No... im Not having a laugh !

Your sensitivity is so touching. Perhaps it would be best if you refrained from posting on this thread. While you are entitled to an opinion, that opinion when it is negative and causes the OP to be cast in a negative light is not helpful. Because you would do something one way doesn't mean the world has to respond in the same manner.

Rete
Super Mod

Wrong....Not sensitive , just keeping it real..positive & negative

You are correct though... I am like other member's who are entitled to an opinion Good / bad or indifferent...or this is not a Forum?


Sometimes you got to be cruel to be kind... that's Life..

There's also no need for you to continue to post further; have a review of the site rules instead.
http://britishexpats.com/site-rules/
Forum Usage Guidelines - READ BEFORE POSTING!

You are not going to influence the OP's decision, your answer is incomplete, and a moderator has asked you reel it in. This is a final request. If you feel the need to discuss it further, please PM.

I would just like to take this opportunity to thank most people on this forum, i have decided to return to the UK next week.
I know the pain will lessen given time, even though right now it feels that it wont, thank you again expats for giving wonderful advice and a great source of comfort to me over these last awful days.
Muni

Hope that extends to those of us who aren't expats

I'm sorry that you have had to have your dreams crushed like this. If it is any consolation, your judgment was sound for it was based on what you saw and heard. Continue to trust yourself although I know you will be cautious with your heart in the future.

Wishing you a long and loving life.

Rete

I know how difficult a decision this was for you to make. I admire your courage and strength - an example for us all. Best wishes for your future.

Ian

A few words of advice, Muni

Before you head back to the UK, remember you are a permanent resident, albeit a conditional one. Before you leave the US, why not spend the money, if you have it, and get a re-entry permit via form I-131. You need only apply for it and go for biometrics and ask for it to be delivered to the US Consulate in London.

Sometime in the future (while the permit and the status is still valid) you might decide to return to the US to try living in a different part of the country. Take whatever documentation you have there at the house to reinforce/prove your good faith marriage and the reasons why you are being divorced against your wishes. Bring all your past immigration paperwork with you as well.

If at all possible, keep a bank account in the US, i.e. a small savings account with just a few hundred in it and from time to time add a bit here and there. It can be used as proof that you weren't abandoning your US PR status.

Just some thoughts to ponder.

I've read this post in the background, I guess we've all come across someone similar, fortunately when I did I wasn't thousands of miles from friends and family!

What a very courageous lady, I admire your strength. I truly hope things work out for you.

Good luck.

Tracey, xxx

Very best wishes Muni - so sorry that you are having to go through this. I too think it's a sensible and courageous decision you have come to. Good luck on your new journey, may it bring you much happiness

He actually wants me to leave the country, there is no point in staying it is far too painful for me .
If i thought there was a chance i would stay and give it a go, but he has made it clear he wont change his mind.
So i feel i should be with my family and friends who will give me the support i really,really need now
Muni

I don't blame you at all, I think if I were in your shoes I'd do the same thing. Cut my losses, go back home to family and friends and security, and let time heal.

All the best to you.

Rene

Good for you, I think you are doing the right thing! The arsehole will get what he deserves sooner or later! Good luck

m,

Of course he wants you to leave, he's concerned about his obligations under I-864.

You should make the choice that'r right for you, not him, and it sounds as though you have. But do consider the suggestion that Rete made with respect to a re-entry permit, it keeps your options open for a while, and who knows what the future may bring.

Good luck and best wishes,
JEff

She won't have time to do the required biometrics for a re-entry permit if she's leaving next week.