Happiness
Dec 20th 2009, 11:47 pm
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Dec 20th 2009, 11:51 pm
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Re: Happiness
He made you unhappy, posted some absolute shite on BE including his little hissy fit & tantrummed off like the baby he clearly is!
Have some frickin backbone & self-respect woman!
Dec 20th 2009, 11:54 pm
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Dec 20th 2009, 11:56 pm
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Re: Happiness
Its the backbone that is making me apologise. He really does deserve it, trust me.
Dec 20th 2009, 11:59 pm
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Dec 21st 2009, 12:10 am
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Re: Happiness
but I agree, Saturday was public, hence the apology is too 
Dec 21st 2009, 12:11 am
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Re: Happiness
For my granda happiness was hiding in his shed sitting on an old box lighting up his woodbines. As my gran hated smoking and used to give him a hard time lol.
I was speaking to an old lady recently who at 90 has the startings of demantia, and for her happiness is remembering her childhood and young life when she was able to do as she pleased. Now she is happy to hear of 'young people' having an adventure.
I asked my 7 year old what makes him happy and he simply said, having a mam and dad who love him despite him not being perfect.
Mandy
I was speaking to an old lady recently who at 90 has the startings of demantia, and for her happiness is remembering her childhood and young life when she was able to do as she pleased. Now she is happy to hear of 'young people' having an adventure.
I asked my 7 year old what makes him happy and he simply said, having a mam and dad who love him despite him not being perfect.
Mandy
Dec 21st 2009, 12:12 am
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Dec 21st 2009, 9:16 am
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Re: Happiness
Bernie's your 'wingman'.... ??? Perhaps there's the root of the problem, Poll.
Dec 21st 2009, 9:31 am
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Re: Happiness
As you say - people aren't happy all the time. If happiness and sadness are at each end of a sliding scale, then everyone will be somewhere in between, and constantly moving backwards and forwards.
Everyone is striving to get to the happy end of the scale, but most people don't know how. In my opinion, the key to being happy is in recognizing that you don't need to set a goal or an objective in life. You don't need to have a path to discover, or an achievement to strive for.
It is the simple things that make us happy. Having a warm safe house to live in. Eating nice foods (or even, simply eating enough food to stave off hunger). Having good friends to laugh with and confide in.
I would suggest that most people who feel "contented" but not "happy" simply need to think about the three things above, and also, recognize that they can't be happy 100% of the time, they are on the same sliding scale as the rest of us.
There are always going to be exceptions to the rule.... in rare cases you will find people who are perfectly happy leading their lives in solitude, or people homeless people who are perfectly happy to sleep on the streets. But these are rare exceptions.
Everyone is striving to get to the happy end of the scale, but most people don't know how. In my opinion, the key to being happy is in recognizing that you don't need to set a goal or an objective in life. You don't need to have a path to discover, or an achievement to strive for.
It is the simple things that make us happy. Having a warm safe house to live in. Eating nice foods (or even, simply eating enough food to stave off hunger). Having good friends to laugh with and confide in.
I would suggest that most people who feel "contented" but not "happy" simply need to think about the three things above, and also, recognize that they can't be happy 100% of the time, they are on the same sliding scale as the rest of us.
There are always going to be exceptions to the rule.... in rare cases you will find people who are perfectly happy leading their lives in solitude, or people homeless people who are perfectly happy to sleep on the streets. But these are rare exceptions.
Dec 21st 2009, 9:37 am
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Re: Happiness
As you say - people aren't happy all the time. If happiness and sadness are at each end of a sliding scale, then everyone will be somewhere in between, and constantly moving backwards and forwards.
Everyone is striving to get to the happy end of the scale, but most people don't know how. In my opinion, the key to being happy is in recognizing that you don't need to set a goal or an objective in life. You don't need to have a path to discover, or an achievement to strive for.
It is the simple things that make us happy. Having a warm safe house to live in. Eating nice foods (or even, simply eating enough food to stave off hunger). Having good friends to laugh with and confide in.
I would suggest that most people who feel "contented" but not "happy" simply need to think about the three things above, and also, recognize that they can't be happy 100% of the time, they are on the same sliding scale as the rest of us.
There are always going to be exceptions to the rule.... in rare cases you will find people who are perfectly happy leading their lives in solitude, or people homeless people who are perfectly happy to sleep on the streets. But these are rare exceptions.
Everyone is striving to get to the happy end of the scale, but most people don't know how. In my opinion, the key to being happy is in recognizing that you don't need to set a goal or an objective in life. You don't need to have a path to discover, or an achievement to strive for.
It is the simple things that make us happy. Having a warm safe house to live in. Eating nice foods (or even, simply eating enough food to stave off hunger). Having good friends to laugh with and confide in.
I would suggest that most people who feel "contented" but not "happy" simply need to think about the three things above, and also, recognize that they can't be happy 100% of the time, they are on the same sliding scale as the rest of us.
There are always going to be exceptions to the rule.... in rare cases you will find people who are perfectly happy leading their lives in solitude, or people homeless people who are perfectly happy to sleep on the streets. But these are rare exceptions.
Are they? Everyone?
I can't see it somehow.
Dec 21st 2009, 9:49 am
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Re: Happiness
I don't believe that is really true. I reckon you are trying to fill your life with more happy moments* than sad ones. I know I am. So is practically everyone else on this planet.
* not this kind of Happy Moment, which can be found around SE Qld and can be, lets just say, a little painful to handle.
* not this kind of Happy Moment, which can be found around SE Qld and can be, lets just say, a little painful to handle.
