Marriage - is there any point?
Jul 3rd 2009 | 10:29 am
#167
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Jul 3rd 2009 | 11:15 am
#168
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Re: Marriage - is there any point?
I don't think a prenup works in Australia. Anyone know for sure?
Jul 3rd 2009 | 11:49 am
#169
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Re: Marriage - is there any point?
I've been reading the posts by this chappie and hes either a complete wind-up or lies in a dark room without any social interaction.
Jul 3rd 2009 | 1:51 pm
#170
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Re: Marriage - is there any point?
He still swears blind that beach/RR/no guests is positively romantic. I think he's become more Australian than he cares to admit.
Jul 3rd 2009 | 5:56 pm
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Re: Marriage - is there any point?
can't say I agree with your reasoning here.
To me it points to evidence that arranged marriages are not necessarily more successful than non-arranged marriages, that cultural pressure to keep the marriage going - a marriage based on no personal choice on the part of the pair involved - does not equal more successful than when you choose your partner yourself. All it does is it drives people in that situation to go underground, keep up the facade for the sake of their parents & community, and live by other standards 'out of sight'....
No, not a successful marriage by any means I don't think.
To me it points to evidence that arranged marriages are not necessarily more successful than non-arranged marriages, that cultural pressure to keep the marriage going - a marriage based on no personal choice on the part of the pair involved - does not equal more successful than when you choose your partner yourself. All it does is it drives people in that situation to go underground, keep up the facade for the sake of their parents & community, and live by other standards 'out of sight'....
No, not a successful marriage by any means I don't think.
Jul 3rd 2009 | 5:57 pm
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Re: Marriage - is there any point?
Well, statistically there's a 50/50 chance of divorce and of those divorces 75% are initiated by the female. Not good odds to risk your life on.
Jul 3rd 2009 | 6:00 pm
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Re: Marriage - is there any point?
Now you are just trying to wind everyone up or you really are a very bitter man. If the latter, then get yourself a good therapist - they really will be able to help you deal with your 'problems' - I am not saying that you have to get married or anything like that but you do need to start seeing women as an equal and not some blood sucking vampire who is only after your money!
Jul 3rd 2009 | 6:01 pm
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Jul 3rd 2009 | 6:04 pm
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Re: Marriage - is there any point?
When it's stated "people are monogamous" and "made to impregnate as many females as possible" I think that's been taken out of context. Professor Winston mentioned this and at the same time noted humans have come a long way from being primates and have developed a brain and evolved with a conscience and know the difference. Although there are some cultures that practice it..
Infidelity is still one of the most common reasons for divorce so sex/procreation is still a major driving influence in all of us irrespective of social morality/expectations.
Jul 3rd 2009 | 6:05 pm
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Re: Marriage - is there any point?
People are not designed by nature to be monogamous. It is so embedded into out genetic make up it's not funny. Monogamy, while it is possible, goes against our very nature.
Men are biologically designed to impregnate as many women as possible to ensure the survival of the species. Women are designed to have sex with as many men as possible to ensure that their eggs are fertilised by the strongest male seed possible and thus ensure survival of the species.Yes true,also women biologically need to be more selective, to find the male with the best genes to have children with.
Attractiveness fades once you have had sex a few times with the same partner.
Men are biologically designed to impregnate as many women as possible to ensure the survival of the species. Women are designed to have sex with as many men as possible to ensure that their eggs are fertilised by the strongest male seed possible and thus ensure survival of the species.Yes true,also women biologically need to be more selective, to find the male with the best genes to have children with.
Attractiveness fades once you have had sex a few times with the same partner.
Been married 32 years as of June and i would renew my vows,dh can be a pain in bum at times as can i.Agree with other posters that we do change, but we have also grown together.(apparently i have become more assertive in the last few years,think he means i won't put up with any shit just to keep the peace)
Jul 3rd 2009 | 6:08 pm
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Re: Marriage - is there any point?
Those figures aren't based on modern day relationships but on marriages where the female was a stay at home housewife and the male worked to support the household. With modern day ralationships, with both male and female working the life expectancy figures are changing so there is little relevance in quoting those figures.
