Jealousy and insecurity are major characteristics of most Filipino women. I always remember a wise ex- pat saying to me that if he were' playing away' with another women, his wife would be upset, but not leave him. The reason being the wife would be jealous of the new woman, and make sure she did not get anymore of her husband.!!!

Does GF know that you are posting personal and intimate details online ? Some things are best not discussed with strangers.

What seems to be a major difference between western women and asian, particularly filipinas is that if a western woman is cheated on she goes for the partner, filipinas go for the other woman.

Scot47. I assume your question was rhetorical and will be treated as such. The basis of your question was answered by me and the forum moderator on page 10. However, I will add this: I do carefully consider what I write and I know they are properly scrutinized by the moderators. I think it is important I give a full and frank appraisal (within the rules) of my life here to help others to understand my position. I hope in the future it will be of benefit to others. If my blog also gives mirth and merriment then that is an added bonus.....I try to draw a balance under sometimes difficult circumstances.

My gf refers to me as her < snipped > She posts many pictures of us on fb and always seems very happy to show me off. She was looking at a cheap ring the other day which I decided to buy for her. It was about 600 peso. That was posted on fb with her wearing it on the wedding finger as we westerners like to call it. It gave the impression we have become engaged. I think that was deliberate. She also got many congratulations.

She has had a problem with her passport which we have now sorted out. Preparation for a return to Kuwait? She is not interested in going to the UK for a visit. We are off into the big city tomorrow to sort her SS out (pension) which she has let lapse. Preparation to stay here without my support? No idea.

Regarding the wormy looking one, buy a couple of worm tablets from the chemist ( or vet - one tablet for each 10kg body weight ) and pop them in the food on your plate ( remembering which half you have put them in ) and when you have had enough food just push the plate over to him.

My wife's family are quite often round the house, which I don't mind, but they all seemed to be accompanied by head lice or some other beast living in their hair. So knowing that every time they took a shower in our house, despite my wife saying "Don't use Paul's shampoo", they always did, so an empty bottle was filled with the dog shampoo, our visitors now have a clean head, silky hair and will fetch a stick. Hopefully my wife does not read this as I know she sometimes uses it and would go ballistic as she is horrified when I use dog shampoo occasionally.

It is a situation in which both of you feel insecure, therefore both of you contemplate a plan B and then if you suspect the other of having a plan B then you start to prepare your plan B and then the other finds that out and so it goes on. Tackling the insecurity itself is the only way to avoid the relationship degenerating. Not easy, because admitting to insecurity isn't easy. Worth a try as you seem to have a pretty good relationship most of the time.

Gf father's phone broke the other day and he asked her to look for another replacement. The broken one was one of her old ones she used whilst in Kuwait. I was surprised when she started looking for an all singing and dancing phone which comes free but with a 599 peso per month price plan. I had offered one of my old Nokia's (10 years old) but that was just laughed at. Now, if he is really strapped for cash, I see no logic in buying an expensive plan. Maybe I will tell him that when he drives the 800 metres on his brand new motor-bike he bought several months ago. Or when I pay his 2000 peso pm for medications. Logic and common sense seems absent in this country.

Bought some mustard the other day. Not as strong as Colemans but I will try it out. Not sure how mustard goes with fish. Had another idea. We in the UK love our salads during summer. But the people here hate it....including her family. She enjoyed her salads in Kuwait and is now making them. Had some left overs the other day and offered it to them. They grimaced and politely declined. Shame really...

I will decline buying worm boy tablets unless they ask me to. My suggestion that he probably has worms was met with derision and the usual....what does this foreigner know? He is always down with some minor ailment which is a by product of worms so I have read. As far as lice is concerned...I did often wonder why when they visit they sit on my balcony studiously inspecting scalps with a pair of tweezers. Never liked to ask.

Had a very bad day yesterday with her. At a click of a switch she became very upset about a remark I made on fb. (Too long a story for here). I managed to get out of her she does not think I am serious about our relationship and she was definitely going back to Kuwait. She will consider coming back after I have divorced my wife. Despite all my re-assurances she would not listen and I saw her messaging her friend in Kuwait that she wants to go back out there on a 2 year contract. I honestly understand how she feels and sympathise with her. She gave up her job for me... and "her" baby. Plus the family she adores. They have asked her back to take care of another baby which I believe is due in about 8 months. Last night she was leaving me. This morning, although morose she was her loving self. Cooked breakfast and we took our morning walk along the beach and talked about what to buy for Xmas amongst other things. She is fine now, but my re-assurances appear to be doing no good. I feel that this relationship is sadly coming to an end.

