How often do you visit the U.K
Jan 6th 2014, 6:07 pm
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Jan 6th 2014, 7:03 pm
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Jan 6th 2014, 7:08 pm
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Re: How often do you visit the U.K
Jan 6th 2014, 7:10 pm
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Re: How often do you visit the U.K
I had a break of about three and a half years of no visits and thought I was quite content. When I did visit I was totally unprepared for the feeling of 'rightness' about the place and how much I missed it. Hit me like a ton of bricks. Sometimes it's better not to open that can of worms...
Jan 6th 2014, 9:03 pm
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Birmingham area. We're not natives but lived there before we moved here.
Probably not 
Thanks.
I think son does feel abandoned too but hasn't directly accused us - just referred to it as 'a pain in the arse.'
Sorry for diverting the thread.
Thanks. I think son does feel abandoned too but hasn't directly accused us - just referred to it as 'a pain in the arse.'Sorry for diverting the thread.
Jan 6th 2014, 11:39 pm
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That's how I felt until I went back for a quick visit... Threw me for six how I reacted emotionally.
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Jan 6th 2014, 11:46 pm
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Jan 6th 2014, 11:53 pm
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Re: How often do you visit the U.K
In the last 12 months I went back three times. Once to see family. Once to say goodbye to my grandmother who had terminal cancer. Once for her funeral.
Usually though it would be once every couple of years. We try to take the children over every year or two to see family and remind them where they're partly from.
I do sort of like going. I can go round Tesco and shop without even thinking about it. But the traffic, teeny overpriced houses, sullen service, weather and cost of everything make me glad to leave.
I'm thinking of going this year but instead of visiting family I would like to go to visit old haunts in and around Bath, and have family come and visit me there.
Usually though it would be once every couple of years. We try to take the children over every year or two to see family and remind them where they're partly from.
I do sort of like going. I can go round Tesco and shop without even thinking about it. But the traffic, teeny overpriced houses, sullen service, weather and cost of everything make me glad to leave.
I'm thinking of going this year but instead of visiting family I would like to go to visit old haunts in and around Bath, and have family come and visit me there.
Jan 8th 2014, 12:24 pm
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Re: How often do you visit the U.K
BTDT, and yes, not easy at all. But once kids hit a certain age or stage they make up their own minds. With one in each country, you'll be no stranger to airlines, and it will work out.
Jan 8th 2014, 12:43 pm
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I'm feeling particularly cut off from family right now and if I could get two weeks off work I think I'd go be a burden on them for a bit 
I can't though.
I can't though.
Jan 8th 2014, 12:45 pm
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Re: How often do you visit the U.K
With one child living four hundred miles away (Cape Cod) and the other 3,500 miles away (Cambridge, England) I don't think we feel much difference in the proximity/remoteness of either. Possibly would have been different back in the 1970s or earlier, when transatlantic phone calls were an expensive and rare occurrence. With him coming to the US at least once a year, and us going over there, not much difference in annual number of visits or time together between the two children.
Jan 9th 2014, 4:54 am
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Re: How often do you visit the U.K
With one child living four hundred miles away (Cape Cod) and the other 3,500 miles away (Cambridge, England) I don't think we feel much difference in the proximity/remoteness of either. Possibly would have been different back in the 1970s or earlier, when transatlantic phone calls were an expensive and rare occurrence. With him coming to the US at least once a year, and us going over there, not much difference in annual number of visits or time together between the two children.
Jan 9th 2014, 2:00 pm
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With one child living four hundred miles away (Cape Cod) and the other 3,500 miles away (Cambridge, England) I don't think we feel much difference in the proximity/remoteness of either. Possibly would have been different back in the 1970s or earlier, when transatlantic phone calls were an expensive and rare occurrence. With him coming to the US at least once a year, and us going over there, not much difference in annual number of visits or time together between the two children.
It's not a tragedy, and can be a positive part of growing up for the child and an equally positive lesson in letting go for the parent... Nonetheless, it's a wrench at first.
Jan 9th 2014, 3:11 pm
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Re: How often do you visit the U.K
My mum visits me every year for 6 weeks, during which we spend about 4 hours a day together actually 'interacting' - 6 x 7 x 4 = 168 hours per year. My brother, who lives in the UK, visits my mum every 2 weeks for an afternoon - about 5 hours. 26 x 5 = 130 hours per year. Once I figured that out, I felt a lot less guilty about living over here
Jan 9th 2014, 3:17 pm
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Short but frequent interaction is also a lot easier on all parties.