Suggestion mentioned in an early post to you is to 'back off' and stop pushing her.

Ask her what options she has & what to & fro would work for her

Ask her if time away from the outlaws would help because it appears they have a strong hold over her.

My mother was told by her English Dad (my grandad) in 1966 when we were leaving the UK that 'she was deserting him, that she was taken out of the will' - he was bitter

Within 6-months he was dead (broken heart we figured) & I shall never forget my Mum saying to my Dad 'we should never have left' - Mum was 45 at the time

Your situation ain't easy because of your itchy feet & the outlaws (wifes parents)

Just wondering how you would feel if one of your kids was in the same boat as you - would you wish them luck or be a bitter clinging parent?

I left my dad in England when I was 32. I don't think he ever forgave me for it, but he did leave me all the money he had when he died at age 84 in 2007Our relationship was always one of his criticizing me, and me trying to ignore or defend myself. I had to make peace with myself over the years to not feel the guilty child for deserting him. Now my children live at the other end of the States, and will have the whole country and an ocean between us when I move back to the UK. But the bottom line is, we all have to do, and can only do, what we feel is for the best and right for us, given all the facts nd awareness we have at that particular time. There is only that one moment. Then another. Then another, and so on, and we change in every moment. We grow from the challenges and obstacles we face, not from the easy stuff. Irishcpl, let what you do come from the heart, not the head, and then let it go. As for financial security - it doesn't exist!!!

well said

Lovely post.

I wish my husband believed that.