scilly

I'm sorry to hear this, but he's at peace now.

As others have said, take care of yourself now.

scilly

This is a Canadian story of a crematorium.

My sister-i-l died 5 years ago of cancer, we were all relieved. But she lived in a small northern town that had no crematorium. The nearest one was about 4 hours drive away.

The following plan was made by sis-i-l before she died, she distrusted all the undertakers in town ............

One of her daughters got herself officially registered to be the agent responsible for having mother cremated.

A close friend made the coffin, grandchildren (aged 1 to 5) drew all over the wood, inside and out, then it was taken to the morgue in the town hospital. Coffin was sealed, and put in the back of that friend's pick-up truck and he drove it to the town with the crematorium. The daughter went along as passenger and to sign the documents..

More than a week later the daughter was called to pick up mother's ashes ............... the crematorium only worked 1 day a week.

6 months later, we spread the ashes on the local ski hill.


It was a beautiful thing to see.

caretaker

I put my old hunting partner's ashes in a coulee on the spot where he used to like to sit and watch for deer.

BristolUK

I had a 'teardrop' urn for my wife's ashes. Something like this.


And also a miniature one I could take on a trip to Europe, something we never managed before she died.

Zoe Bell

When my grandfather was cremated I was amused to see that the container they give you the ashes in looked remarkably like a large quality street container!!!

spouse of scouse

That's a stunningly beautiful urn Bristol. I love that you took your wife to Europe too

spouse of scouse

Could turn out badly if a kid tried to sneak a chocolate

Jerseygirl

The urn is beautiful Bristol.

What a loving thing to do...you obviously thought the world of your wife.

I was quite taken aback with the clear plastic container.

My sister has kept the ashes of our parents. It gives her comfort to keep them close by. She keeps the urns, side by side, under a seat in her inglenook. Makes me smile as they were always arguing and now they stand side by side in silence.

BristolUK

Not actually made it yet.



Orange Creamate.

spouse of scouse

One of my kids keeps my ex's ashes in a quite large and intimidating black urn. Quite suitable, as he was a bit black and very large and intimidating person. He was also not a nice person, to me at least.

When I first saw it, I waited until the kids weren't looking and stuck my tongue out at it. Oh so childish, and oh so satisfying

scrubbedexpat091

When my grandmother died the stock crematorium container was a cardboard box lined with plastic. One of my aunts ended up making an urn for her remains, and then when my grandfather died a few years later, they placed her urn in the casket with my grandfather and they are buried together. He is buried in his childhood town in Oklahoma.

Zoe Bell

My mom has told me that she wants her ashes scattered from a plane over lake Ontario

I need to do some research as to the legalities
Also the practicalities. Many a pilot performing this task has discovered that it takes a bit of thought as otherwise the ashes just blow back into the plane!

scilly

That also has to be taken into account on land and at sea!

When we got to the place on the skit hill where my sis-i-law wanted her ashes to be spread, it was blowing almost at gale strength. It didn't matter which way we faced, the wind changed direction and would have blown the ashes back at us. Luckily there was a low growing ground cover, possibly bearberry, covering much of the ground between the rocks. We had to carefully lift branches and slowly tip out some ashes .

It was made easier because someone had bought little metal boxes from Lee Valley, and put some ashes in each one. There was a box for each adult, and a slightly smaller one for her grandchildren. So we all could go and find our own little bush to put the ashes, having our private moment as we did so.

caretaker

On one episode of Wings, Fay received a package containing the ashes of her ex-husband (her second) to her total surprise. She said she used to detest the way he walked around the house smoking cigars and flicking the ashes everywhere. The next day at work someone asked her what she'd done with him, and she replied "Well, he's using an ashtray now!"

plasticcanuck