don't you think the people surrounding you play a huge part in your life - more than you realise?

My point being is that if you have found it difficult to settle at work, your partner becomes your rock (even more so than normal).

If your partner leaves / you split up / you don't have a partner - then your friends take that place.

If you haven't made many / any friends, what do you have left.

I shan't harp on about my life suffice to say that if I wasn't extremely lucky in the fact that I have made superbly good friends, met a great guy and his family - the shit that I have been through here would have probably sent me running back a long time ago.

Never underestimate the power that having someone close there can hold x

Come on alan, nobody winds people up on here more than you do... I'm all for debate but this woe is me theme from more than a few on here is really quite pathetic. And unless the op has lived in every corner of the nation, I falil to see how he can be a 'canadian critic'

I completely agree with this Madam Moo.

If this is the only rescores you have to vent , then vent away. You have got guts to say what you think, and there people on here that are sarcastic and think they own the forum , but there is a lot of people in life like that as well....

Good luck to you , i don't agree with you , but i hope you find happiness soon.

BUT we're hungry

LOL, I saved that one for future use.

There is an "Alan is Good" website? Who knew. Nothing to do with our Alan I suspect

I've no problem with people venting, but if you are going to post and say "I'm posting because I wish I had seen a post like this in all my hours of research," would it not aid credibility to post some specifics of the terrible things that "Canada" has done


There are plenty of posts here over the years from people discontent with life here. I dont think this forum is a love in of Canada and the Canadian way of life by any stretch, not from those here "living the dream" anyway. My guess is the numbers are in proportion with the number of people who post here who are struggling... Simply put it works for some (most?) people, doesnt work for others. Its difficult to justify telling anyone what to do or not do based on one persons positive or negative experience.

Agreed..what bugs me is the sense of entitlement the OP has and his belief that 'Canada' as a whole was just waiting for him to arrive and they could help him. Believe me, in terms of immigrants, those from the UK really have it good compared to other immigrants who in many ways have to learn a new language, major reference points etc.

If Canada is so awful head back to the land of Big Brother and Chavs.

Tend to agree. So the person doesn't like Canada so what? No harm in that and does it really matter if who agrees or not to what has been written?That is how the poster feels and that is valid enough.

His choice of username is unfortunate - as it sets our prejudices before we've even read what he has to say.

I personally wouldn't want to be in the OP's shoes; unemployment and mental illness? That's gotta suck. I know I wouldn't want to be here without a job - if I lost mine and couldn't find another one within a month or two I'd leave myself.

I will also agree that his judgement is clouded by his experiences, but we all do that (being objective is tough). Telling yourself that you screwed up by emigrating is harder than you might think - nobody likes to admit to themselves they made a mistake, especially one that big. However, I bet there are a fair number on here who are secretly disappointed with the move they made but are able to live in hope that it will get better.

and yes, I do wind people up at times, but I try not to blame people for the circumstances they find themselves in. Occasionally it's not their fault.

I'm actually a bit worried about the OP. He doesn't sound like he's coping well at all.

OP, it would help if we knew where you were in BC. I read your first post about Canada and honestly, this is not a rose-tinted specs thing, I haven't had the experiences you've had. I do think it's been a struggle for you to adjust though. "Different" (as in, different schooling etc) doesn't necessarily mean "worse". It's just different.

Canadian critic, i hope you can find some support for yourself soon. It sounds like you need it.

maybe it was the situation you and your family faced when you moved rather than the country itself...to come out of your comfort zone and not do well is clearly not a good thing, to make it worse is when family members dont like it as well........

for some its the best move ever and for others it the worse mistake ever... some make it some dont....some suck it up and get on with it and pretend its the best thing since sliced bread..some hate and go home and slag Canada off to everyone bcoz they failed...some love it and make a real success of it better than they would of in the UK...some end up in a worse position then they were in the UK........alot of people apart from you and a few other will never admit they hate it and just pretend to like and other dont..... some people are so desperate they will do anything to go to Canada and stay.... it just comes down to personal choice.

Nor the countries fault. It is often the way we respond to circumstances and the choices we make. Some good, some not so good. It is difficult to move on by looking for someone or something else to shoulder the blame. Some people do shitty things to others, but dwelling on it does not help at all either. Been there and eventually saw the light.

Things don't always work out as we hoped, bitterness does not make it better, venting does help. The OP's user name and title of this thread may not invoke the empathy that perhaps he had hoped for, the 'do not move here' did it for me.

If you want help ask for it, you'd be surprised how much you'd get. Looking for the way ahead and the positive is the way out.

Would not want to kick someone when they are down, find the positives and look forward to those. Find people to talk to.With kids, we have to be there for them as well, as hard as it is.

Hope it comes together for you.

Lets be honest

The support structure in Canada suck's, it hints at being a socialist nation but in reality only appears so because of its southern neighbour
If you run out of luck here its going to dump on you much harder than almost anywhere in Europe

It’s a great country if you doing well, but I’ve seen what it does to its own citizens when they’re out of luck, I’d hate to be an immigrant on hard times or with difficult issues

If I was looking at Canada from that perspective I’d describe it as a right Sh1t hole and feel strongly about making sure others got that perspective too

For what its worth almost anywhere is great if your healthy and making enough money