If that is the case it is probably more down to cultural pressures rather than true 'success' - there's a huge amount of pressure in those cultures to 'obey' the elders, who have usually chosen the spouse in the first place.

Another reason why people shouldn't get married in the first place and under Australian law de facto is treated the same as marriage.

Yes, I would say that is spot on.

Interstingly, I'm reliably informed by friends in such cultures & circumstances that affairs are rather the norm.... keep the marriage intact, but have your fun on the side... so not sure I'd call arranged marriages successful really.

Agree with that too. It just goes to show that monogamy is not possible.

Why does that show that monogomy isn't possible? Just because two people who have been thrown together choose to sleep with other people outside of their marriage doesn't mean that people can't be monogamous (sp?)

Perhaps the people who choose their husband or wives and in turn are sexually attracted to them might be less inclined to be unfaithful.

Ooops not the best quote - was pertaining to the rate of marriage breakdown in Aus compared with UK.

Interesting for me it is the reverse. I have very few UK friends on their second marriages and far more here. Last year at the end of July we and my parents notched up 95 years of marriage between us - so 97 years at the end of this month. It's worked for us and I would do it again even though he is Australian.

People are not designed by nature to be monogamous. It is so embedded into out genetic make up it's not funny. Monogamy, while it is possible, goes against our very nature.

Men are biologically designed to impregnate as many women as possible to ensure the survival of the species. Women are designed to have sex with as many men as possible to ensure that their eggs are fertilised by the strongest male seed possible and thus ensure survival of the species.

Attractiveness fades once you have had sex a few times with the same partner.

I hope not cos my dad is on his 3rd marriage and my mother is on her second! I am child of first marriage of each (to each other) & saw a couple of very nasty, drawnout divorces up close over the years. But it didn't stop me getting married last year - am so happy & figure that just cos my parents messed up doesn't mean I will. Also am much older than they were the first times they got married which I think makes a difference. Ref OP, I love being married, we eloped, it was nothing to do with churches or parties or presents, it was just us and just for us. And it does feel different to living together unmarried. Imo it's a very personal decision, especially these days when it's not legally / socially required & don't think there can be a proven arguement on either side as to whether there's a point to marriage or not, just different personal opinions. Clearly marriage is not for OP!

You state that as a fact so assume that is case for you, but is not case for everyone, is pointless wild generalisation to state such a thing! Think you just like to get people going huh?

I always thought that marriage was more about a tax law and less about romance. I dont fancy marriage myself as the idea fills me with boredom. I went out with a girl once who seemed to be more interested in marriage to appease her parents expectations than her own plus she had funny ideas about sex which had me running in the other direction. Both my parents have been married three times so theres no sanctity there.

I'll be a bachelor boy and thats the way I'll stay................

It's different for men than it is for women. Men want to bed as many women as possible. Once you've had sex with them you view them differently.

Marriage is letting the government get involved with your relationship.

In Marriage , The woman hopes she can change to man , and the man hopes the woman never changes... Typically it ends up being round the other way.

After a couple of years, its non-stop doggy style sex. I sit up and beg and she rolls over and plays dead

You are either a wind-up merchant or for some reason very bitter and also inexplicably incapable of realising that not every man is same as you...