OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
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Have a great trip to OZ Eileen all the best..I'm flying to the the UK June 3rd for a 3 week visit...my Mum's 90th b/day, the whole family once again together. Hey Rod I'm still around just very busy at the moment selling and sorting you get the picture as it's never too early to start, I would rather have less to do at the end than rushing around like a madman. Next week we plan on a garage sale and this fall I'll be working on selling my large die-cast car collection can't drag that along with us, already sold a whole bunch of my British model train collection...wow I can't believe how much stuff I've collected over the years...just no end in sight...still it's all part of the process.
cheers...Taffy
cheers...Taffy
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If you went now, your 16 yr old could slot into A levels or equivalent - which would make sense education wise. With A levels under his belt they will travel to Aus very well if he decides he wants to go back when he leaves school.
Kids are always going to be hesitant about leaving "their" place and you see it for families going in the other direction as well but at the end of the day, they are the kids and you are the parents.
A 16 year old is going to be scared of leaving, but by the time he has left school or uni he will be gone anyway and probably back to UK which is what many young Aussies do. What he thinks he will hate at 16 he will be searching for at 18 or 21. One of mine went for a "gap year" 8 years ago and hasnt come back - he loves the buzz, the variety, the proximity to Europe and generally the career options which have opened up for him. He would probably have jacked up had we said we were moving when he was 16 (I wish we had though LOL). He says he will return to Australia one day but with his career path and his fiancee, soon to be wife, I seriously doubt it.
Kids are always going to be hesitant about leaving "their" place and you see it for families going in the other direction as well but at the end of the day, they are the kids and you are the parents.
A 16 year old is going to be scared of leaving, but by the time he has left school or uni he will be gone anyway and probably back to UK which is what many young Aussies do. What he thinks he will hate at 16 he will be searching for at 18 or 21. One of mine went for a "gap year" 8 years ago and hasnt come back - he loves the buzz, the variety, the proximity to Europe and generally the career options which have opened up for him. He would probably have jacked up had we said we were moving when he was 16 (I wish we had though LOL). He says he will return to Australia one day but with his career path and his fiancee, soon to be wife, I seriously doubt it.
Our son has fallen for a girl over here and it definitely complicates things once they get to their late teens!! This decision is the hardest decision I've ever been faced with and I think we need to do some more soul-searching to be honest.
Fulwood - thanks for your post also. We don't have citizenship yet but we are just about to apply, so would have it before we made any final decisions.
#3183
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That is my favourite memory from my Granny's house. Every Sunday we would visit her and make toast on the coal fire with toasting forks - loved it, nothing better
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Fish n Chips and Marmalade..
Yes i remember the toasting fork.Toast made on the fire was great. Here in the US toast never tastes the same as in England. And too, the bread is different. I have never aquired taste for white American bread. It sticks to the roof of your mouth!
Will always buy wheat. Also loved the roasted chestnuts on the fire...mmmm
As bad as things were, there are always nice memories
Liz
Yes i remember the toasting fork.Toast made on the fire was great. Here in the US toast never tastes the same as in England. And too, the bread is different. I have never aquired taste for white American bread. It sticks to the roof of your mouth!
Will always buy wheat. Also loved the roasted chestnuts on the fire...mmmm
As bad as things were, there are always nice memories
Liz
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
Have a great trip to OZ Eileen all the best..I'm flying to the the UK June 3rd for a 3 week visit...my Mum's 90th b/day, the whole family once again together. Hey Rod I'm still around just very busy at the moment selling and sorting you get the picture as it's never too early to start, I would rather have less to do at the end than rushing around like a madman. Next week we plan on a garage sale and this fall I'll be working on selling my large die-cast car collection can't drag that along with us, already sold a whole bunch of my British model train collection...wow I can't believe how much stuff I've collected over the years...just no end in sight...still it's all part of the process.
cheers...Taffy
cheers...Taffy
When are you going home for good? I cant remember if you had a definite date or not,
Yes I certainly know what its like to have to sell everything, but you seem to have a lot of stuff, a lot more then me, but I am going to start selling my stuff in the next week, like you I dont want to leave it to the last minute,
Rodney.
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Rod, many dealers will buy your car, not only car max, Id try the larger dealers, you just need to go the dealer and ask to see the buyer or wholesaler, yes you wont get top price but you will be dealing with people who actually have money, Id try the place you bought it from or any local Hyundai dealer seeing as its a Hyundai, it cant hurt to try.
Yes people buy and sell cars on craigslist but you have to be careful with some people and scams, just my opinion.
Yes people buy and sell cars on craigslist but you have to be careful with some people and scams, just my opinion.
