I think today I've gone 'troppo' - help!
Mar 29th 2013, 5:13 am
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Mar 29th 2013, 5:17 am
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It does become an obsession after a while...once the decision has been made and the ball is rolling, it just seems that it is all a person can think about. We just want to make that dream a reality and start our new lives back home, and we can't understand why other people can't share that joy with us..LOL. Then again we talk about it so much they're probably sick to death of hearing about it and can't wait to get rid of us so they don't have to hear about it anymore..
Mar 29th 2013, 5:32 am
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I personally would be climbing the walls, although if i had a job to go to everyday it probably would help to have something to keep my mind occupied. I'm not working right now so thinking is ALL I get to do..lol, in between cleaning and cooking.
Mar 29th 2013, 5:42 am
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It seems like an eternity when you have made up your mind that you want to go back. I hope it doesn't take that long for either of us.I think I will be able to find a job over there before I find somewhere to live with four small pets - but you just never know. I've never been one to accept the status quo and am used to pushing that box at every corner
so we will see . . .
Mar 29th 2013, 10:43 am
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Re: I think today I've gone 'troppo' - help!
So if I could just hijack this thread for one quick point: you know how some of us have been talking about how family have been less than inviting. Well, I emailed a relative whose address I had lost when my computer last crashed, because my daughter wanted to send him her graduation announcement. (We were already alerted to the fact that he didn't want us to expect he would put us up or anything when we came back- we weren't asking, but I could sense it in his response to us coming back. "Oh, I surprised." And then nothing else despite 2 email to him since.)
ANYWAY, I digress...so his response to this was, why can't you just scan it and email it? Am I too far off field to interpret this as meaning, don't expect me to send her any money (AGAIN, not expecting anything), so maybe if you just send it that way I can quickly look it over and delete it from the inbox and my memory? I don't know, I think I would rather have the card in my hand, even if I planned on tossing it in the bin later, or at least pretend I am interested in seeing it
Am I totally off base here. paranoid maybe? 
ANYWAY, I digress...so his response to this was, why can't you just scan it and email it? Am I too far off field to interpret this as meaning, don't expect me to send her any money (AGAIN, not expecting anything), so maybe if you just send it that way I can quickly look it over and delete it from the inbox and my memory? I don't know, I think I would rather have the card in my hand, even if I planned on tossing it in the bin later, or at least pretend I am interested in seeing it
Am I totally off base here. paranoid maybe? Ok well I'm going to say here that your relative is just plain rude IMHO and I personally would prefer a bit of good news like yours in the post. The art of letter writing is all but lost these days, all I get these days is junk mail and bills - a proper letter would be such a treat and you don't toss them away like you would casually delete an e-mail.
My Mum used to write to me all the time when I first moved here and I loved it, I still have every single letter she wrote me! Now she e-mails as it is far more convenient but we still send each other funny cards now and then - its great to receive one let me tell you!
Now I am a stickler for good manners, any of my patients dare to say 'Pick that bag up for me" and they get 'The Look' - head to one side, furrowed brow and pursed lips (bit like my sister's pug only not as cute lol!) followed by a terse "Whatever happened to Mr Please?" ha ha ha!!!! This relative of yours sounds like a bit of a ratbag and you seem so nice so - just out of curiosity - why do you still have contact? Is it because you feel like its the polite thing to do? Sometimes its better to cut these people loose you know as they just drain you. Send the announcement anyway, its a great thing to have achieved and your daughter doesn't have to come down to his level!
Anyway I would like to say a huge congratulations to your daughter for graduating, all that hard work has paid off - you must be very very proud of her
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Mar 29th 2013, 10:55 am
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Well I think I'm having my own TROPPO moment Which is another reason I will be glad to get my passport and get out of here.
Don't get me wrong, the friends I'm staying with are great and I love them to death. They took me in and put a roof over my head, but that's where it deviated..lol. I am chief cook and bottle washer. I do the cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing and washing the dishes. It's almost as though they know I'll do it, so they leave everything. I'm not a tidy freak by any means, but I do like things to look nice, and when people just leave things laying around and not throw anything away even though there's a garbage bin 2 feet away, just about make me want to scream!!! Don't even get me started on the bathroom and the piles of dirty clothes laying on the floor when the washing machine is 5ft away ..lol
Okay, rant over !
