We came to Dallas in 1972. As well as the great job at Southwestern Med School for my former husband, Dallas was rated in the top 10 large cities for clean air and 4th safest large city. Well now I think it has become the most crime ridden city in the USA and has very poor air quality :-(

cheers

You have to see this fil'u'm and it will help you remember the way things were in a simpler time. About 1970 I think.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xxda9oRRAc0

So you are going back to live there (as I would like to) and this has changed.

See this video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WtaO33MU3WI

Cheers

bandrui

That first one was slightly before 1970 Cheers. Probably 50s, possibly 40s.

The second one... I don't know. I took buses all over London on my last trip to the UK (2009) and saw no problems whatsoever. Probably more media propaganda to keep the natives in fear!

bandrui

According to posts on the 'New Malden" thread, I'd say that's a definite yes.