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mmm - another thread/debate entirely I think ! I'm schizophrenic on this issue. As I recently hit the big-four-oh, I decided to change my mindset and accept me, spare tyre and all. And I have been quite successful in this. I am me. I am healthy and happy and I am loved (and smug?! :p).

However, I might be healthier and happier two stone lighter !

I do not read magazines, I hate those "Heat" type gossip magazines where, shock, horror, someone has a smidge of cellulite or dared to wear blue when this season's colour is brown. Leave the poor cows alone. And I really do fear for the next generation - my kids, etc - when all that is presented as a role model is a genetically modified stick wearing a push-up bra. I'm somewhat flummoxed when my nine year doesn't understand why I wouldn't want to buy that fluorescent pink bikini that she thinks is gorgeous. Bless her - she would see nothing wrong with me wearing that. Love is blind :rofl: I make excuses that it's not my colour, or not quite what I like. I refuse to mention that it's because I would look like a house-end.

But mostly it's shopping. See - pretty girlie. There's nothing that can make me more fed-up than going shopping for clothes and either not finding stuff in my size - and I do not think I am especially huge or abnormal (a UK size 14/16/18 depending on the make) or just hating that extra roll of stomach that seems to me to be lit up with neon lights when I do find the clothes.

Plus - we all probably look back, through our rose-tinted's, to the good old days, when we were more svelte.

So yes, I'm slightly obsessed with weight, but do not let it show! I just know in my own mind, that I'd be healthier and my jeans would be more comfy with a few pounds less in tow.

But if it were that big a deal, I'd have done it by now, wouldn't I? It's not 'do or die' (yet) so I muddle along, occasionally bemoaning my curves, but more often just wishing my legs muscles were more capable on those ski-slopes.

:)

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Seems a perfectly sensible response to me :thumbsup:

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hi, i dont really read magazines so i dont feel its down to that. ann mentioned hitting the big 4-0 and i have to say that when i reached 40 in feb this year i started to rethink my life a little, i realised that i didnt want to spend the next half of my life as i had spent the first half (being fat and ...... well i wont say unhappy but perhaps unconfident). My OH always made it clear that he loved me no matter what size i was, always told me i was sexy and attractive. but i didnt feel sexy and attractive. Its all about how you feel about yourself. If you dont like something about yourself then you have to either learn to accept it and live with it or do something about it. its not so much an obsession with weight, its not like im as skinny as kate moss, and i certainly dont eat only lettuce leaves, i enjoy a glass of wine or 4 and love nothing more than a bar of dairy milk but ive come to realise that i cant eat these things on a daily basis. As for guys not caring, do you mean that they dont care about there own weight or that they dont care about women being stick thin?. firstly i think guys do care about there weight but i also think that there is not such a stigma for overweight men than there is women. secondly i think that the majority of men would prefer a woman who is slim or average build to an overweight woman. eg how many times do you think you,d hear a guy saying that jordan is a bit of alright? now think about how many times you,d hear a guy say that dawn french is a bit of alright?. sorry im being a bit epic here but thats just my opinion, others may or may not agree.

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I actually quite like being chubby! I am built for comfort not speed and very content.

I'm not into fashion and don't really enjoy clothes shopping so it's only annoying not to be able to find well-fitting clothes occasionally.

However, the problem I have is I could go to the doctor with a broken leg and be told to go home, lose weight and it will be ok! So, only the other week, I had some practice nurse give me a complete dressing down for not taking my "weight issue" seriously. The woman knew nothing about me and yet felt able to make quite a lot of (mostly wrong) assumptions!

However, I do recognise I would be less prone to various things if I do lose weight so I will give it a go and end up a nice comfortable size 16 if I can get my mind in the right place for long enough!! :D

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This is my mantra :rofl::thumbsup:
and it dogged me throughout my early career whilst being yelled at to run faster, faster. "I can't, I can't" !!

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Time for me to join in. I've been reading with interest and have been meaning to add my bit for a while.
I've got around 14-21lbs I'd like to shift (seems like I've wanted to lose that "extra stone" for most of my life!) Over the last year I've lost 19lbs through slimming world, it's been a bit hit and miss the past few months and i seem to have lost the same 7lbs several times! :unsure:

however 2 weeks ago i got really p'd off having put 3lbs on (for no real good reason other than maybe a catch-up from hols when i maintained) so for the past couple of weeks i've been doing the plan 100% and happy to say I've lost 5lbs, was hoping to lose another couple before we head to TO next Wednesday, but activity hasn't been forthcoming this week (too much else on) so we'll see!

my weigh-ins are usually thursday however it will be tuesday next week then not for a couple of weeks and hopefully i'll not be reporting a huge gain from testing out the timmies donuts i keep hearing about :lol:

well done and keep it up all of you, it's great to have a bit of motivation from others however virtual it is :D

calgary colemans - feel free to pm me if you want the syn values for anything, just need cals, protein, carbs & fat per 100g and portion size :)

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Great stuff thundercat:thumbsup:

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p.s.
OH just turned to me and said "you really don't need to lose any weight, you're fine"

which is lovely, and whilst, yes I'm not hugely overweight, for me, like many of you, it's being able to find clothes that fit. I'm sooooooo fed up with having to buy the larger size so it fits over my hips & thighs (I'm classic pear shape) and then having a 2-4in gap at the waist!! :(

have a good weekend everyone and happy thanksgiving to all over the pond :)

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Hi Almost Canadian - here's why I want to lose weight - hubby still think I'm Supersexy how I am - I just don't feel it anymore - although I am only slightly heavier than when I was when we got married I am about 3.5 stone heavier than when we met.

