OVER 50's+ MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
Jul 19th 2011, 10:51 pm
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Re: OVER 50's+ MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
Barb Im so sorry that your going through this right now, i dont have Kids or family back in the States, but I can feel your pain, I really can,
To be honest with you though Barb Im not always full of the Joys of life either, some days I wake up and I feel like cursing at everything and everyone, thats how I feel sometimes but I dont cause my Mum's here, but sometimes I feel like screaming
and Ive just got myself to worry about ,
The weather down south has been pretty grim the last couple of weeks too here, lots of rain and a summer that feels like winter, and quite cold, not used to that yet, so who knows maybe thats got a lot to do with it, or maybe Im just going through my change of life or should I have gone through that a while ago
Another theory I had Barb was this, tell me what you think of this please,
Like you and me and Jackie and others have just come from real hot places, and those places weve come from we were there for a huge chunk of our lives, ---- so what do you think of this ---- our bodies all this time has been used to the (SUN) and lots of it all the time, like every day, and SUN is the natural thing that gives us our energy and strengh, and just being in the sun just cheers you up dont it
Then the three of us at least have been here for what about the same time give or take a couple of months, and our bodies have more or less been starved of the SUN that our bodies have been used to,
Such a shock to the system right, and it is reasonable to assume that it would put us in the doom and gloom syndrome
then add the sadness of missing your family and friends back in your adopted country and Walla.
Take care,
Rodney.
To be honest with you though Barb Im not always full of the Joys of life either, some days I wake up and I feel like cursing at everything and everyone, thats how I feel sometimes but I dont cause my Mum's here, but sometimes I feel like screaming
and Ive just got myself to worry about ,The weather down south has been pretty grim the last couple of weeks too here, lots of rain and a summer that feels like winter, and quite cold, not used to that yet, so who knows maybe thats got a lot to do with it, or maybe Im just going through my change of life or should I have gone through that a while ago
Another theory I had Barb was this, tell me what you think of this please,
Like you and me and Jackie and others have just come from real hot places, and those places weve come from we were there for a huge chunk of our lives, ---- so what do you think of this ---- our bodies all this time has been used to the (SUN) and lots of it all the time, like every day, and SUN is the natural thing that gives us our energy and strengh, and just being in the sun just cheers you up dont it
Then the three of us at least have been here for what about the same time give or take a couple of months, and our bodies have more or less been starved of the SUN that our bodies have been used to,
Such a shock to the system right, and it is reasonable to assume that it would put us in the doom and gloom syndrome
then add the sadness of missing your family and friends back in your adopted country and Walla.Take care,
Rodney.
Jul 19th 2011, 11:09 pm
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Re: OVER 50's+ MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
Oh you lucky things, Theres nothing like the feeling of having a real solid date to leave, suddenly you know that it not just a dream any more, its actually happening, so thats about 10 months from now so you should have plenty of time to get ready,
when I booked my ticket my date of leaving was just like yours --- 10 months ahead ---- but you will be surprised how quickly that time just flies by, so dont dilly dally you have lots to do, and Congrats again on your house sale, is your hubby as happy and excited as you are?
Do you know trotty it was just a couple of weeks ago that you were almost crying and you were saying something like you cant see a way out, that you were so tired of keeping the house up all the time, and you wondered if you would ever be able to leave and come home, it just shows you dont it, and this has got to be a very important message to all that are waiting to sell there house ----- never give up,
Take care,
Rodney.
Jul 19th 2011, 11:28 pm
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Re: OVER 50's+ MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
Thanks, Tina. You're comments are always so friendly.
Honesty is always the best policy, isn't it - being honest with ourselves and being honest with others.
I really admire Jackie's honesty which hopefully will serve as a catalyst for all of us.
If we aren't honest about what it's really like once we make the move back, we're doing everyone a disservice. And this applies to all aspects of life after the move, not just emotions.
Honesty is always the best policy, isn't it - being honest with ourselves and being honest with others.
I really admire Jackie's honesty which hopefully will serve as a catalyst for all of us.
If we aren't honest about what it's really like once we make the move back, we're doing everyone a disservice. And this applies to all aspects of life after the move, not just emotions.
Real nice to see you posting on here again,
Rodney.
