Hi Folks
This is probably in the wrong forum, but having only just moved over here and married 6months, my husband has walked out over a week ago.
He has no intentions of returning wont speak to me and i am a wreck, normally i am such a strong person but i feel so alone right now.
I cannot believe this has happened, this stemmed from a tiff over the friggin washing machine!!!!!!!! how bloody crazy is that.
The man i loved who has always treated me so wonderfully doesnt want to know and i am devestated.
I just cant figure out why he's done this, sorry for this rant i dont want answers just that i have always loved the expats forum and the help you gave in the past was tremendous. Just a mess right now.
He has took the car and left me with nothing basically, so its difficult to get around we live in quite a rural area.
And we are middle aged he is 54 and i am 47 but i cant understand how his behaviour over something so trivial has come to this

I'm sorry this happened. You haven't heard from him in over a week? Did you call the police? I don't suppose you have a plan yet....

If you have immigration questions, we can surely help you with that, too. What visa did you come over on?

Rene

Thank you i came over on a k1 have just nicely got my Green Card, so am a Permanent resident for the next 2 years.
My husband will only communicate by text message and its not very friendly, i cant believe a man of his age would resort to such measures.
He has bad mouthed me to most of our friends so basically i feel very much alone apart from one good friend but she lives some distance away.
I am so heartbroken i thought he was the man of my dreams and to do something like this has hurt me so deeply.

I am sorry this happened to you, I am sure it is quite hurtful. I only hope that gets better for you somehow.

Sonny

muni,

I'm truly sorry for what's going on with you. However, it's out of God's Mercy that sadness never lasts forever, right? When my father passed away, i thought it was the end of the world for me...but as i mentioned, its a certain amount of time that passes and life moves on. You need to also think about your future, right? Specifically, your immigration ordeal. It's in your favor that you already received your greencard (there's really nothing you can do if entering on K-1 witout applying for adjustment of status). Sooner or later you'll need to remove conditions on your PR. You'll need to have enough evidence that you were married for the right reasons.

I truly pray that whatever is going on with you is simply a phase, and God Willing everything will go back on track. Always keep in mind, however, that regardless of your marital plans, conditions will need to be lifted. And this can be done whether or not you're still married. I know this is the least of your priorities at the moment, but try to collect as much evidence as you can that establishes grounds for a bonafide relationship.

Thank you for your kind words, right now i am not sure if i will stay in the states or return to the UK.
My emotions are all over the place right now.

oh muni, I'm so sorry to read this.
Can I suggest, just sit tight for now. Are you still up in Alaska?

Maybe a little posting and reading in the US & Trailer Park forums will help you get your head straight.
It's hard to understand why someone would act like he is.
Just remember, you don't have to make any permanent decisions just now.

Yes i am still in Alaska, but am so emotional right now that i am in floods of tears i know i need to get a grip, but i find that hard to do at the moment.
My husband has booked a counseling appointment for the end of next week and has asked me to go with him, of course i said yes but he got a friend of his to ask me.
He refuses to speak to me and has left me with no money up to now i am okay but when what bit i have runs out i will have nothing.
He has stated to other people that he doesnt know if he will be back.
So i am not sure if going to the counseling session will help in anyway.
Its almost like he has already made up his mind.
I really appreciate everyones kind words

Sorry to read such a sad post but i really Don't think this is over a dam washing machine...
There must be more to this than you or him are letting onto...

I hope you both get this sorted soon....

Yep this is whats so bloody nutty about the whole thing, but obviously there is other issues that my husband is not discussing, and i havent a clue what they are.
Seriously we had a great relationship, yes we occasionally had our ups and downs but nothing serious and we always communicated.
I am totally in the dark all i can think of is that maybe i didnt know my husband as well as i thought i did

The man has obviously got something wrong with him, at such an early stage of your marriage I sugest you get what evr funds you can and get back home to the UK asap and let him know you are stronger than he thinks.

If he is willing to throw the marriage away over a ****** washer/dryer then leave him before it's too late.

I know I may sound blunt but if he is willing to hurt you this way he is not worth worrying about.

Yes i think you are right and am beginning to think he is perhaps mentally unstable and this is just the beginning.But of course you dont immediately stop loving someone, but who knows what else he may do in the future.

Also the thing is we have just bought a new house, so obviously we need to sort out the house and sell it, not that we will profit very much,I dont think he will be co-operative about the selling of the house though, but who the hell knows.
Thanks everyone for your support from a very sad,pissed off Yorkshire Gal
Muni

Move back to the Uk?
Well...yep that would be a easier way to deal with the problem,, But won't solve it.....as maybe that's what he wants for her to go away...

I would stay just to piss him off....

Give the guy time and see if he matures somehow...and if he do....then good.....but don't let him be a titty baby 2 many times as this could be a mental thing he's doing to you....playing with ya head sort of deal...
and if you see a pattern of mind games......then run....cas it will get worse

I dont expect you to stop loving him or forget him so easily but you need to be with friends and family and not alone.
Sue him for everything you can asap and get your share of the house etc.

You never know such actions may shock him back into reality.