Ok not that I actually give two craps, but where in the original post does it say the word Brit?

okay don't go into one, I just re read and it says people. So what, most people on here are British, the site is called "British Expats" has someone rattled your cage or something.

I'm actually going to agree with you now

you should always agree with me, as I am always right

No not at all, its just that we have almost gone full circle, the comment was an odd one, thats all I originally said, and if you go back and read the whole post with the OP's post as well, its an odd comment, thats all.

An odd comment, thats all.

Its how I see the comment, odd, if you see it differently then bully for ya, I'm glad you do.

I need to reply to this.
We came here last year, we have been here almost a year. We earn very little, we have filed for bankrupcy in the UK, so we have NOTHING TO FALL BACK ON. WE HAVE no savings, WE cannot use a credit card to bail ourselves out. BUT. We manage! I think this whole fail/ succeed thing is not just about research, it's about wants, needs and expectaions.
I can do a weekly shop for 50 euro's, that can be lunch dinner and breakfast for a family of 4, good food as well, not cheap crap. We spend very little on going out and entertainment, we are resourceful,
If you want a life stlye that feels like you are on holiday the whole time, expext the consequences to be dissatisfaction.
I am afraid I disagree with glad 2 be back.
The funny thing is she has left here and moved to kent, where I left and was disparate to get away from ! It really is a bout perspective and personnel experience.
I think everyone started to feel a bit judged by the word fail, when really it is just a word. There are more important things to get your knickers in a twist about.
I hope this has not offended any one, and let me know if you need any tips on living cheap, the first thing you need is a truck load of humility and the rest follows quite easily.

love

mary x x

and as I have said a thousand times, what you put into life you can expect to get out of it.

We used to have a book running of who we thought would make it and who we thought would go home soon!

What do you disagree with, that I don't agree it makes you a failure to leave? I'm confused. Or that I like Kent and you don't, it's getting silly now.

[QUOTE=rugbymatt;4912242]and as I have said a thousand times, what you put into life you can expect to get out of it.


One of my favourite mantra's!

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[QUOTE=rugbymatt;4912242]and as I have said a thousand times, what you put into life you can expect to get out of it.

We used to have a book running of who we thought would make it and who we thought would go home soon![/QUOTE]


That doesn't surprise me, plenty of people relish on the fact that others have left or as not doing as well as they have or say they have.

As someone else's failure makes them feel superior, met plenty of those, 10 a penny along the CDS.

Hi glad.

Where in Kent did you end up? It sounds like things have sorted themselves out and you feel you are moving on. I hope life feels better for you now, you obviously left here with hopes for the UK.
I for one do not relish in any ones unhappiness, that would be mean and evil. I always hope that people with sadness find a way through and can find contentment again. Life is tough in any country for many different reasons. I honestly think most people want the best for each other, not the need to feel satisfaction in others failure. I will always believe this.
You may think I am a silly naive little girl. I am not. I have had extreme life experiences and have learnt the art of letting go and moving on. Life is too short to hold on to anger, the only person it hurts is you.
good luck with all you do.

love

maryx

Forget that, just re-read some of your old posts, old grudge...let go of past luv..I have. You were obviously a member of the other forum and will disagree with everything I say. Even if you really do agree as I said I didn't agree with word "fail" as did you.

How you can feed a family of 4 on 50E a week is beyond me, and everyone seems to presume that we left Spain pennyless. We left on a high, my OH had loads of work when we left the most he ever had. We had enough money to set us up initially in the UK. We didn't need to sell our house. We planned to leave which took over a year to put into action. We certainly didn't go cap n hand like so many others do back to blighty.

ditto, just replied again, I do not think anyone is naive you are happy and living the life you want. I'm happy for you, I just wish people would judge what I write now and not what I did in the past when I wasn't happy. I've really got my life sorted now.

How about we start over

I'll pm where I live as I'm paraniod about public sites...

Like I said did not mean to offend, I am not a member of any other forum, dont understand that bit.
I just wanted to present a balanced view.
I dont hold a grudge, sorry dont understand that either.
I dont get into dialogue usually on this forum, I just wanted to let you know that I thought you sounded much happier than when you first came on here. And that is a good thing in a nice way. Just take it as it is meant, with kindness.

m x

I apologise, I've sent you a pm xx