Jul 20th 2011, 12:14 am
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Beeduya...I had another case of the wobbles today. My daughter called and we got chatting and I said that she was the main reason I would ever think of staying in the US. She told me that she would be content knowing that I was able to take care of myself. She would not be available all the time as she works and she said I would be stuck in on my own and no better off than I am now. I suggested that if I did not go back to the UK I could always buy a house next door to her. Her answer was "No you XXXXXX couldnt I would end up killing you"
Jul 20th 2011, 12:22 am
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Barb Im so sorry that your going through this right now, i dont have Kids or family back in the States, but I can feel your pain, I really can,
To be honest with you though Barb Im not always full of the Joys of life either, some days I wake up and I feel like cursing at everything and everyone, thats how I feel sometimes but I dont cause my Mum's here, but sometimes I feel like screaming and Ive just got myself to worry about ,
The weather down south has been pretty grim the last couple of weeks too here, lots of rain and a summer that feels like winter, and quite cold, not used to that yet, so who knows maybe thats got a lot to do with it, or maybe Im just going through my change of life or should I have gone through that a while ago
Another theory I had Barb was this, tell me what you think of this please,
Like you and me and Jackie and others have just come from real hot places, and those places weve come from we were there for a huge chunk of our lives, ---- so what do you think of this ---- our bodies all this time has been used to the (SUN) and lots of it all the time, like every day, and SUN is the natural thing that gives us our energy and strengh, and just being in the sun just cheers you up dont it
Then the three of us at least have been here for what about the same time give or take a couple of months, and our bodies have more or less been starved of the SUN that our bodies have been used to,
Such a shock to the system right, and it is reasonable to assume that it would put us in the doom and gloom syndrome then add the sadness of missing your family and friends back in your adopted country and Walla.
Take care,
Rodney.
To be honest with you though Barb Im not always full of the Joys of life either, some days I wake up and I feel like cursing at everything and everyone, thats how I feel sometimes but I dont cause my Mum's here, but sometimes I feel like screaming
and Ive just got myself to worry about ,The weather down south has been pretty grim the last couple of weeks too here, lots of rain and a summer that feels like winter, and quite cold, not used to that yet, so who knows maybe thats got a lot to do with it, or maybe Im just going through my change of life or should I have gone through that a while ago
Another theory I had Barb was this, tell me what you think of this please,
Like you and me and Jackie and others have just come from real hot places, and those places weve come from we were there for a huge chunk of our lives, ---- so what do you think of this ---- our bodies all this time has been used to the (SUN) and lots of it all the time, like every day, and SUN is the natural thing that gives us our energy and strengh, and just being in the sun just cheers you up dont it
Then the three of us at least have been here for what about the same time give or take a couple of months, and our bodies have more or less been starved of the SUN that our bodies have been used to,
Such a shock to the system right, and it is reasonable to assume that it would put us in the doom and gloom syndrome
then add the sadness of missing your family and friends back in your adopted country and Walla.Take care,
Rodney.
Jul 20th 2011, 1:07 am
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Re: OVER 50's+ MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
Great to see you here again, Celtic, and to hear your more definite plans and goals--return by the end of the year! Good luck with it all...it certainly must feel overwhelming. But we have seen by the inspiring examples of others that it can be done...with a little luck as well (buyer for the house etc).
Here's hoping all goes as smoothly as possible for you!
Tina
Here's hoping all goes as smoothly as possible for you!
Tina
Jul 20th 2011, 1:22 am
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Jul 20th 2011, 3:17 am
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Nope I am not going to miss the sun at all.
Jul 20th 2011, 5:04 am
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Barb Im so sorry that your going through this right now, i dont have Kids or family back in the States, but I can feel your pain, I really can,
To be honest with you though Barb Im not always full of the Joys of life either, some days I wake up and I feel like cursing at everything and everyone, thats how I feel sometimes but I dont cause my Mum's here, but sometimes I feel like screaming and Ive just got myself to worry about ,
The weather down south has been pretty grim the last couple of weeks too here, lots of rain and a summer that feels like winter, and quite cold, not used to that yet, so who knows maybe thats got a lot to do with it, or maybe Im just going through my change of life or should I have gone through that a while ago
Another theory I had Barb was this, tell me what you think of this please,
Like you and me and Jackie and others have just come from real hot places, and those places weve come from we were there for a huge chunk of our lives, ---- so what do you think of this ---- our bodies all this time has been used to the (SUN) and lots of it all the time, like every day, and SUN is the natural thing that gives us our energy and strengh, and just being in the sun just cheers you up dont it
Then the three of us at least have been here for what about the same time give or take a couple of months, and our bodies have more or less been starved of the SUN that our bodies have been used to,
Such a shock to the system right, and it is reasonable to assume that it would put us in the doom and gloom syndrome then add the sadness of missing your family and friends back in your adopted country and Walla.
