Pretty well the way it works here. Did you join the golf club/church/etc?

And a lot of us cant wait to leave this side of the pond and die happy in our Mother Land

This is really why Monster.com sucks. You're finding the jobs, but are not getting any further (and trust me, you are not alone). Headhunters want you only when they have a specific job available, but the rest of the time they don't even want to speak to you (it's pretty sick actually).

When I first started looking for jobs, I was told "It's who you know, but you don't have to know them all that well." Some ridiculous number of jobs are never advertised, and only available to 'friends in the know' or pre-selected candidates (I think the number is like 40-60% or something obscene). I'm now self-employed but I can use my wife for an example--she went to a school 'alumni coffee' once and met another lawyer who just casually mentioned they would have an openning in two months and presto, viola, she got the interview, the second interview (and eventually an offer). Doesn't even know the guy who got her in the door, but it was enough.

Wherever you resettle, I think you'll need to get out a bit into the tech community and meet some folks, grab some business cards, etc. I know it sucks, but if it gets you the job you want then it is probably worth it (of course, this doesn't help you 3,000 miles away right now, but it is something to plan on if you do come back).

But the other posters have a very very valid point--health insurance. It can be big bucks to have a baby here uninsured. Hope your wife has that sorted.

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I've got a Computer Science degree and when i finally get to the states, i'll be chuffed if i get a helpdesk job, well that's what im aiming for...

If you really aiming for a Help Desk job you would be better off moving to India

I applaud your realistic outlook on life.

I've often found that even when someone previously unknown to me calls me back, it's because they recognized a name (usually among the publications - I'm a scientist) on my CV/résumé and made a few phone calls.

Serious question - how much did you talk about where you were going to live when you got married? Neither of you seems happy away from your home countries. Oh, and the standard of living had bugger all to do with me and my USC husband living in the US.

Precisely! Actually, anywhere but the US for me.

Too true!

I work for a huge IT company and we're busy laying off thousands of Project Managers. Good luck in your hunt, you will need it!

English province? LOL. Look outside of London, it's not just little provinces filled with yokels you know. There are other big cities and towns and small towns, oh my!

Right, got that out of the way.

I feel bad for you and your husband, neither happy in the other's native country. You both need to reach a compromise. What about Canada? I'm not surprised you are missing your job in FL, the salary for RN's is anything like they get paid here in Alabama then you'll have taken a significant pay drop. For the sake of both of you and your baby you need to come to a compromised but before you do...

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In any case I would not make this decision at this point, i.e. whilst she is pregnant. This is a difficult time for any woman.

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Your hormones are all over the place. Wait until the birth of your baby then maybe you will be thinking straight. By the sounds of things, the baby will have come before you have straightened out Mr's GC status anyway.

I wish you both the very best of luck, being an Englishwoman currently living in the US for her spouse, I at least can understand some of how you both feel.

so true....look at the crunt that took over EA...he's lead a string of businesses into the ground and now sign up bonus that was insane and he's on a basic salary of $65K a month, plus all those bonuses....and he looks like a caricature freak

It is an important factor, a very important factor...you can abandon your residence status with just one day away, so yes, your status until you are back in the US is in question.

Standard of living isn't what brought most of us here, because it's just as kack for many, most either came because of spouse, because of a good job opportunity or the adventure of it all.

Nor me!

tell you what, you can have my husbands job here and he will go back to London and have yours -what company are you working for??????