Rodney.
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Re: OVER 50's & 60's MOVING BACK TO THE UK.
Fish n Chips and Marmalade..
Yes i remember the toasting fork.Toast made on the fire was great. Here in the US toast never tastes the same as in England. And too, the bread is different. I have never aquired taste for white American bread. It sticks to the roof of your mouth!
Will always buy wheat. Also loved the roasted chestnuts on the fire...mmmm
As bad as things were, there are always nice memories
Liz
Yes i remember the toasting fork.Toast made on the fire was great. Here in the US toast never tastes the same as in England. And too, the bread is different. I have never aquired taste for white American bread. It sticks to the roof of your mouth!
Will always buy wheat. Also loved the roasted chestnuts on the fire...mmmm
As bad as things were, there are always nice memories
Liz
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Hello All!
reporting in again to sign off for a bit. Flying off to Australia tomorrow, God and Volcanoes willing..:
What a wonderful thing for you David that someone wanted to buy your place with no advertizing involved!!..everything fell into place there..Congrats!
It will be wonderful to see where you end up...on the coast or the interior
Fish, Taff, Rod, Denise...you guys are putting it all into place and I love reading your posts
Anna..you sound so happy in Malta!
Update on the drivers licence which was returned in the mail after 3 weeks.
The docs have all been sent off again now with an expired passport (can afford to be without that) so hopefully by the time I get back I will have it
To everyone else...here's wishing your dreams come true!
reporting in again to sign off for a bit. Flying off to Australia tomorrow, God and Volcanoes willing..:
What a wonderful thing for you David that someone wanted to buy your place with no advertizing involved!!..everything fell into place there..Congrats!
It will be wonderful to see where you end up...on the coast or the interior
Fish, Taff, Rod, Denise...you guys are putting it all into place and I love reading your posts
Anna..you sound so happy in Malta!
Update on the drivers licence which was returned in the mail after 3 weeks.
The docs have all been sent off again now with an expired passport (can afford to be without that) so hopefully by the time I get back I will have it
To everyone else...here's wishing your dreams come true!
Well think of it this way at least being from Canada its a lot easier then if you were from US we have to pass a drivers test and written test too I think if we want to get a UK licence,
#3190
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WOW Grandma, you are certainly a little globe traveler lately arent you, hope everything goes well for you in HK and of course why not give the UK a go from there and lets hope it all works out great for you too,
I too have a Son in UK he is single and owns a house, if push came to shove I am sure he would let me live with him for a short while, but I am lucky that I will be living with my 91 year old Mum, and I will be 65, so we will be a couple of old age pensioners ---- Mother & Son, --- she is even more active then me,
next week she is off to the cotswolds for a week holiday with her friends on a coach trip with the club that she belongs to, they do at least two of these coach trips each year, and the fare includes hotel with breakfast and evening meal and the cost is very reasonable,
Next year she says that I can go to, I will be looking forward to that !!!
Rodney.
I too have a Son in UK he is single and owns a house, if push came to shove I am sure he would let me live with him for a short while, but I am lucky that I will be living with my 91 year old Mum, and I will be 65, so we will be a couple of old age pensioners ---- Mother & Son, --- she is even more active then me,
next week she is off to the cotswolds for a week holiday with her friends on a coach trip with the club that she belongs to, they do at least two of these coach trips each year, and the fare includes hotel with breakfast and evening meal and the cost is very reasonable,
Next year she says that I can go to, I will be looking forward to that !!!
Rodney.
Well, my flight to Hong Kong is booked. I haven't informed work yet that I will be leaving. I haven't returned yet after the 2 months off I have just had. They don't know yet but I will only be back 2 weeks before I tell them I am leaving. They won't care. They fire people all the time, so I am just saving them the hassle!
I will be unemployed with no income, at the age of 54. No insurance. Nothing to put in my pension. I have no idea how things will go in Hong Kong or when I return to England, but the time feels right and if my daughter and her hubby hadn't got the offer for Hong Kong this opportunity would not have arisen.
I say to everyone out there who is debating at our later age in life whether to go back or not, you will never ever be entirely certain how the future will turn out, but if you feel strongly enough about it and want it to happen, you will get there.
I have spent years dithering. I am terrified of what the future holds. I don't know how my hubby will do in America all by himself. I don't know what I will do when I haven't seen him for months. But I really, really want to go and do this. I have been away from my kids for 20 years. Now is my time to spend time with my daughter and grandkids and I am going to make the most of 6 months off work and then stress about it in December!!!