Take care,
Rodney.
To be honest with you though Barb Im not always full of the Joys of life either, some days I wake up and I feel like cursing at everything and everyone, thats how I feel sometimes but I dont cause my Mum's here, but sometimes I feel like screaming
and Ive just got myself to worry about ,The weather down south has been pretty grim the last couple of weeks too here, lots of rain and a summer that feels like winter, and quite cold, not used to that yet, so who knows maybe thats got a lot to do with it, or maybe Im just going through my change of life or should I have gone through that a while ago
Another theory I had Barb was this, tell me what you think of this please,
Like you and me and Jackie and others have just come from real hot places, and those places weve come from we were there for a huge chunk of our lives, ---- so what do you think of this ---- our bodies all this time has been used to the (SUN) and lots of it all the time, like every day, and SUN is the natural thing that gives us our energy and strengh, and just being in the sun just cheers you up dont it
Then the three of us at least have been here for what about the same time give or take a couple of months, and our bodies have more or less been starved of the SUN that our bodies have been used to,
Such a shock to the system right, and it is reasonable to assume that it would put us in the doom and gloom syndrome
then add the sadness of missing your family and friends back in your adopted country and Walla.Take care,
Rodney.
...........mmmmm..... I did buy these light bulbs off Amazon a few months back 8 quid each they were they are supposed to give a natural cheery light rather than the yellow tones off light bulbs we are used to.....I put one up in my sisters hall and you could see a real difference, so my mother raved about it that much, I gave her one, told her to be careful as the bayonet is very delicate and to be careful, she phoned me when she got home and told me she had broken it trying to put it into the fitting!! It won't fit it any ceiling fittings here because it has all these modern trendy light fittings installed but I am going to find that light bulb tonight and GENTLY try and fit it into a lamp, thanks for the reminder.
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Jul 20th 2011, 5:07 am
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WHOOPIE trotty good on ya, Hmmmm Lardy Dah, just like DDL/Denise huh QE2 how exciting is that Oh you lucky things,
Theres nothing like the feeling of having a real solid date to leave, suddenly you know that it not just a dream any more, its actually happening, so thats about 10 months from now so you should have plenty of time to get ready,
when I booked my ticket my date of leaving was just like yours --- 10 months ahead ---- but you will be surprised how quickly that time just flies by, so dont dilly dally you have lots to do, and Congrats again on your house sale, is your hubby as happy and excited as you are?
Do you know trotty it was just a couple of weeks ago that you were almost crying and you were saying something like you cant see a way out, that you were so tired of keeping the house up all the time, and you wondered if you would ever be able to leave and come home, it just shows you dont it, and this has got to be a very important message to all that are waiting to sell there house ----- never give up,
Take care,
Rodney.
Oh you lucky things, Theres nothing like the feeling of having a real solid date to leave, suddenly you know that it not just a dream any more, its actually happening, so thats about 10 months from now so you should have plenty of time to get ready,
when I booked my ticket my date of leaving was just like yours --- 10 months ahead ---- but you will be surprised how quickly that time just flies by, so dont dilly dally you have lots to do, and Congrats again on your house sale, is your hubby as happy and excited as you are?
Do you know trotty it was just a couple of weeks ago that you were almost crying and you were saying something like you cant see a way out, that you were so tired of keeping the house up all the time, and you wondered if you would ever be able to leave and come home, it just shows you dont it, and this has got to be a very important message to all that are waiting to sell there house ----- never give up,
Take care,
Rodney.
I was just thinking that Rodney catching up on the posts, how Trotty was ALMOST on the point of giving up after SOOOO many house viewings and SOOO many disappointments, but the British Bulldog spirit shone through and she persevered and look what happened.
Well done Trotty True and Mr True (is he OK with this big move?) any thoughts of just where you will end up? North or South?
And well done on the QE2 too, what a way to come home, just imagine SAILING into England on a big cruise ship (instead of crammed into a plane).............sigh...........sounds like heaven to me.
Now the big countdown begins.
Jul 20th 2011, 5:12 am
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This is the thing I am most looking forward to - getting away from this infernal heat. I don't know why but I have never been able to adapt to the weather here - we have had days and days of 90 degree weather and now they are saying it will continue that way for another week getting gradually hotter until it reaches 100 degrees. I hate that I can't go out for a walk or do any gardening. I hate that everything in the garden is wilting. And I hate the feeling of not being able to breathe when I set foot outside - not to mention being eaten alive by mosquitos.
Nope I am not going to miss the sun at all.
Nope I am not going to miss the sun at all.