My main reason for wanting to lose weight is for health reasons, I have no health concerns at the moment but each year I gain a little more and I don't want to be the 1st member of my family to be diabetic ( I am the only one that is overweight). My Mum and Grandmum have both had cancer, my Mum also has high cholesterol and my Mum and Grandfather on Mum's side have had heart problems, My Mums Dad died of a massive heart attack at 54.

My other main reason is clothes, although you can get some nice plus sizes you can't in bargain shops like Walmart, I have never been one to spend a lot on clothes, more of a why spend $50 on one shirt when you can get 3 for the same money elswhere. I want to be able to try on a large and then be able to go up a size if necessary, or a medium or even a large and got down a size - just to have more choice in clothes.

I want to lose weight for me - no one else:thumbsup:

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This sounds so like me :blink:

I want to loose weight for me. I want to feel healthier, more attractive to myself & to actually enjoy clothes shopping - at the mo, I hate it - would far rather go to a book shop.

I'm about a stone heavier than when we got married (just over 4 years ago) & 3.5 stone heavier than when we met.

My Grandfather (Mum's Dad), was diabetic & died of a heart attack at 72 & my Mum had a heart attack when she was 57 - we were on our honeymoon :ohmy:

My Mum is looking fab now - she wasn't hughly fat, but a couple of stone over. The weights gone & she's now into aqua-aerobics & my parents must have such a fit dog the amount of walks she is taken for.

Reading some of the threads on here, the big '4' 'O' seems to have made people stop & think about themselves. I'm 40 next April & it's made me take a good look at myself.

I don't want to be some super skinny mini - i'll be happy to get back into my size 14/16 clothes (& out of 18/20) that I felt good in (i'm 5ft 9"). I also felt so much healthier then with loads more energy.

Have a good weekend everyone,

Arris :D

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Ooh, just thought i'd add my hubby's analogy - makes me chuckle :)

He says -


Women are like chairs.

You get dining room chairs with long slender legs, upright backs & hardly any padding - sometimes none at all. Ok, they're nice to look at, but that's about it.

You can also get lovely comfy armchairs. Yeah, they tend to have sturdier legs & more padding but who want's to sit on a dining room chair when they can have a comfy armchair :thumbup:


I'm definitely no dining chair & nor do I want to be, i'm no 3 seater sofa either :eek:

I'd put myself as a small 2 seater & want to become an armchair :thumbsup:

Arris :D

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nice analogy arris! :D

and yep, the only person you should be losing weight for is yourself, and how it makes you feel. Losing weight for someone else never quite seems to cut the mustard!!

keep up the good work everyone :thumbup:

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I think this is an important milestone. 40 is no longer viewed as old - say, compared to 50 years ago. We are big (no pun intended on this thread!) and ugly enough to know what's what, know ourselves that much more, and realise we still have a good few years to "live it up". Becoming 40 brings with it a momentary groan about 'middle age' but it hopefully also brings with it a whoop of joy that we're still here, we've done well, and we've still got loads to offer too. I think I kind of wasted my thirties - they just 'happened' and I wasn't fully engaged in them! It's an age when many of us are too busy with jobs, young kids, our partner and just making a house run OK. I also spent that decade two stone overweight and whilst certainly not happy about it, I was not doing anything particularly pro-active to change it either - too busy/knackered/otherwise distracted.

But at 40, a) I wanted to look good in my party photos, and b) there's more to life than whether I think my arms look big in a sleeveless top!!!

So - c) I enjoyed my party to the utmost and didn't flinch at or tear up the photos and d) there is definitely more to life than my flabby arms !!

:thumbsup:

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Well said Ann, good for you :thumbup:

I'd don't feel old at all - in fact people are surprised when they know my age & think i'm early 30's which is fantastic & makes me feel good if i'm having a down day.

Then you get others that on hearing my age, suggest I act it :frown:
My reply to them is "I am" - this is my age & this is how I act. Who say's you have to 'behave' a certain way when you reach a certain age.

They say - "Life begins at 40."

I say - "Well bring it on, flabby arms an all" :eek: (just not as flabby ;))


Happy Thanks Giving, Arris :D

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All the responses sound perfectly reasonable to me.

I just wonder why women seem to be way more self conscious than men. I'm sure that most "larger" men would want to look great in other clothes as well but they rarely seem to do anything about it. Are we just lazy :confused::p