View Poll Results: Would you do the same again?
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Would you do it again?
Nov 28th 2011, 5:49 am
#121
I have a comma problem
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Re: Would you do it again?
However, I don't wish to leave my wife so I shall have to learn to handle it, I suppose.
Nov 28th 2011, 5:58 am
#122
I love my brick!
Joined: May 2007
Location: Peachy
Posts: 9,304
Re: Would you do it again?
Your (other) prev. post summarised a thought-process regarding higher education which I completely agree with (I'm familiar with what I've heard called the "curse of competancy").
Absolutely not.
Another question:
What can you do about it when American society does not value "ordinary"?
Absolutely not.
Another question:
What can you do about it when American society does not value "ordinary"?
Anyone can achieve the American Dream. But not everyone.
Nov 28th 2011, 6:23 am
#124
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Re: Would you do it again?
I said "No" because with the exception of the odd week here and there I've not seen my family for 15 years.
As I reflect back, for me, moving anywhere is not worth giving family up for.
As I reflect back, for me, moving anywhere is not worth giving family up for.
Nov 28th 2011, 6:34 am
#125
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Location: Washington State
Posts: 248
Re: Would you do it again?
Just skimming through the replies. It seems quite a few of us moved to the US for love. Wonder if a high number of ex-pats, who do regret moving to the US, do so because they were in a highly emotive state at the time. As opposed to making the decision in any logical way. (I don't think love makes us logical, but some may disagree)
I am here because my husband is, not because I want to be. In my darkest hours I find myself resenting my husband because of this and blaming him for my unhappiness. Like many others my homesickness comes in waves and most of the time I can put up with it, but this time of year almost kills me with longing for home.
I have made my husband promise he won't bury me here, having made sure I am dead of course
I am here because my husband is, not because I want to be. In my darkest hours I find myself resenting my husband because of this and blaming him for my unhappiness. Like many others my homesickness comes in waves and most of the time I can put up with it, but this time of year almost kills me with longing for home.
I have made my husband promise he won't bury me here, having made sure I am dead of course
Nov 28th 2011, 6:52 am
#126
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Location: MA, USA
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Re: Would you do it again?
Nov 28th 2011, 6:56 am
#127
I have a comma problem
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Nov 28th 2011, 7:01 am
#128
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Re: Would you do it again?
I agree that there are issues but there are 309 million people in the US and, as I recall, the 60 million number was bandied about during the health care debate and was somewhat questionable. But even if it is accurate I think I would prefer to speak to the other 249 million as they are likely to be a little more upbeat and positive.
It is a worry.
Not having to worry about healthcare costs would be a huge weight off ones shoulders and would massively improve outlook on life as well as quality of living.
We do have "good" insurance. It's just not good enough...costs a wedge too. We've also been on the flip side, when we have exceptional insurance for peanuts, but getting laid off really changes the quality of life far more here than it ever did in blighty.
I'm probably a little extra down at the moment as the missus has a cousin who had to wait 12 weeks to see her doctor for some tests, the results, well leukemia would be her best option of the possible out comes. She's got to wait another 2 months to see a specialist. They do have very good medical insurance, but are up in Maine...she'll be coming down to Boston for extra tests as it'll be quicker, but they can't really afford the out of network costs.
Nov 28th 2011, 7:10 am
#129
Life goes on.
Joined: Dec 2006
Location: Texas
Posts: 23,661
Re: Would you do it again?
That's the British way, Pops, my dear - keep quiet if you're happy, but whinge very loudly, if you're not.
Nov 28th 2011, 7:17 am
#130
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Re: Would you do it again?
But, "Live free or Die" is their motto
Nov 28th 2011, 7:21 am
#131
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Re: Would you do it again?
More often than not, just as a convenient filter to bin applications from the web application process though.
Nov 28th 2011, 9:03 am
#133
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Re: Would you do it again?
I dunno about your Mrs, but mine is more comfortable with big decisions if they aren't immediate. So after a while, she got used to the idea, got to liking it and has now committed to it.
It has certainly been a massive weight off my mind to actually know that there will be a time to return, rather than "well, maybe" which was what it was for many years.
Nov 28th 2011, 9:08 am
#134
I have a comma problem
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Re: Would you do it again?
It took years for my Mrs to see the light and now she's agreed that since I've lived in her country for our time together, she will reciprocate when we "stop work now" (term borrowed somewhat from Laura Solon) and therefore she will live in England for the rest of it.
I dunno about your Mrs, but mine is more comfortable with big decisions if they aren't immediate. So after a while, she got used to the idea, got to liking it and has now committed to it.
It has certainly been a massive weight off my mind to actually know that there will be a time to return, rather than "well, maybe" which was what it was for many years.
I dunno about your Mrs, but mine is more comfortable with big decisions if they aren't immediate. So after a while, she got used to the idea, got to liking it and has now committed to it.
It has certainly been a massive weight off my mind to actually know that there will be a time to return, rather than "well, maybe" which was what it was for many years.
Nov 28th 2011, 9:59 am
#135
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Re: Would you do it again?
It took years for my Mrs to see the light and now she's agreed that since I've lived in her country for our time together, she will reciprocate when we "stop work now" (term borrowed somewhat from Laura Solon) and therefore she will live in England for the rest of it.
I dunno about your Mrs, but mine is more comfortable with big decisions if they aren't immediate. So after a while, she got used to the idea, got to liking it and has now committed to it.
It has certainly been a massive weight off my mind to actually know that there will be a time to return, rather than "well, maybe" which was what it was for many years.
I dunno about your Mrs, but mine is more comfortable with big decisions if they aren't immediate. So after a while, she got used to the idea, got to liking it and has now committed to it.
It has certainly been a massive weight off my mind to actually know that there will be a time to return, rather than "well, maybe" which was what it was for many years.