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Ok, give me your son's address, then if my daughter kicks me out I can go and crash at your sons. LOL. Promise I am no trouble. Ask my son in law!
Well, my flight to Hong Kong is booked. I haven't informed work yet that I will be leaving. I haven't returned yet after the 2 months off I have just had. They don't know yet but I will only be back 2 weeks before I tell them I am leaving. They won't care. They fire people all the time, so I am just saving them the hassle!
I will be unemployed with no income, at the age of 54. No insurance. Nothing to put in my pension. I have no idea how things will go in Hong Kong or when I return to England, but the time feels right and if my daughter and her hubby hadn't got the offer for Hong Kong this opportunity would not have arisen.
I say to everyone out there who is debating at our later age in life whether to go back or not, you will never ever be entirely certain how the future will turn out, but if you feel strongly enough about it and want it to happen, you will get there.
I have spent years dithering. I am terrified of what the future holds. I don't know how my hubby will do in America all by himself. I don't know what I will do when I haven't seen him for months. But I really, really want to go and do this. I have been away from my kids for 20 years. Now is my time to spend time with my daughter and grandkids and I am going to make the most of 6 months off work and then stress about it in December!!!
Well, my flight to Hong Kong is booked. I haven't informed work yet that I will be leaving. I haven't returned yet after the 2 months off I have just had. They don't know yet but I will only be back 2 weeks before I tell them I am leaving. They won't care. They fire people all the time, so I am just saving them the hassle!
I will be unemployed with no income, at the age of 54. No insurance. Nothing to put in my pension. I have no idea how things will go in Hong Kong or when I return to England, but the time feels right and if my daughter and her hubby hadn't got the offer for Hong Kong this opportunity would not have arisen.
I say to everyone out there who is debating at our later age in life whether to go back or not, you will never ever be entirely certain how the future will turn out, but if you feel strongly enough about it and want it to happen, you will get there.
I have spent years dithering. I am terrified of what the future holds. I don't know how my hubby will do in America all by himself. I don't know what I will do when I haven't seen him for months. But I really, really want to go and do this. I have been away from my kids for 20 years. Now is my time to spend time with my daughter and grandkids and I am going to make the most of 6 months off work and then stress about it in December!!!
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Good for you!!!!! I agree with everything you say, if you feel strongly enough about something, you just have to bite the bullet and do it. Might not be easy (for me I had a couple of rough days when I wanted to give up after I first got to Malta) but now I am at peace with myself. Right time, right place. Future? Who knows what that brings. It will happen whatever I do or don't do. That's fine. Only get one life, this is not a rehearsal, so enjoy it!!!
I still think when/if you get to England, particularly if you ARE in the Bournemouth area we should meet up. I am in contact with someone who will probably have a lovely cottage (it's basically a summer house on their property in a beautiful part of Dorset not too far a drive away from my daughter. Perhaps we could share or something, to split the costs. Who knows!
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Ok, give me your son's address, then if my daughter kicks me out I can go and crash at your sons. LOL. Promise I am no trouble. Ask my son in law!
Well, my flight to Hong Kong is booked. I haven't informed work yet that I will be leaving. I haven't returned yet after the 2 months off I have just had. They don't know yet but I will only be back 2 weeks before I tell them I am leaving. They won't care. They fire people all the time, so I am just saving them the hassle!
I will be unemployed with no income, at the age of 54. No insurance. Nothing to put in my pension. I have no idea how things will go in Hong Kong or when I return to England, but the time feels right and if my daughter and her hubby hadn't got the offer for Hong Kong this opportunity would not have arisen.
I say to everyone out there who is debating at our later age in life whether to go back or not, you will never ever be entirely certain how the future will turn out, but if you feel strongly enough about it and want it to happen, you will get there.
I have spent years dithering. I am terrified of what the future holds. I don't know how my hubby will do in America all by himself. I don't know what I will do when I haven't seen him for months. But I really, really want to go and do this. I have been away from my kids for 20 years. Now is my time to spend time with my daughter and grandkids and I am going to make the most of 6 months off work and then stress about it in December!!!
Well, my flight to Hong Kong is booked. I haven't informed work yet that I will be leaving. I haven't returned yet after the 2 months off I have just had. They don't know yet but I will only be back 2 weeks before I tell them I am leaving. They won't care. They fire people all the time, so I am just saving them the hassle!
I will be unemployed with no income, at the age of 54. No insurance. Nothing to put in my pension. I have no idea how things will go in Hong Kong or when I return to England, but the time feels right and if my daughter and her hubby hadn't got the offer for Hong Kong this opportunity would not have arisen.
