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and is that such a bad thing...that's the question

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right on baby....

This is his first marriage and maybe last! Poor Soul

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Well, he simply shouldnt have married her...Why lose freedom after all that time...

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that friends can be attracted to each other, of course they can, bloody dangerous if u both have partners tho. I'd say sooner or later the attraction becomes to hard to ignore.

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so that would mean you can never become close to someone of the opposite sex, just in case...

and what's worse...a one night stand (as in sex) with a 'stranger' or a close longlasting friendship but no sex...

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Seems a bit wierd he has never been married and then after 57 years changes his mind/wants to settle down!

Probably difficult to change after all those years how you live your life i would think? I dont just mean with your friend but generally...

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It's her choice completely...everyone has different standards of what they find acceptable. Some people are cool with "open" marriages provided they know what's going on...lying is something everyone get's upset over though as it kills trust.

He may have unknown reasons beyond the obvious...he could of course be lying about not being intimate with the other woman too. It's hard to know and but easy to judge.

I think a one month separation before any decision to divorce will help...don't be too quick to throw away a relationship until all avenues of repair have been exhausted.

N.

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Depends on the emotional attachment i suppose, oh i dunno know i am not good at this stuff, thats why i am not married.....

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He prob said to him self, i am to old to be a playboy, let me get myself a wife. Then after 6 months said to himself, Have I still got it???/

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close long lasting relationship with no sex that is hidden is probably worse IMO than a one night stand that has probably been fuelled by too much alcohol and too little judgement . . . . The former suggests long term lying/deceit the latter a lack of common sense . .

Just my two halala's worth
N

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I was surprised to learn that the miscreant hubby had never married before despite being 57 years old. If he has been foot loose and fancy free for such a very long time, he simply may not be capable of adapting to a monogamist relationship without some adjustment. Like I said before, he probably needs a second chance. If he strays again then farewell. Alternatively, I quite like the idea of a month trial separation, but they usually end in divorce don't they? On the issue of platonic friendships, it sometimes depends on your upbringing. Personally I was raised by an adopted family with three girls and no boys. I thus feel more comfortable around women. My other half was raised in a family of boys only and now as an adult she prefers male companionship. It doesn't necessarily mean that we are promiscuous.:)

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57 years old man :)

21 years difference between him and his new wife :)

ok

he lived his life as a playboy free to do whatever he wants with whoever he wants.. if he consumed all this time of his life as a play boy it is unlikly for him to correct him self.

it is hard for an old man to change habits while it is easier to change a young one.

there are many things that she should consider..

can she live alone without him (for a start is she working?)

i know she is a new bride but ... is there a chance that she is pragnet?

what will happen if he discovered that she cheated on him how was he gona behave or how she wish that he have behaved?

the details of how he met this other girl who is in late 20's and how did he develop his relationship with her are very important .. because based on these details you can judge did this relationship happend without planning or was he going after her..

you can't judge or give opinion without alot of missing parts of the whole picture.


but generally speaking ..

if both are religious ... she shouldn't continue with him .. but it will be nice of her if she gave him a second chance

if both are Atheist ..she shouldn't complain much ... and she should expect that this may hapen in the future again .. and again .. when it comes to sex . there is no such thing called love that will stop a man from going after it.

why do men do that and cheat on their wifes?

the wish to try to be with someone else
too many problems with the first wife ..even if they were small but continous
prettier girls
temptations
getting too close from female friends in emotional situations.


so many other reasons

or just like the case of our 57 years old ... getting used to be with many and different females .. every while and then......




I am so far assuming that he didn't get married until now because of this ..which is not true for sure.

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Thanks BM good post

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you are welcome :)

but i am surprised to know that you are singal..

i have this feeling that you are the one who is in late 20's lol kidding

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yeah I'd be devastated, it would hurt me badly - but I;d have to have it out with her, ask her why and what had been going on, maybe she was getting attention or something that she never got from me,

I'd need to find out before making any decisions.

I would at least try though.