Why the difference...
Jun 29th 2008 | 8:00 pm
#181
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From: Brisbane, Australia
Re: Why the difference...
Give it a rest woman!
P.S. I didn't make excuses for my actions, I just think you are full of sh*t frankly.
P.S. I didn't make excuses for my actions, I just think you are full of sh*t frankly.
Last edited by rabsody; Jun 29th 2008 at 8:47 pm. Reason: too much personal info!
Jun 29th 2008 | 8:05 pm
#182
Ping pong PoM
Joined: Aug 2006
Posts: 1,537
From: Melbourne
Re: Why the difference...
I thought you believed in Karma???? 
Jun 29th 2008 | 8:08 pm
#183
Home and Happy
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 94,305
From: Keep true friends and puppets close, trust no-one else...
Re: Why the difference...
Can we all please cut out the abusive comments and keep it polite, please.
Jun 29th 2008 | 8:13 pm
#184
Gutter Gob!!
Joined: Feb 2005
Posts: 13,098
From: Perth
Re: Why the difference...
Give it a rest woman!
P.S. I didn't make excuses for my actions, I just think you are full of sh*t frankly.
P.P.S. A scenario for you .... you move to Aus with your husband and you have two very young kids in tow, it doesn't work out for whatever reason (could be that your husband beats you, your husband runs off with his secretary, or you are just not compatible), you realise Aus is not for you but you are now unable to move back due to the legalities and you are stuck in a land where you know very few people with no family, little support and with two young kids to support. You go from being a SAHM to working full time overnight. Your little kids suddenly have to be in childcare full time from 7am to 6pm. You then realise you have, oh, about 15 years ahead of you stuck in a country you don't want to be.
I know I made the choice to move here, but I did not envisage the way it was going to turn out. I thought my marriage was going to work. Thankfully my situation has improved drastically from the early days and I try and be as positive as best I can but hey, I'm only human, and if want my own private pity party from time to time then I'm going to have one. I don't need some amateur philosopher spouting some tosh about how I chose my situation, or others like me - a situation that they really cannot comprehend until they have walked in my shoes. I honestly fail to see how it helps.
P.S. I didn't make excuses for my actions, I just think you are full of sh*t frankly.
P.P.S. A scenario for you .... you move to Aus with your husband and you have two very young kids in tow, it doesn't work out for whatever reason (could be that your husband beats you, your husband runs off with his secretary, or you are just not compatible), you realise Aus is not for you but you are now unable to move back due to the legalities and you are stuck in a land where you know very few people with no family, little support and with two young kids to support. You go from being a SAHM to working full time overnight. Your little kids suddenly have to be in childcare full time from 7am to 6pm. You then realise you have, oh, about 15 years ahead of you stuck in a country you don't want to be.
I know I made the choice to move here, but I did not envisage the way it was going to turn out. I thought my marriage was going to work. Thankfully my situation has improved drastically from the early days and I try and be as positive as best I can but hey, I'm only human, and if want my own private pity party from time to time then I'm going to have one. I don't need some amateur philosopher spouting some tosh about how I chose my situation, or others like me - a situation that they really cannot comprehend until they have walked in my shoes. I honestly fail to see how it helps.
You have beautiful daughters who will one day understand the sacrifices you have made for them.
Jun 29th 2008 | 8:15 pm
#185
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From: Brisbane, Australia
Re: Why the difference...
Thank you NB, I appreciate your support. I shouldn't let it get to me, but I find it upsetting.
Jun 29th 2008 | 8:38 pm
#187
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From: Melbourne
Re: Why the difference...
I apologised once, but will do so again, because it appears that you either didn't read it or thought I was being trite. 
I apologise, unreservedly, if I've caused you any offence.
My posts were never aimed at anyone personally. The question was 'why the difference.' I just put what I believe, what works for me, and philosophy behind it.
Yes, I feel sorry for your situation, but I'm not to blame for it, I've never met you, or your family. I'm hope that day to day things aren't too dreadful, but reading between the lines you ended up with the bum deal, (which I did say earlier) the only thing you can do is play the hand you've got.... it seems to me that you have taken responsibility.... working every hour god sends to give your kids a good life, leaving a marriage that wasn't right for you, and probably, a hundred other things too.
I apologise, unreservedly, if I've caused you any offence.
My posts were never aimed at anyone personally. The question was 'why the difference.' I just put what I believe, what works for me, and philosophy behind it.
