It is to the lawyers.

O.P hasn't been married a strawberry season, why can't she just leave the guy with her suitcase she proberly only brought with her and call it a day...

We have been together 2years and married 6months granted its not a huge amount of time, but his behavior is now starting to really piss me off and its gone from bad to worse, my choice i know but i gave up my job etc in the UK to come here.
I believe he still has responsibilities due to the affidavit of support, and yes i intend to return home but when i feel ready and have all my belongings together, not when he says i should go.
Thanks everyone for your support, as for getting a lawyer i am aware there is no point, but to me he has simply abandoned me.

Regarding the affidavit of support....he has a responsibility to repay the US Government if you should use a means-tested benefit. You probably aren't going to do that. Although if you are staying in the USA, he's abandoned you with no money, you probably could get food stamps, and he'd have to pay them back to the gov.

The other thing is that if you decide to remain in the USA, you have the right to sue him (or make that part of the divorce settlement?) to support you at the minimum poverty level amount. But you'll need a good family/divorce lawyer involved in getting that done.

If you're going to return home, probably not worth following up on the affidavit of support issue.

Rene

Hear! Hear!

Yes, a lawyer will sue him for divorce on grounds of abandonment and will seek alimony in the tune of 125% of the poverty guidelines as per the Affidavit of Support he signed. Make the attorney payment a part of your divorce settlement. The louse pays; not you.

Love?

They went through the K-1 process. This wasn't exactly a "strawberry season."

Put the shoe on the other foot. Take a USC who sponsors someone and supports them financially right up until the unconditional green card arrives... and then the GC spouse leaves. The USC is still on the hook for the AOS. Should the GC spouse pack a case and go home?

Thanks snowbunny i am feeling a little stronger now, but have moments where i am so overwhelmed with sadness that it breaks my heart, i loved this man so deeply.
I know time heals but right now its bloody difficult

sb,

Maybe. Give us some hypothetical factors for the hypothetical spouse that would go into making such a decision.

Then, change the hypothetical factors and get a different hypothetical answer.

Regards, JEff

So it's about money then huh?

K1 Don't take that long anyways..

If this can be worked out somehow..great...But if not why stick around? as really there is no real gain...ya think she get much out of any house sale being they only got it 6mths ago?

Nope...if this can't be worked out, with no real Family or friends around her, she's better of cutting her loss and leaving the guy & getting back with a network who do love and trust her & more important get her life back again.

3 choices... 1 work it out with spouse...2 Cut and Run...get back with your Family network..
or 3 stick around on the strenth of the A.O.S and hope you get some Food Stamps... Good luck...

JEff
Good Point, but i didn't want to get into all that.. Different folks Different strokes deal..

Good for you, you shouldn't just slink away because he says so.

You're having a laugh... the K-1 process does take a long time.

Proceeds from the house sale are going to depend on a lot of factors that we simply don't know and that would be best advised by a lawyer who is conversant with Alaska law. Such an initial consultation is usually free or low-cost.

Exactly.

So while I agreed with your comment that we've only heard one side of muni's story and so should be cautious in judging her husband, I think we should be equally cautious about telling her what she should do (stay or go) with respect to immigrating.

Regards, JEff

My point exactly. It's difficult to make a recommendation based upon a case in which there are a lot of unknowns. It's pretty easy to make an off-the-cuff emotional knee-jerk reaction based upon one's own views and the little one knows about the case at hand.

The standard advice we tend to give in these situations is for the OP to consult with a divorce lawyer to know where they stand financially. It's also important to realise that if one just packs a case and goes home without finalising a divorce, it's a lot harder to have any say in anything.

After working out where they stand financially, they then must decide what they want and what's achievable. We can give emotional support for whatever they decide.

When my husband walked, I felt a lot like muni, despite me being the USC and not having moved away from job and family. Still didn't ease the heartbreak. On the other hand, I separated my reason and my emotion the best I could and began working on the legal and financial implications as soon as I could pull myself together - which was within a few days. At some point, self-interest and self-preservation must kick in.

Yes - you and I understand each other.

Regards, JEff