I turned 53 last Friday. I didn't care that only my wife remembered.

Then again, I once forgot my own birthday when I was in my early 30s. I was a business trip in Japan and plain forgot.

In the 21st Century, here in the Caribbean! And it's causing all kinds of social problems, having so many mothers who are themselves still children.

Most of the people I knew at school and college are dead. Certainly true of the people I used to drink with !

I'd imagine that by time you're 47 they would be.

Is there, by any chance a connection?

Belated Happy Birthday!

Better late than never. My stepson phoned me because his mum told him to. My natural son got around to it two days after the event. Both my brothers forgot entirely and the card from my MIL showed up a week late.

Now I feel even older...My sisters step daughter is now having a kid... She is 19.


Guess that sorta makes my sister a grandma in about 6 months....

A girl I went to school with had two children by two fathers... before we'd left school... By the time I finished college she had 3 children to 3 fathers... She's currently contributing to the economy.
I kid... Like her father she has never worked a day in her life.

She's looked/looking after three children and I believe child rearing is designated as a contributory service these days.

I'm pretty sure looking after 3 kids (assuming she hasn't shovelled them off somewhere) would be considered pretty hard graft. Whether by choice or not she now has a 365 day a year job with no paid holidays or sick pay.

Whether or not that is contributing to the economy is up for debate.

My sister had her first at 19, but has worked full time most of the last 20 years only taking 6 weeks or so off for maternity leave for each birth.

She does get some federal assistance via WIC and Social Security as her first born is intellectually disabled.

Huge difference between a 19 yr old adult having at least left high school and having 2 kids before you have left school.

Good for her for joining the paid workforce - but the idea that staying at home looking after a baby is actually taking 'time off' is a huge misconception.
That 6 weeks maternity leave is probably the hardest work she has ever had to do.
I'm neither for nor against stay at home mums or mums that go back to their prior careers or whatever.
But both options are jobs. ( unless you can afford nannies that is.)

That is messed up...I guess school wasn't for her eh; and how did your sister manage to walk into that relationship? Your sister went from single woman to instant grandma.

I see lots of babysitting in her future when that girl decides to hit the bars / clubs

Wait...but you are forgetting that the option to have kid(s) will always be a voluntary one, and you shouldn't expect anyone else or the state to pay for your child.

Being a parent is NOT a job, it's a personal choice and most people manage to parent, work full-time job and do school on the side. So if many can do this, thsi ones that choose to stay home without a kid with disabilty, are either work shy or just taking the piss.

Imagine if there was no child support or alimony...you think people will choose to stay home?