New to Forum and Needing Divorce Advice :-/
Apr 30th 2012, 4:11 pm
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Oh and couple of last tips Dave, make sure your useless solicitor asks for a full financial discolure on your soon to be ex wife regardless that she may have been a housewife and not working. Reason being is that they, the witches, have a nasty habit of squirreling away your hard earned cash without you noticing and can stash a tasty sum. Also kill any credit cards. Yep they have a habit of buying stacks of new clothes and tasty underwear etc just before the split, for the new man out of your hard earned bucks.
I have initiated divorce 2 times, took nothing from the guys. NOTHING at all , besides my freedom. And happily so.
I am sure there are plenty of Ex wives like me.
Apr 30th 2012, 4:52 pm
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Tock, I have to say this. I really do. YOUR ex wives and some others may do all those nasties for various reasons, but it s not ALL women who do this.
I have initiated divorce 2 times, took nothing from the guys. NOTHING at all , besides my freedom. And happily so.
I am sure there are plenty of Ex wives like me.
I have initiated divorce 2 times, took nothing from the guys. NOTHING at all , besides my freedom. And happily so.
I am sure there are plenty of Ex wives like me.
However you are not good for my new business so best keep sssshhhh
May 1st 2012, 4:33 am
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Dont let it put you off marrying in general Kitty, I know 4 happily married couples amongst all the miserable couples so they do exist sometimes. Mind 2 are relatively newly weds, one of the others is generally horsing into anything yellow skinned when he can so I guess that leaves 1
But when its divorce time then women, as in soon to be ex wives, are just so much better at being evil. They plan and scheme the split whilst poor old hubby just grafts in blissful ignorance and then when the bombshell is dropped, (you know the, I havent met anyone else, I have just fallen out of love with you bollox) then they strike whilst hubby is gutted and weak.
Men must be forewarned and forearmed and whenever they say they havent met anyone else, its a lie.
I know you say you wouldnt be like the above but sadly the chances are you will
I am happily married these days and Mrs Tock is worth more than me cash wise so its happy days. Top Tip. always marry a Dorris with more cash or accessible assets than you have
But when its divorce time then women, as in soon to be ex wives, are just so much better at being evil. They plan and scheme the split whilst poor old hubby just grafts in blissful ignorance and then when the bombshell is dropped, (you know the, I havent met anyone else, I have just fallen out of love with you bollox) then they strike whilst hubby is gutted and weak.
Men must be forewarned and forearmed and whenever they say they havent met anyone else, its a lie.
I know you say you wouldnt be like the above but sadly the chances are you will
I am happily married these days and Mrs Tock is worth more than me cash wise so its happy days. Top Tip. always marry a Dorris with more cash or accessible assets than you have
The word prenup springs to mind though.
May 1st 2012, 5:03 am
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Have a reasonable amount of experience in these matters having gone through the process more than once and learned the hard way.
First off dump your solicitor, chances are you went to a male solicitor. Common action by the majority of men. Big mistake. Male family law solicitors have in my experience been useless ****s who couldnt cut it in the real world and ended up in family law. What you need is a youngish (late 20's) woman before she has had kids and who is thoroughly evil bitch. They exist and the evilness is also kinda sexy which is a nice additional thing to have. This may all sound in jest but my experience shows it to be fully valid. Male and old women family law solicitors just want your cash for doing **** all.
Next is to rid your head of feelings of guilt towards the kids. The witch will happily **** you over now and play on that guilt whilst within a few weeks if not already, someone is already admiring your bedroom decor after drilling the witch. The kids will forgive you for what you are about to do to their mum.
See a good financial advisor now as in within the week and take out the mother of all ******* pensions that takes up 95% of your income. You need to do this before the "full financial disclosure". Once all is settled with the witch then you can dump the pension and enjoy the cash. Tieing the bucks up in a pension stopped one of my ex's getting close to the booty and only wish I had done it with the first. The fact you took out the pension a week before financial disclosure is irrelevant
Do not under any circumstances even think of being financially nice to the witch, do not feel guilty, 5K GBP on an evil bitch of a solicitor will save you plenty in the long run and is cash well spent.
Ignore at your financial peril
First off dump your solicitor, chances are you went to a male solicitor. Common action by the majority of men. Big mistake. Male family law solicitors have in my experience been useless ****s who couldnt cut it in the real world and ended up in family law. What you need is a youngish (late 20's) woman before she has had kids and who is thoroughly evil bitch. They exist and the evilness is also kinda sexy which is a nice additional thing to have. This may all sound in jest but my experience shows it to be fully valid. Male and old women family law solicitors just want your cash for doing **** all.
