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From your post (when you said you have male friends and your husband has female friends) I assumed you were referring to the fact that those friends knew you were married? Or knew that your husband was married?

My mistake..........

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Yes you're right. I would banish her from my life, who needs friends like that? Trust goes a long way and it doesn't just stop with my husband.

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UK Divorce Law states:
Adultery is a term used when one partner has had a sexual relationship with a third party of an opposite sex (sometimes a more common term of infidelity is used by couples in a marriage counseling session). It is important that people are clear about the Divorce Law as far as "Adultery" is concerned. There has to be proof that a "sexual" relationship has taken place and that this relationship was with a member of the opposite sex. If a partner has committed adultery by having a sexual relationship with a member of the same sex, then according to the UK Divorce Law, this is not grounds for Adultery, but rather classified as "Divorce due to Unreasonable Behaviour".

What are the points that you need to be aware of when filling for divorce under the grounds of Adultery:

Adultery is only granted if there has been sexual relationship involving a member of opposite sex outside that of the marriage.
There are "time limits" involved in the cases of Adultery. A person must file for divorce within six months of discovering the Adultery. This, however, does not apply if the couple do not continue to live together after the Adultery has been discovered.
It is not necessary, or recommended, to name the third party involved in the Adultery.
Which partner has committed the act of Adultery has no bearing on the court's decision when considering the assets, children or any other judgments passed.




More than anything else though it would be his betrayal that would make me feel that way, whether he slept with a man or a woman, the law would have nothing to do with it.

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but there is no punishment.

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His punishment would be not having me in his life permanently :rofl:

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i have this feeling that you are sweet and pretty as well as very kind and smart to say this. however, in other cases ... it is a gift for the man to get red of of his wife. isn't it?

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That's why I was laughing ;) Anyway, my husband has a good wife and 4 great children, it would be his loss.

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you never know how men thinks.

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True, but I'm not going to spend my life worrying about it.

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i never said that. but it is worth worrying about the rest of the women ... thinking of their problems .. and trying to find out the reasons for these problems ... and then look for the best solutions

because then .. if all do the same .... you are creating a better society for your kids..

if all ignore it... you will come to see the result of that.

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BM you cant spend your life worrying that it might happen, otherwise you will never actually live... what a waste?! If it happens you deal with it, simple as that.

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I love worrying about others. it is one thing that makes us human.

didn't you feel sorry for all those poor little kids and women and old men in Gaza who was bombarded by the Israil army? why did you feel sorry for them?

because you are a human ....

and for the same reason ... you would not want to see others sad and living lousy life

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Hun im totally human and of course think of others, my comment related to, worrying whether my husband would commit adultery, this is something i would not worry about, if it is going to happen then it happens, there is nothing i can do to stop it but im not going to ruin my relationship by worrying about what he might do.

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you are right in a way.

but if you think that there are things that you can do now to make the life in the future better for your kids then why not doing it?

beside .. in some cases ... it is worth worrying about the husband ... because this feeling will drive the woman to protect her marrige... by elemenating things that can lead to it as far as she can.

when there are things that are out of her hands and it is because of mistakes in the society ... then at least she will feel she did what was required from her.

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In any case, I think it is just best to do your best effort to prevent it from happening. But if it still does happen, at least you could say to yourself that you did everything to the best of your ability and carry on a clear conscience in the end. I think my optimistic side is kicking in...