I say to everyone out there who is debating at our later age in life whether to go back or not, you will never ever be entirely certain how the future will turn out, but if you feel strongly enough about it and want it to happen, you will get there.
I have spent years dithering. I am terrified of what the future holds. I don't know how my hubby will do in America all by himself. I don't know what I will do when I haven't seen him for months. But I really, really want to go and do this. I have been away from my kids for 20 years. Now is my time to spend time with my daughter and grandkids and I am going to make the most of 6 months off work and then stress about it in December!!!
So dont feel alone, at this age its a daunting prospect, but down the road, in a year when we are all settled, we will be wondering what we were so stressed about !
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Ok, give me your son's address, then if my daughter kicks me out I can go and crash at your sons. LOL. Promise I am no trouble. Ask my son in law!
Well, my flight to Hong Kong is booked. I haven't informed work yet that I will be leaving. I haven't returned yet after the 2 months off I have just had. They don't know yet but I will only be back 2 weeks before I tell them I am leaving. They won't care. They fire people all the time, so I am just saving them the hassle!
I will be unemployed with no income, at the age of 54. No insurance. Nothing to put in my pension. I have no idea how things will go in Hong Kong or when I return to England, but the time feels right and if my daughter and her hubby hadn't got the offer for Hong Kong this opportunity would not have arisen.
I say to everyone out there who is debating at our later age in life whether to go back or not, you will never ever be entirely certain how the future will turn out, but if you feel strongly enough about it and want it to happen, you will get there.
I have spent years dithering. I am terrified of what the future holds. I don't know how my hubby will do in America all by himself. I don't know what I will do when I haven't seen him for months. But I really, really want to go and do this. I have been away from my kids for 20 years. Now is my time to spend time with my daughter and grandkids and I am going to make the most of 6 months off work and then stress about it in December!!!
Well, my flight to Hong Kong is booked. I haven't informed work yet that I will be leaving. I haven't returned yet after the 2 months off I have just had. They don't know yet but I will only be back 2 weeks before I tell them I am leaving. They won't care. They fire people all the time, so I am just saving them the hassle!
I will be unemployed with no income, at the age of 54. No insurance. Nothing to put in my pension. I have no idea how things will go in Hong Kong or when I return to England, but the time feels right and if my daughter and her hubby hadn't got the offer for Hong Kong this opportunity would not have arisen.
I say to everyone out there who is debating at our later age in life whether to go back or not, you will never ever be entirely certain how the future will turn out, but if you feel strongly enough about it and want it to happen, you will get there.
I have spent years dithering. I am terrified of what the future holds. I don't know how my hubby will do in America all by himself. I don't know what I will do when I haven't seen him for months. But I really, really want to go and do this. I have been away from my kids for 20 years. Now is my time to spend time with my daughter and grandkids and I am going to make the most of 6 months off work and then stress about it in December!!!
I am doing that right now. Have been doing it for the last few years. I'm afraid that when I move home I will not be able to find a job. I have always been self-sufficient, but the unknown does scare me. I was just talking to a friend about it, and I told her that I would go in a heartbeat (only one week of school left for me, I am a teacher), but I have a very negative family member at the other end that makes me feel awful everytime I talk to this family member. Which, makes me question myself continuously as I overanalyze everything..................I am sitting here with a feeling of excitement in my belly, but it is tinged with fear. The unknown makes me excited and fearful!
I love this quote:
Anything I've ever done that ultimately was worthwhile...initially scared me to death. (Betty Bender)
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Hi Grandma, I am in the same boat as you, 54 years old and planning to up sticks and move home. Also, the main draw is to be closer to my daughters and the rest of my family and very dear old friends. I have been living in various other countries around the world but the time has come to go home. I will also be looking for a job, and will be anxious to get back into the job market before I get much older, but thankfully I am in a field that age should not really be an issue (I hope!). My hubby is not all that keen on the move, as he worries about getting a decent job in his field. However he will move as I am so keen on it, we are just hoping the economy will start to get a little stronger now the election is over.
So dont feel alone, at this age its a daunting prospect, but down the road, in a year when we are all settled, we will be wondering what we were so stressed about !
So dont feel alone, at this age its a daunting prospect, but down the road, in a year when we are all settled, we will be wondering what we were so stressed about !
I really hope we are lucky in getting jobs! I am prepared to do anything to get some money coming in. My daughter is working on my CV for me.
She has a friend who works in HR as an analyst, so she sort of knows what they are looking for on CV's so hopefully that will help.
We shall see.
This entire thread has been absolutely incredibly helpful and inspiring. I spend a lot of my free time going back through all the old posts.