Next is to rid your head of feelings of guilt towards the kids. The witch will happily **** you over now and play on that guilt whilst within a few weeks if not already, someone is already admiring your bedroom decor after drilling the witch. The kids will forgive you for what you are about to do to their mum.
See a good financial advisor now as in within the week and take out the mother of all ******* pensions that takes up 95% of your income. You need to do this before the "full financial disclosure". Once all is settled with the witch then you can dump the pension and enjoy the cash. Tieing the bucks up in a pension stopped one of my ex's getting close to the booty and only wish I had done it with the first. The fact you took out the pension a week before financial disclosure is irrelevant
Do not under any circumstances even think of being financially nice to the witch, do not feel guilty, 5K GBP on an evil bitch of a solicitor will save you plenty in the long run and is cash well spent.
Ignore at your financial peril
May 1st 2012, 5:06 am
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Tsk. It doesn't work. Pension monies are not exempt from a financial settlement.
Some of you guys are very bitter and misogynistic. Not all women are money grabbers. My ex-husband took plenty of money from me. Although with the attitudes you have towards women I'm not surprised your wives left you. I doubt you were blameless, no one ever is.
On a serious note; marriage isn't always easy. You have to work at it and make an effort. These days many people don't bother.
Some of you guys are very bitter and misogynistic. Not all women are money grabbers. My ex-husband took plenty of money from me. Although with the attitudes you have towards women I'm not surprised your wives left you. I doubt you were blameless, no one ever is.
On a serious note; marriage isn't always easy. You have to work at it and make an effort. These days many people don't bother.
May 1st 2012, 5:12 am
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So, if you have a young scheme that terminates at zero value everyone is a winner, no?
May 1st 2012, 5:12 am
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Have a reasonable amount of experience in these matters having gone through the process more than once and learned the hard way.
First off dump your solicitor, chances are you went to a male solicitor. Common action by the majority of men. Big mistake. Male family law solicitors have in my experience been useless ****s who couldnt cut it in the real world and ended up in family law. What you need is a youngish (late 20's) woman before she has had kids and who is thoroughly evil bitch. They exist and the evilness is also kinda sexy which is a nice additional thing to have. This may all sound in jest but my experience shows it to be fully valid. Male and old women family law solicitors just want your cash for doing **** all.
Next is to rid your head of feelings of guilt towards the kids. The witch will happily **** you over now and play on that guilt whilst within a few weeks if not already, someone is already admiring your bedroom decor after drilling the witch. The kids will forgive you for what you are about to do to their mum.
See a good financial advisor now as in within the week and take out the mother of all ******* pensions that takes up 95% of your income. You need to do this before the "full financial disclosure". Once all is settled with the witch then you can dump the pension and enjoy the cash. Tieing the bucks up in a pension stopped one of my ex's getting close to the booty and only wish I had done it with the first. The fact you took out the pension a week before financial disclosure is irrelevant
Do not under any circumstances even think of being financially nice to the witch, do not feel guilty, 5K GBP on an evil bitch of a solicitor will save you plenty in the long run and is cash well spent.
Ignore at your financial peril
First off dump your solicitor, chances are you went to a male solicitor. Common action by the majority of men. Big mistake. Male family law solicitors have in my experience been useless ****s who couldnt cut it in the real world and ended up in family law. What you need is a youngish (late 20's) woman before she has had kids and who is thoroughly evil bitch. They exist and the evilness is also kinda sexy which is a nice additional thing to have. This may all sound in jest but my experience shows it to be fully valid. Male and old women family law solicitors just want your cash for doing **** all.
Next is to rid your head of feelings of guilt towards the kids. The witch will happily **** you over now and play on that guilt whilst within a few weeks if not already, someone is already admiring your bedroom decor after drilling the witch. The kids will forgive you for what you are about to do to their mum.
See a good financial advisor now as in within the week and take out the mother of all ******* pensions that takes up 95% of your income. You need to do this before the "full financial disclosure". Once all is settled with the witch then you can dump the pension and enjoy the cash. Tieing the bucks up in a pension stopped one of my ex's getting close to the booty and only wish I had done it with the first. The fact you took out the pension a week before financial disclosure is irrelevant
Do not under any circumstances even think of being financially nice to the witch, do not feel guilty, 5K GBP on an evil bitch of a solicitor will save you plenty in the long run and is cash well spent.
