Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
Jun 15th 2008, 1:36 am
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Jun 15th 2008, 7:58 am
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
In the UK these days I would say it's the norm to have a card inserted inside the invitation with details of your wedding list(s).
People (usually older relatives) who don't like the idea of list will just get you what they want anyway.
Where and when are you getting married?
People (usually older relatives) who don't like the idea of list will just get you what they want anyway.
Where and when are you getting married?
Jun 15th 2008, 9:11 am
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
Getting married in Gatlinburg, TN on the 19th of July. 
Jun 15th 2008, 10:25 am
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
In the UK these days I would say it's the norm to have a card inserted inside the invitation with details of your wedding list(s).
People (usually older relatives) who don't like the idea of list will just get you what they want anyway.
Where and when are you getting married?
People (usually older relatives) who don't like the idea of list will just get you what they want anyway.
Where and when are you getting married?
Jun 15th 2008, 2:07 pm
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
No, just going there for the wedding and the honeymoon. First place we went together - even managed to book the same cabin - lovely times. Figured it was a fun place for people to come to from the UK and make a bit of a holiday out of it too. Most are gonna head off into the Appalachians a day or two after the wedding.
We'll be living in Hoover, AL.
We'll be living in Hoover, AL.
Jun 15th 2008, 2:48 pm
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
This reminds me to clarify my earlier point. It is not customary to include all of the details of the bridal registry, but just to identify where you are registered. It is expected that the guests will either get the details on their own or ignore it.
Jun 15th 2008, 4:28 pm
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
Getting married on the 19th of July and the wife signed us up for a wedding list yesterday with Bed Bath and Beyond. Pretty useful for us setting up home.
But how do you tell people about it?
Do you announce it to your guests?
Do you mention it in a seperate sheet included in with the wedding invites?
How about friends and family who haven't been invited?
Do you wait to be asked by people and then tell them about it?
Do the "rules" on this differ between the UK and the US?
I generally hate asking for things, but I also appreciate people do like to buy things for their nearest and dearest when they are getting married, and there is the chance people could be insulted if not included when there is a wedding list.
What say y'all?
But how do you tell people about it?
Do you announce it to your guests?
Do you mention it in a seperate sheet included in with the wedding invites?
How about friends and family who haven't been invited?
Do you wait to be asked by people and then tell them about it?
Do the "rules" on this differ between the UK and the US?
I generally hate asking for things, but I also appreciate people do like to buy things for their nearest and dearest when they are getting married, and there is the chance people could be insulted if not included when there is a wedding list.
What say y'all?
A card is put in the wedding invitation. Done all the time.
Jun 15th 2008, 4:57 pm
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
i prefer to be told in the invite if there is a list.
I have also receieved a little envelope in the card with a poem on. The poem explained they would prefer cash as they already had toasters etc - and if people wanted to give something (and it was optional) then you put it in the envelope and pinned it to a money tree they had in the venue. (basically a branch sprayed gold and planted in a tub). Felt a bit odd doing it that way but it was what they wanted!
I have also receieved a little envelope in the card with a poem on. The poem explained they would prefer cash as they already had toasters etc - and if people wanted to give something (and it was optional) then you put it in the envelope and pinned it to a money tree they had in the venue. (basically a branch sprayed gold and planted in a tub). Felt a bit odd doing it that way but it was what they wanted!
People will ask where a couple is registered and word will get out.
Jun 15th 2008, 5:00 pm
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
I agree Uga! I'm surprised at how many people are recommending including this info in the invitation - I've always been taught this was an absolute no.
Jun 15th 2008, 5:15 pm
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
I've been to two wedding since we've lived here, one had the registry info in with the invitation and one didn't. I don' think there's anything wrong in putting it in with the invitation personally.
Jun 15th 2008, 5:25 pm
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
might depend on where you are in the USA - my Mrs says it's not the done thing in the south
Jun 15th 2008, 5:26 pm
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Re: Wedding List - what's the ettiquette?
I've been to a ton of weddings since then and I think pretty much of all of them had some kind of info in the invite about where they had a list registered.
I've only been to one wedding in the USA where I was a bridesmaid and my husband was a groomsman, I was a bit taken aback to discover that we were both expected to pay for our respective outfits (my husband had to hire a kilt), which is the complete opposite to the UK where the bride/groom would pay for it.