I never intended to not like it here, I just don't.

However, I don't wish to leave my wife so I shall have to learn to handle it, I suppose.

I like to sum it up like this:

Anyone can achieve the American Dream. But not everyone.

Is her mind totally closed to moving to NI?

I said "No" because with the exception of the odd week here and there I've not seen my family for 15 years.

As I reflect back, for me, moving anywhere is not worth giving family up for.

Just skimming through the replies. It seems quite a few of us moved to the US for love. Wonder if a high number of ex-pats, who do regret moving to the US, do so because they were in a highly emotive state at the time. As opposed to making the decision in any logical way. (I don't think love makes us logical, but some may disagree)
I am here because my husband is, not because I want to be. In my darkest hours I find myself resenting my husband because of this and blaming him for my unhappiness. Like many others my homesickness comes in waves and most of the time I can put up with it, but this time of year almost kills me with longing for home.
I have made my husband promise he won't bury me here, having made sure I am dead of course

Doing it again, or doing it again but differently, there's no way to tell...and doing it again for the sake of it or family is different to loving it

I wouldn't say 100%, but she doesn't want to at the moment, even though we did talk about it in the beginning. Maybe in the future, some day.

I'm just being over-dramatic I'm sure.

Good chunk on top of that 60M that are under insured.

It is a worry.

Not having to worry about healthcare costs would be a huge weight off ones shoulders and would massively improve outlook on life as well as quality of living.

We do have "good" insurance. It's just not good enough...costs a wedge too. We've also been on the flip side, when we have exceptional insurance for peanuts, but getting laid off really changes the quality of life far more here than it ever did in blighty.

I'm probably a little extra down at the moment as the missus has a cousin who had to wait 12 weeks to see her doctor for some tests, the results, well leukemia would be her best option of the possible out comes. She's got to wait another 2 months to see a specialist. They do have very good medical insurance, but are up in Maine...she'll be coming down to Boston for extra tests as it'll be quicker, but they can't really afford the out of network costs.

That's the British way, Pops, my dear - keep quiet if you're happy, but whinge very loudly, if you're not.

It is optional in NH....which is why anyone living in MA/ME that are near the border have higher rates.

But, "Live free or Die" is their motto

Not in my neck of the woods it isn't...even most admin positions require a degree, usually a MBA down here.

More often than not, just as a convenient filter to bin applications from the web application process though.

That's such a true statement!

It took years for my Mrs to see the light and now she's agreed that since I've lived in her country for our time together, she will reciprocate when we "stop work now" (term borrowed somewhat from Laura Solon) and therefore she will live in England for the rest of it.

I dunno about your Mrs, but mine is more comfortable with big decisions if they aren't immediate. So after a while, she got used to the idea, got to liking it and has now committed to it.

It has certainly been a massive weight off my mind to actually know that there will be a time to return, rather than "well, maybe" which was what it was for many years.

We shall see. Perhaps, over time mine will warm up to the idea as well.

I moved this way, as it seemed to make more sense for the none pregnant person to move. We both imagined that at some time we would move the other way; but the longer I am here, the more unlikely it seems. Selling the house and sorting out a life at a distance, both needing work, sorting out a visa the other way around; I have a feeling it just will not happen. I have a feeling that my missus wishes we had done it the other way around, as she is an anglophile.