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yep suppose your right, but cant help but feel that the kicks dealt are cheap shots:)

have a glass of wine!:)

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I think I might just have a little of the old 'chateau du cardboard' after my tea :thumbsup: Fancy a tipple old girl?

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That poor woman. Those people are like pack hunters. Anyone who posts that they dislike Oz are hunted down. They did the same to poor Pollyanna the other day. Basically told her she'd made her bed and to shut up and lie in it :( Cruel sods. And of course, it was said by folk who love Oz.

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Hi nb - sorry I don't agree - I don't think there are as many posters slating Oz in this forum, as there are posters slating the UK in the Aussie forums (yet that seems perfectly acceptable) - most people in the MBTUK forum say they want to go home cos of friends, family, and their love of all things English NOT cos they hate Oz.

Maybe some have the odd joke about things that are odd or annoying in Oz but what's wrong with a joke or two to get you through the day??!

The majority of the people on this forum who want to go home are clearly intelligent, down to earth people who know you cannot generalise about a whole country, there are some great things about Oz and also some right crap things about the place, ditto in the UK. What astonishes me is the people in the Aussie forums who compare say a craphole in some inner city area in the UK with say a beautiful beachside suburb in Oz and think it's a valid comparison - how about comparing somewhere like the Dorset/Devon/Cornwall coast with a craphole suburb in Perth (and I have seen a few) or inner city Sydney. Equally astonishing are the people who are still living in the UK who quote the latest Daily Mail headline such as 'Polish immigrants reach an all time high' then follow it with a comment such as 'this is the reason why we're emigrating!' - oh please!!!??

Anyway horses for courses as they say, and Tracey just ignore the complete bozo that had a pop at you - she is clearly clueless:thumbdown:

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And I wonder if these UK slagging folk will have the bottle to stand up and say "I was wrong"????? not a chance me thinks! ;) They will probably crawl back home without saying a word, just like so many before them.

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My intension was to try to empathise not criticise, obviously I did not come over well, but I didn’t think it warranted such a personal attack.
Sometimes I type and post without reading first, just as thoughts and question come into my head – most of the time I stop myself from make a fool of myself but sometimes…well I am sure we have all been there.

I said nothing I wouldn’t have said to your face if you were a friend, I believe in being honest with my friends just I would like them to be honest with me.

So I apologise if I upset you as I said it was not my intention BUT I will not apologise for being happy here and being proud for what we have accomplished.

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After? God, I have afew before and after on a w/e. Cheers.

She should ban 'em.:lol:

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If Tracey's husband is anything like me then it won't kill him wherever he lives.
I could stay in Australia and be happy, I can go back and be happy.
Australia is ok, nowhere near as great as Australians think but perfectly livable, I can keep buying boats and other toys and keep myself interested, thats because I am a normal shallow easliy pleased bloke. My wife, like most women, is deeper and needs more emotional support and stimulation. She really wants to go home, is very homesick and has never been impressed by material things. I can fully empathise with her, if I allow it I feel the emotional tug to go home too, I know the times when I like it here is when its like a holiday, the real life is nothing special.
I stress about the practical things involved in going back, we have lost a shed load of money, I feel little excitment about the prospect of house and job hunting again and the lost ego going back to all the people who were jealous of our "luck" going to live in Australia, if only they knew.
But none of this will kill me and I know we will get ourselves straight again and my wife will be happier.
It's very difficult to post at times when some of these patronizing plonkers come on and push and gloat, have lost my temper and been told off a couple of times, thought getting the visa was stressful? try going back.

Kevin

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FFS, Tracey, don't let words from mindless busy bodies get in your way. Over the head, gone, worthless, crap.

Have they nothing better to do then poke there big fat noses into others business. Mind you, they do live in Perth:rofl:

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Good post Kevin. you sound very much like my OH and me like your wife. We have invested well here, but that's as far as my 'material' needs go. I only wanted us to do that for our insurance of getting back home again and certainly didn't expect house prices in Perth to go up like they did.

It's certainly nice to read a blokes perspective on returning and I personally couldn't give a shite about what anyone back home might think, they have no idea what some of us go through. We have been here just over 10 years now, so no-one could ever accuse us of not giving it a good go.:lol: Maybe if more of us did post how it really is and told these plonkers to go eat glue, then it might make some people think before they type.

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For what it is worth my OH was not so keen to return, wanted to give Oz longer.He has been happy here in the Uk for the pevious 46 years and is very happy now. We are desperate for our own place again though . I did put myself in his shoes and got very ill with the guilt. We both realised returning was right for the whole family, and that is what we are and will always be...a solid family.If we had stayed the strain may have broken us. Everyone is different and other posters must appreciate this. What kevinl says is spot on actually, very true! Take care.:)

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What a lovely post and what a lovely caring bloke you seem like. My hubby was of a similar mind - I think that although he liked the laid back attitude in Oz, he also realised that it wasn't anything spectacular. For him, it was work (and me) that dragged him back home and he's very happy here thank goodness.

Yes it is difficult to start again and to admit to everyone that you are coming back home, but at the end of the day, it's a one minute wonder with people and who cares anyway what people say or think. It's your life and your families life that is important. Much better to be happy and have a few sniggers behind your back (if that's what people do) rather than live a lie in a place that makes you miserable just to save face.

Good luck :)

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Well, I pity your friends then :( There is a difference between honesty and diplomacy. Would you honestly say to your friend, who was feeling as homesick as me "Oh you came back last time and said you didn't like it. You thought Perth was forever. All you do now is moan about it. You are such a "glass half full woman" " Surely friends are supposed to be understanding, sympathetic and caring to each others needs. Certainly not judgemental and so accusing.

I am not asking you to apologise. Especially not about being happy in Oz. I am happy for you that you have found 'your place' in this world. But perhaps, in future, you will have a little more understanding and tolerance for those of us that haven't.

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Hi Kevin - what a lovely hubby you are - my OH did not want to come back to the UK at all, but agreed 'cos I was so unhappy - like you a lovely bloke :thumbsup: - anyway now we are back he is very happy - given him a new lease of life and now makes the effort to do stuff here that perhaps he wouldn't have bothered with before we went to Perth.

Good luck with your return - when are you coming home? Weather here at moment is fab - 24 degrees today and same for weekend!!

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That's an excellent well thought out post P. I've posted in the barbie on occasion saying about the comparisons some people use and how ridiculous they are, but of course, I was shot down and treated as though I was committing treason and didn't know what I was talking about, even though I've lived here a darn sight longer than alot of them. I'm so sick of hearing "it doesn't rain much here, the sun always shines, no hurricane seasons, no serious bush fires, no worries about the lack of water, it comes out of my tap (yes that was said to me on here), lovely beaches, we have a bigger house, a pool and barbie, have another beer."

I have never said I don't like Australia, hate Perth, hate aussies etc., all the things we seem to be accused of continually by the 'godzoners'. I honestly believe it's something lacking in their lives and, they have to somehow convince themselves that the people who are returning to their roots, for whatever reason, are all returning because they hate Oz. I do know that if I was content with my life here and had no thoughts of returning home, I wouldn't be posting in this forum.