IMHO... he's playing Mind Games

Thanks everyone
Feeling totally knackered with all this,i am seriously going to try and just chill out watch a movie open some wine and try very hard to relax.

May I suggest that you call the counsellor and confirm that an appointment has, in fact, been scheduled... because 1) having a friend tell you about it doesn't bode well for the truth; and 2) this could simply be a ploy to get you out of the house at a specific time.

May I add that I have seen this sort of behavior before - and from what you've written, it sounds a lot like he suffers from cyclothymia bipolar disorder.

Ian

My thoughts as well. Also add in the long nights of winter in Alaska and you have an intensifying denominator.

At some stage soon, it would be sensible to consider the legal aspects to protect yourself as much as possible. You have 2 areas of legal concern: the marriage and your immigration status.


I agree with you, BTW -- American washers suck.

My wife, Marian, doesn't...

Been down the same road matey, he only went for about 3 days and with no reason what so ever, we are divorced now I could not take his mood swings and unstable behavior.
I was devastated at the time I was so in love with him I think I had a mini break down, but now that I look back I just smile to myself and think


My ex was not diagnosed but I think he was a manic depressant or Bi-Polar

No one needs to live with someone that they constantly feel like they are living on the edge, waiting for the next outbreak, and sweetie if he is bad mouthing you to family and friends he is not worth a toss.

That's too bad. Perhaps you need to try a new approach.

Regards, JEff

So do their f**kin vacum cleaners ................ Oh wait ! they are supposed to.

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Dear Muni, what an awful situation to be in. As you've probably guessed by now, you seem to be married to a nutter. However, I would turn up to the counselling appointment. It could be that he has realised his irrational behaviour has gone a bit too far, so he feels the need for a 3rd party intervention. I do not believe that it was just the washing machine that kicked this episode off. He obviously has more issues that he hasn't wanted to talk about. I hope you can get this sorted out, but I would keep an account of this odd behaviour, as others have said here,it could be a taste of what is to come. Just remember no matter what, you'll survive and you'll be fine. Screw him! god bless ya darlin!

Muni...... very sorry to hear about your situation.... it sucks!

So.... let me get it right..... he's made an appointment for you both to go to counselling.... but....
He's taken your only car, and left you no money!
How does he expect you to get to this counselling session??

From one Yorkie to another...... not only does he sound mentally unstable.... but totally thoughtless too!
You're probably better off without him.... but...
If you like life in the US, you can finish the immigration process without him....
your choice!!

Take your time, don't make any hasty decisions. Whatever you decide, I wish you the very best!

Thank you everyone, my husband has just informed me by text that he wants a divorce and has offered to pay for my belongings and flight back, i need to get some legal aid somehow as i have no money. and of course the house should be sold and the profits split but i think he expects me to walk away and leave the house for him,although he bought the house with his money.
I dont want this to happen as i love him still but he is adamant

Hi muni

So sorry to hear this, but I can't help feeling that if he can't face you to tell you these things, you need to look beyond the love you still feel for him, and figure out what's best for your future life. My guess is that it won't include him, if you look at things realistically.

Not sure what else to say, apart from that I've been through a divorce where my wife told me she wanted it to end. You will get over it, honestly, even though it feels like you never will.

As far as getting legal aid, if you're really on your uppers, the Catholic church and others will offer free advice in some cases. Here is a list to start with: http://www.justice.gov/eoir/probono/freelglchtFL.htm

Good luck, and stick around here: it's a very supportive group...

Nettie