Ignore at your financial peril
I know a female Brit in Dubai who does divorce law - two actually and they don't seem very friendly at the best of times so if the opening poster needs a referral feel free to get in touch.
A lot of expats don't realise that they can get divorced almost anywhere - UK divorce law generally favours women so look at your options.
As for speaking to an advisor and getting money away - a yes and no one (I say that as an Advisor). Best done in conjuction with lawyers - I've only helped someone do that once after several long calls with their lawyers. Definately worth looking at though - saved one of my clients a fortune (still lost his house and business to the harpy though)
Tockalosh - I owe you several drinks
May 1st 2012, 5:17 am
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A very dodgy area to advise people to hide money in a legal situation...
May 1st 2012, 6:46 am
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I made the Mistake of getting married, 5 Months later I was on the plane to the ME to get away from her. 5 Years of marriage cost me everything I had worked for in 15 years, 4 bed detached house and everything in it and my Porsche Cayenne Turbo.........
And people think its just the Flippers & Chinese after your money.............
I actually signed everything over to her without a fight as I couldn't be arsed with getting a solicitor and pissing about. Figured at 35 I have another 17 years to get it back and be happier........
And people think its just the Flippers & Chinese after your money.............
I actually signed everything over to her without a fight as I couldn't be arsed with getting a solicitor and pissing about. Figured at 35 I have another 17 years to get it back and be happier........
May 1st 2012, 7:15 am
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I made the Mistake of getting married, 5 Months later I was on the plane to the ME to get away from her. 5 Years of marriage cost me everything I had worked for in 15 years, 4 bed detached house and everything in it and my Porsche Cayenne Turbo.........
And people think its just the Flippers & Chinese after your money.............
I actually signed everything over to her without a fight as I couldn't be arsed with getting a solicitor and pissing about. Figured at 35 I have another 17 years to get it back and be happier........
And people think its just the Flippers & Chinese after your money.............
I actually signed everything over to her without a fight as I couldn't be arsed with getting a solicitor and pissing about. Figured at 35 I have another 17 years to get it back and be happier........
Kuwait man - if the pension thing works then dive right in with the caveat that you find your own means of making sure that your kids don't suffer.
May 1st 2012, 7:32 am
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Its about utilizing your bucks efficiently and everything being totally above board from a legal perspective. Only the ethics of doing so could be challenged by the bra burners.
Anyway I think I mentioned getting good legal and financial advice as things may have changed since my divorces. So many guys just give up and give in during divorces when they should fight.
Whilst you and Alex appear to have been very giving during your divorces I think you will find that most blokes end up getting shafted unfairly hence the sentiment from myself and some other posters.
Fault should not come into a divorce other than for the grounds; beyond that it should be a fair agreement but rarely is it so
May 1st 2012, 7:59 am
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Well thanks Oyibo, I do think I have missed my vocation in life and should have become a Divorce manager. Just need to team up with the afore mentioned evil woman solicitor. Could specialize in expat divorces for a % and make a killing saving husbands from themselves.
Mind I could really pimp myself and sell my services to evil wives about to the dirty and help them nail poor old hubby whilst he is on his chin strap. Nah wait a minute, that market is flooded already
S'funny that I start my Bachelor of Laws in October so who knows, one day it may happen
Mind I could really pimp myself and sell my services to evil wives about to the dirty and help them nail poor old hubby whilst he is on his chin strap. Nah wait a minute, that market is flooded already
S'funny that I start my Bachelor of Laws in October so who knows, one day it may happen
So you are going to be that male divorce laywer??? I have to say I do agree with your view of male divorce lawyers - have spent 20 odd years as a lawyer (not a divorce lawyer thank the lord!) and all the male ones are weak and slightly pathetic - definitely go see a woman!
May 1st 2012, 10:39 am
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May 1st 2012, 11:37 am
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So you are going to be that male divorce laywer??? I have to say I do agree with your view of male divorce lawyers - have spent 20 odd years as a lawyer (not a divorce lawyer thank the lord!) and all the male ones are weak and slightly pathetic - definitely go see a woman!
On a separate note and one for our legal friends on the bored. I hadnt thought about divorcing whilst out here in the Gulf as it must be more fairer to men here. If the witch starts a divorce in the UK then can KuwaitiDave start one from say Kuwait or even better Saudi ?
May 1st 2012, 11:42 am
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Years ago when my ex started making noises about needing maintenance "to keep him in the style to which he was accustomed" I showed him my application to Medicin Sans Frontier and informed him he was welcome to half of $50 a month 