Which is another reason I will be glad to get my passport and get out of here.Don't get me wrong, the friends I'm staying with are great and I love them to death. They took me in and put a roof over my head, but that's where it deviated..lol. I am chief cook and bottle washer. I do the cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing and washing the dishes. It's almost as though they know I'll do it, so they leave everything. I'm not a tidy freak by any means, but I do like things to look nice, and when people just leave things laying around and not throw anything away even though there's a garbage bin 2 feet away, just about make me want to scream!!! Don't even get me started on the bathroom and the piles of dirty clothes laying on the floor when the washing machine is 5ft away ..lol
Okay, rant over !
Not long to go now and you can move on with your new life and look after yourself first and foremost, hang on in there love, not long to go now!
I realised this morning that tomorrow, when it comes to my shifts, I'm out of the '30's' and I only have 29 shifts to go! I'm trying not to wish my life away but I'm chomping at the bit to go now. I'm so lucky I found you lot and BE else I really do think my friends would have killed me by now, like you ladies I'm obsessed with going now and driving everyone here MAD ha ha!!!!
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Mar 29th 2013, 11:11 am
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1. Go back to the NHS, job security, get NHS pension restarted and get a bit of training paid for. Downside? Bloody knackering and I'd have to commute again.
2. Go back to the NHS part time. My mortgage is so low now and I have no debt so I could go down to 2 x 12 hour shifts per week - tempting but then I wouldn't get any training paid for as I wouldn't do enough hours.
3. Stick to the original plan and go freelance, bit of NHS frontline, film/tv work, medical repatriation, rig/ship work, expedition medic, cruise ships and just pay my own taxes/NI contibutions as a self employed person.
I'm confused as hell but I think atm I'm so stressed and tired I can't actually make a rational decision to save my life! Am going to go home, take some time out and think about what it is I really want to do.
Atm I'm going with no. 1 for 6 months followed by no. 3 but who knows? I will keep you all posted though I promise!!!
I'm lucky to have choices though I know. This morning I went out to a 31 year old woman who has cancer (melanoma), she's so beautiful and a lovely person - she only has 4 months to live
Mar 29th 2013, 11:20 am
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I am with you on that one!!! It seems like an eternity when you have made up your mind that you want to go back. I hope it doesn't take that long for either of us.
I think I will be able to find a job over there before I find somewhere to live with four small pets - but you just never know. I've never been one to accept the status quo and am used to pushing that box at every corner so we will see . . .
It seems like an eternity when you have made up your mind that you want to go back. I hope it doesn't take that long for either of us.I think I will be able to find a job over there before I find somewhere to live with four small pets - but you just never know. I've never been one to accept the status quo and am used to pushing that box at every corner
so we will see . . .I honestly don't know how I would have coped without BE as I'm on my own up here for 178 hours straight. I have hardly anyone to talk to and I live for the days when I am off duty, out of here and can go catch up with friends. Its a pretty lonely life and I will be very glad to put it all behind me and start LIVING again
Mar 29th 2013, 12:18 pm
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Mar 29th 2013, 12:33 pm
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Damn the time difference! I go to bed and I miss out on so much lol!
Ok well I'm going to say here that your relative is just plain rude IMHO and I personally would prefer a bit of good news like yours in the post. The art of letter writing is all but lost these days, all I get these days is junk mail and bills - a proper letter would be such a treat and you don't toss them away like you would casually delete an e-mail.
My Mum used to write to me all the time when I first moved here and I loved it, I still have every single letter she wrote me! Now she e-mails as it is far more convenient but we still send each other funny cards now and then - its great to receive one let me tell you!
Now I am a stickler for good manners, any of my patients dare to say 'Pick that bag up for me" and they get 'The Look' - head to one side, furrowed brow and pursed lips (bit like my sister's pug only not as cute lol!) followed by a terse "Whatever happened to Mr Please?" ha ha ha!!!! This relative of yours sounds like a bit of a ratbag and you seem so nice so - just out of curiosity - why do you still have contact? Is it because you feel like its the polite thing to do? Sometimes its better to cut these people loose you know as they just drain you. Send the announcement anyway, its a great thing to have achieved and your daughter doesn't have to come down to his level!
Anyway I would like to say a huge congratulations to your daughter for graduating, all that hard work has paid off - you must be very very proud of her
Ok well I'm going to say here that your relative is just plain rude IMHO and I personally would prefer a bit of good news like yours in the post. The art of letter writing is all but lost these days, all I get these days is junk mail and bills - a proper letter would be such a treat and you don't toss them away like you would casually delete an e-mail.