I must have missed that earlier in your thread. Understandable that she would feel insecure.

Filipinas are very insecure about previous relationships, even when divorced.

They are very predictable with the 4Bs ( Both Barrels Before Breakfast ) as well, if they have a dream about you having an affair, you get treated as though you actually did have an affair.

I heard a story about an expat on Samar who was caught playing away. The unfortunity girl was hiding behind a door when the wife stabbed her with a knife through the door.

Sounds like she needs to Pistorius's attorney.

Move ON. All this bull shit about Kuwait.............................for gods sake get on the net and find out how seriously LOW the salaries they pay out there. I think she is twisting the facts to Black mail you. The salaries in Kuwait are lower paid than Hong Kong. Unless she is working for a OIL rich sheik I would think that what your presently paying out is far more beneficial for her and the family than her slaving away in a Muslim country.
More to the point, how long do you think you would remain 'single' if you split from your g/f.....................maybe 1 month? Probably less than that. You have a choice, if you have such strong (misguided) feelings for her, marry her. If you are in need of female company without obligation, get yourself a live in maid, or two.You are a 'rich' man by Philippine standards, finding a new experiences and meeting other less troublesome families should be a walk in the park. Do It!

mikek1.... I have a suspicion that you may think she is a scammer! Seriously though, there is that possibility that you may be right and my confidence in her is unfounded. Time will tell I guess. But however hard she may try if she is a scammer, she will not succeed. On 4 occasions now, (house purchase x 2, taking on fathers loan and buying gold at auction) she has asked for serious money and been turned down. If she was a scammer, I think she would have left me by now and sought a more gullible victim. As I have previously said, I think she has made these requests for me to demonstrate my commitment toward her. I may be wrong. She is very insecure and worried about my wife and two grown up boys. Her father has also asked how happy I am with them and whether I will stay. They have welcomed me as part of the family and shown me warmth and much gratitude for what I have done. She has a great interest in gold but only wears a gold necklass that I bought when I arrived here. Other items she has bought is put away and she never shows them off. Her reasoning for gold is an investment which I have known about for nearly 2 years. Her last major pinay pout came about because she misunderstood something I had written on fb which undermined her confidence in my intentions toward her and the major insecurities she has surfaced. This has happened a number of times and indeed has threatened self harm in the past. She is very money conscious and checks receipts and bills minutely. She sacked two people undertaking work here because she thought they were on the fiddle. I have a foreigner who owes me 11k who has since returned home temporarily and she is pressurising his gf here for repayment. I have not asked her to do this. I can remember the slanging matches she had with her father in the early days when the house was being refurbed and he came back without a receipt, or paid over the odds for something. She is buying a lot of clothes at the moment. Cheap clothes. Having been away for 4 years, she is renewing her wardrobe and giving away the old. I also remember her father coming to me and saying gf sister at college required a lap-top. This was after I forked out 30k for her tuition fees. Before I was going to refuse to buy one, gf said she could borrow hers. That saved me a lot of money if I had agreed. So....she is saving me money and taking care of my interests. Scammer....? Doubt it. Time will tell.

As far as Kuwait is concerned, yes the minimum wage is not a huge amount. The family she worked for had 5 staff. The employer and her husband are both top execs in private companies and I gather earn a vast amount. They have holidays 4 times a year and take all their staff to exotic places around the middle east. Seen the pics on fb. Gf worked 7 days a week and all hours. I have not asked how much she earned, but I gather it was in the region of 18k pm. This was because of the hours she worked. The staff were always given "little" presents such as I phones, I-pads, watches and jewellery. She misses her Kuwait family...and her "adopted" son.

As far as other gf's are concerned, I didn't come here for that. Yes, it would be nice but not a priority. I was originally coming here in January and was going to visit such places as Davao, Bohol, Cebu and others before settling down somewhere and then maybe meeting someone if the right person came along. Gf asked me to wait until March then we could visit together, but we settled here instead. In essence...I have a gf. Is she the right one?
I believe so. But we shall see.

B

, you might be selling your gf a bit short, I was speaking to a friend in Kuwait today and he reckoned for a live in nanny looking after one or two young babies/kids the going rate was about KD150-200 ( 23-31K Peso pm ).

As for investing in gold 'you pays your money and takes your chances', if you invested 10 years ago you will have doubled your money, if you invested 4 years ago you will have lost half your money. Lets hope it doubles, it is always nice to know of a winner.