But I have missed the light that comes from a daily sun, I just wrote to Rodney about the light globes I bought and I know there are some SAD lamps you can buy but I think they are out of my budget...........
I think I heard you and another discuss once on here about taking a certain vitamin??
Jul 20th 2011, 5:22 am
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Thank you everybody for your good wishes, I am feeling a lot better this week, it's like one of those cartoons like Popeye or something where this dark cloud hovers over your head and follows you round everywhere you go, it can be a struggle to get rid of it, but it can be done with a lot of work!!
When I get like this it makes it WORSE when I talk to my kids on Skype etc. it is better for me to talk to them when I am more upbeat if that makes sense........otherwise I come off the call in floods of tears........anyway I am OK now until the next time..........and I am sure there will be a next time.
Trotty there was something about your chat with your daughter that resonated with me............as I would have gotten older in Australia and not been in a good financial position (high rents, not so great pension, very little government help), I am sure my daughter and to some lesser extent my son would have felt obliged to help me and you know I would NEVER want to be a burden on my kids.........she may have felt that I would have to live with them, but also knowing we would kill each other too LOL!! Thanks to your daughter for my little eye opener.
When I get like this it makes it WORSE when I talk to my kids on Skype etc. it is better for me to talk to them when I am more upbeat if that makes sense........otherwise I come off the call in floods of tears........anyway I am OK now until the next time..........and I am sure there will be a next time.
Trotty there was something about your chat with your daughter that resonated with me............as I would have gotten older in Australia and not been in a good financial position (high rents, not so great pension, very little government help), I am sure my daughter and to some lesser extent my son would have felt obliged to help me and you know I would NEVER want to be a burden on my kids.........she may have felt that I would have to live with them, but also knowing we would kill each other too LOL!! Thanks to your daughter for my little eye opener.
Jul 20th 2011, 7:37 am
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I don't miss the intense heat Sally and definitely not the humidity.
But I have missed the light that comes from a daily sun, I just wrote to Rodney about the light globes I bought and I know there are some SAD lamps you can buy but I think they are out of my budget...........
I think I heard you and another discuss once on here about taking a certain vitamin??
But I have missed the light that comes from a daily sun, I just wrote to Rodney about the light globes I bought and I know there are some SAD lamps you can buy but I think they are out of my budget...........
I think I heard you and another discuss once on here about taking a certain vitamin??
Jul 20th 2011, 8:34 am
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Re: OVER 50's+ MOVING BACK TO THE UK - Part II
J.J.
We are currently just about at the 11-month mark, so not far behind you. We are thoroughly enjoying England for all the reasons we returned for. I would say that our standard of living isn't quite what it was in the States, but it doesn't matter: we're having Afternoon Tea this Saturday beneath a Rubens ceiling at Banqueting House in London.
Take care!
We are currently just about at the 11-month mark, so not far behind you. We are thoroughly enjoying England for all the reasons we returned for. I would say that our standard of living isn't quite what it was in the States, but it doesn't matter: we're having Afternoon Tea this Saturday beneath a Rubens ceiling at Banqueting House in London.
Take care!
thanks, and yes, I agree, there are a lot of interests that make life here fulfilling.
We hike on Roman roads here in Norfolk, visit London and places such as Apsley House and Naval College at Greenwich, visit Dover and the spectacularly refurbished castle, discover nearby towns that we would previously have just driven past, meet with family and friends that used to only be represented by a Christmas card, chat to strangers on the bus into town. We have visited Cuba as UKC's and have a trip next month with friends to Normandy and home of Monet. It is definitely all there to enjoy.
I am glad to hear that you are enjoying the positives too.
Jul 20th 2011, 8:45 am
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This is the thing I am most looking forward to - getting away from this infernal heat. I don't know why but I have never been able to adapt to the weather here - we have had days and days of 90 degree weather and now they are saying it will continue that way for another week getting gradually hotter until it reaches 100 degrees. I hate that I can't go out for a walk or do any gardening. I hate that everything in the garden is wilting. And I hate the feeling of not being able to breathe when I set foot outside - not to mention being eaten alive by mosquitos.
Nope I am not going to miss the sun at all.
Nope I am not going to miss the sun at all.
Spring here was wonderful, lots of sun although too little rain. My garden is thriving now with these summer storms, and there must be some sun getting through because my tomatoes are ripening.
Rodney, you are right though, the loss of the sunlight we are used to over there could well be affecting us. I try to top-up daily, taking my cuppa into the garden and a walk later, plus time outdoors at weekends. Getting a few rays does brighten my mood.