My Mum used to write to me all the time when I first moved here and I loved it, I still have every single letter she wrote me! Now she e-mails as it is far more convenient but we still send each other funny cards now and then - its great to receive one let me tell you!
Now I am a stickler for good manners, any of my patients dare to say 'Pick that bag up for me" and they get 'The Look' - head to one side, furrowed brow and pursed lips (bit like my sister's pug only not as cute lol!) followed by a terse "Whatever happened to Mr Please?" ha ha ha!!!! This relative of yours sounds like a bit of a ratbag and you seem so nice so - just out of curiosity - why do you still have contact? Is it because you feel like its the polite thing to do? Sometimes its better to cut these people loose you know as they just drain you. Send the announcement anyway, its a great thing to have achieved and your daughter doesn't have to come down to his level!
Anyway I would like to say a huge congratulations to your daughter for graduating, all that hard work has paid off - you must be very very proud of her
He can stuff it. I don't really have much contact with him and his permanently sour-puss-faced wife, just obligatory stuff because we are "family." I have a better relationship with other family members, so I do think I will cut him loose and just tell the others when we are visiting. He's bound to find out and will be left scratching his head as to why we didn't let him know
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Mar 29th 2013, 12:38 pm
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I know! When I first started this post it seemed like my leaving date was so far away it would never come and I was so bloody unhappy! Fast forward and now its 2 months since I started this thread and, come Monday, only 8 weeks til I get on that plane!!
I honestly don't know how I would have coped without BE as I'm on my own up here for 178 hours straight. I have hardly anyone to talk to and I live for the days when I am off duty, out of here and can go catch up with friends. Its a pretty lonely life and I will be very glad to put it all behind me and start LIVING again
I honestly don't know how I would have coped without BE as I'm on my own up here for 178 hours straight. I have hardly anyone to talk to and I live for the days when I am off duty, out of here and can go catch up with friends. Its a pretty lonely life and I will be very glad to put it all behind me and start LIVING again
Mar 29th 2013, 12:41 pm
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I am with you on that one!!! It seems like an eternity when you have made up your mind that you want to go back. I hope it doesn't take that long for either of us.
I think I will be able to find a job over there before I find somewhere to live with four small pets - but you just never know. I've never been one to accept the status quo and am used to pushing that box at every corner so we will see . . .
It seems like an eternity when you have made up your mind that you want to go back. I hope it doesn't take that long for either of us.I think I will be able to find a job over there before I find somewhere to live with four small pets - but you just never know. I've never been one to accept the status quo and am used to pushing that box at every corner
so we will see . . .
Mar 29th 2013, 2:16 pm
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Re: I think today I've gone 'troppo' - help!
So if I could just hijack this thread for one quick point: you know how some of us have been talking about how family have been less than inviting. Well, I emailed a relative whose address I had lost when my computer last crashed, because my daughter wanted to send him her graduation announcement. (We were already alerted to the fact that he didn't want us to expect he would put us up or anything when we came back- we weren't asking, but I could sense it in his response to us coming back. "Oh, I surprised." And then nothing else despite 2 email to him since.)
ANYWAY, I digress...so his response to this was, why can't you just scan it and email it? Am I too far off field to interpret this as meaning, don't expect me to send her any money (AGAIN, not expecting anything), so maybe if you just send it that way I can quickly look it over and delete it from the inbox and my memory? I don't know, I think I would rather have the card in my hand, even if I planned on tossing it in the bin later, or at least pretend I am interested in seeing it Am I totally off base here. paranoid maybe?
ANYWAY, I digress...so his response to this was, why can't you just scan it and email it? Am I too far off field to interpret this as meaning, don't expect me to send her any money (AGAIN, not expecting anything), so maybe if you just send it that way I can quickly look it over and delete it from the inbox and my memory? I don't know, I think I would rather have the card in my hand, even if I planned on tossing it in the bin later, or at least pretend I am interested in seeing it
Am I totally off base here. paranoid maybe? Back to thread proper
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for you both. (Please just see it as cake even though it's not either of your birthdays) Whadya mean cake never solved anything. Have some more, you've got no staying power !
Mar 29th 2013, 2:35 pm
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He can stuff it. I don't really have much contact with him and his permanently sour-puss-faced wife, just obligatory stuff because we are "family." I have a better relationship with other family members, so I do think I will cut him loose and just tell the others when we are visiting. He's bound to find out and will be left scratching his head as to why we didn't let him know
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Congrats to your daughter!!!