Yes, I feel sorry for your situation, but I'm not to blame for it, I've never met you, or your family. I'm hope that day to day things aren't too dreadful, but reading between the lines you ended up with the bum deal, (which I did say earlier) the only thing you can do is play the hand you've got.... it seems to me that you have taken responsibility.... working every hour god sends to give your kids a good life, leaving a marriage that wasn't right for you, and probably, a hundred other things too.
Jun 29th 2008 | 9:23 pm
#188
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Joined: Jul 2007
Posts: 1,322
From: Center Parcs, WA
Re: Why the difference...
I do sympathise with Rabsody's position on this but I've read Alipally's posts carefully and do not think she is trying to offend anyone, nor is she trolling. She has an opinion which differs from that of many on this thread but that doesn't make her "wrong" and she doesn't deserve the abuse that's been flung her way.
A little live and let live peeps, please.
A little live and let live peeps, please.
Jun 29th 2008 | 11:20 pm
#189
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Joined: Jan 2005
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From: Bunbury, Western Australia
Re: Why the difference...
Ladies, Gentlemen and all other applicables...
I think it is high time we turned around and had a good hard look at ourselves. It saddens me that this forum keeps degenerating into childish bickering and personal insults.
Pretty much all of you guys have helped me, -albeit perhaps unknowingly, at some point in my journey.
The concept of this place, surely, is to share our thoughts, experiences, pleasures, pitfalls and downfalls, and gain experience and support from others who have been there, and done that; whilst giving support and advice to others who are about to be there, and do that.
If you don't like what someone says, and especially if they are some small minded troll from the deepest depths of gloom, doom, despair and unpleasantness... please IGNORE them. Don't give them the pleasure of biting their bait.
Help those who appreciate your help, offer your help to all, but if they don't want it, and turn it back on you, drop them like a lead balloon.
Life is too short to waste your time on these petty w***ers.
J
I think it is high time we turned around and had a good hard look at ourselves. It saddens me that this forum keeps degenerating into childish bickering and personal insults.
Pretty much all of you guys have helped me, -albeit perhaps unknowingly, at some point in my journey.
The concept of this place, surely, is to share our thoughts, experiences, pleasures, pitfalls and downfalls, and gain experience and support from others who have been there, and done that; whilst giving support and advice to others who are about to be there, and do that.
If you don't like what someone says, and especially if they are some small minded troll from the deepest depths of gloom, doom, despair and unpleasantness... please IGNORE them. Don't give them the pleasure of biting their bait.
Help those who appreciate your help, offer your help to all, but if they don't want it, and turn it back on you, drop them like a lead balloon.
Life is too short to waste your time on these petty w***ers.
J
Jun 30th 2008 | 7:54 am
#190
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Re: Why the difference...
I do sympathise with Rabsody's position on this but I've read Alipally's posts carefully and do not think she is trying to offend anyone, nor is she trolling. She has an opinion which differs from that of many on this thread but that doesn't make her "wrong" and she doesn't deserve the abuse that's been flung her way.
A little live and let live peeps, please.
A little live and let live peeps, please.
It is sad to witness the sheer nastiness getting thrown Alipally's way - simply because her opinion differs to that of the majority.
A bit more fair play wouldn't go amiss......
Last edited by cazzamia; Jun 30th 2008 at 7:59 am.
Jun 30th 2008 | 11:42 am
#191
High in the Dandenongs
Joined: Apr 2003
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From: Listening to Puffing Billy
Re: Why the difference...
Thats not it at all. Her opinion in the main is insulting to anyone with an ounce of rational thought. We all know that we are responsible for own actions, like dur!? BUT, like a lot of lifes nasty surprises, no one plans for them and NO ONE else knows how they will deal with it until it actually happens to them, so in this instance banging on about responsibility blah blah is quite frankly tasteless and somewhat fanatical im my opinion.
Jun 30th 2008 | 12:09 pm
#192
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Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 4,298
From: Brisbane
Re: Why the difference...
Yet, at the same time, I can sympathise with the situation that Rabsody and others may be in.
The real issue here is that many of the responses to Allipally's comments are emotionally charged first and foremost, leaving the rational thought to come second and fill in the gaps. Or maybe not make an appearance at all.
Jul 1st 2008 | 12:15 am
#194
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From: Bunbury, Western Australia
