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I have a court order saying I have access to my kids, but it hasn't stopped the ex deciding on a whim, that I cant see them on certain weekends, neither has it stopped her poisoning my son against me to the point that I haven't heard from him for ages. How do I get around that one, ask her to sign a witnessed declaration to the effect that she concurs my son doesn't want to see me, or that she is going against the court order for reason a/b/c/d etc.
Or do I do what I have had to do in the past, go back to court for another court order, cost myself a fortune (and her nothing : legal aid is great isnt it??) so she can laugh at how much money its costing me and then break it again?
Or do I do what I have had to do in the past, go back to court for another court order, cost myself a fortune (and her nothing : legal aid is great isnt it??) so she can laugh at how much money its costing me and then break it again?
That might work (or it might not). Competent professional assistance is recommended for all cases like this. However a good agent needs to do more than simply repeat what case officer says.
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right on the money mort, this isnt as simple as black and white
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Secondly a comment for JAJ, yes I know you're a moderator, and believe it or not, I don't have any issues with the theory behind what you say, but to say we're just making things complicated, your out of order mate.
We are all dealing with people that want to punish us and have no regard for what might make us happy.
Being a Moderator is a completely different job, not requiring any knowledge of immigration law or policy, and is merely a role involving trying to keep order on the forum.
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update:
Mark asked her again yesterday and she says she still hasnt decided. Shes just making things difficult and will probably turn round at last minute to say no. Some docs may be open on a Saturday but as we dont pick him up till 3pm theres no way we could travel anywhere before they close. Theres no way she will go out of her way to do a stat dec, so we are going to get on to the CO and see what our options are.
If you have never been in this situation with an ex then you probably dont understand how bad things can be. Mark kept a diary from the day they split up and he could write a book on the things she has done on him.
Is it possible to phone the CO or does it have to be an email?
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Mark asked her again yesterday and she says she still hasnt decided. Shes just making things difficult and will probably turn round at last minute to say no. Some docs may be open on a Saturday but as we dont pick him up till 3pm theres no way we could travel anywhere before they close. Theres no way she will go out of her way to do a stat dec, so we are going to get on to the CO and see what our options are.
If you have never been in this situation with an ex then you probably dont understand how bad things can be. Mark kept a diary from the day they split up and he could write a book on the things she has done on him.
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Is it possible to phone the CO or does it have to be an email?
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Hi All,
Mort, well said!
JAJ, i understand the rules, but they seem to rely on evidence, which is really hard to obtain. We have sent letters and information to the ex, but she just replies with abusive phone calls, and (as previously mentioned) wont sign anything!!!
Mark n Joe, We are in the same boat, she wont sign anything, and despite all the evidence we have given her, she knows it will affect us, so is doing it on purpose. Also, i think its ok to ring the c/o. we are gonna call ours on monday, although we have emailed him in the past.
I posted on this subject a while ago, with no reply, so i'm so glad that there are other people to talk to!
Keep in touch folks, and i hope we all get the best result from all of this!
Tracey x
Mort, well said!
JAJ, i understand the rules, but they seem to rely on evidence, which is really hard to obtain. We have sent letters and information to the ex, but she just replies with abusive phone calls, and (as previously mentioned) wont sign anything!!!
Mark n Joe, We are in the same boat, she wont sign anything, and despite all the evidence we have given her, she knows it will affect us, so is doing it on purpose. Also, i think its ok to ring the c/o. we are gonna call ours on monday, although we have emailed him in the past.
I posted on this subject a while ago, with no reply, so i'm so glad that there are other people to talk to!
Keep in touch folks, and i hope we all get the best result from all of this!
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And on a previous post I thought you said you wanted to bring the child with you after all. If child is unhappy with other parent then you really ought to be thinking hard about moving to the other side of the world. How old is child? Beyond a certain age there's not a great deal that can be done to physically force a child to live with one parent as opposed to another.
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Are you really saying there is no court order or legal agreement taking away your custody and access rights?
And on a previous post I thought you said you wanted to bring the child with you after all. If child is unhappy with other parent then you really ought to be thinking hard about moving to the other side of the world. How old is child? Beyond a certain age there's not a great deal that can be done to physically force a child to live with one parent as opposed to another.
And on a previous post I thought you said you wanted to bring the child with you after all. If child is unhappy with other parent then you really ought to be thinking hard about moving to the other side of the world. How old is child? Beyond a certain age there's not a great deal that can be done to physically force a child to live with one parent as opposed to another.
B is 13, but even if he wanted to come, his mum would do her hardest to stop him.
There is nothing stopping our access rights, but the ex can stop it whenever she wants. She has done it in the past, and sometimes we havent seen B for 6 months because she will not allow it.
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Hi Tracemul7
That's exactly the situation I tried to explain last night, access rights in place but they can be ignored when ever ex wants to be clever.
Once ex realises you need them to co operate in order to progress, they have you by the short and curlies, and that's the situation we're all finding ourselves in.
I'm attempting to speak to my ex tonight when I drop my daughter off at home, but expecting the usual snarl and slammed door.
Good luck to everyone, will let you know how things go.
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That's exactly the situation I tried to explain last night, access rights in place but they can be ignored when ever ex wants to be clever.
Once ex realises you need them to co operate in order to progress, they have you by the short and curlies, and that's the situation we're all finding ourselves in.
I'm attempting to speak to my ex tonight when I drop my daughter off at home, but expecting the usual snarl and slammed door.
Good luck to everyone, will let you know how things go.
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JAJ, the only way we could bring B to australia with us, is with permission from his mother. She will not allow him to have a medical at the moment (not included in application), and will NEVER sign anything allowing us to take him out of the country.
B is 13, but even if he wanted to come, his mum would do her hardest to stop him.
B is 13, but even if he wanted to come, his mum would do her hardest to stop him.
Secondly - if he is unhappy with his mother and doesn't want to live with her, have you not thought about going to court for full custody? Courts will normally listen to the views of teenage children.
Thirdly - if he wants to stay with his mother for the time being, but needs your support, then maybe you should be re-thinking your immediate migration plans. Even if you get a visa now and validate, it may not be such a good idea to leave him on the far side of the world at such a vulnerable age.
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Firstly - if child is 13, then what on earth is stopping you taking him to a medical anyway? Is his mother locking him up or something?
Secondly - if he is unhappy with his mother and doesn't want to live with her, have you not thought about going to court for full custody? Courts will normally listen to the views of teenage children.
Thirdly - if he wants to stay with his mother for the time being, but needs your support, then maybe you should be re-thinking your immediate migration plans. Even if you get a visa now and validate, it may not be such a good idea to leave him on the far side of the world at such a vulnerable age.
Secondly - if he is unhappy with his mother and doesn't want to live with her, have you not thought about going to court for full custody? Courts will normally listen to the views of teenage children.
Thirdly - if he wants to stay with his mother for the time being, but needs your support, then maybe you should be re-thinking your immediate migration plans. Even if you get a visa now and validate, it may not be such a good idea to leave him on the far side of the world at such a vulnerable age.
JAJ, do you have children? have you ever been in this situation? doesn't sound like you have. Your advice on the immigration process may be very helpfully but is sounds from your last posting that you dont have a clue as to how the mind of an "ex" works concerning children. Sorry but i am so mad after reading your last posting.
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In our case its not about the mother locking child up. If Mark took him out of school to go for meds without her agreement she would go ballistic and its not fair to make J go behind his mothers back. Hes stuck in the middle, hes said he doesnt mind going for meds. At the end of the day J still has to live with her and she would make it very difficult for him and for Mark to see him.
If we get our visa we arent planning on going for about another 3 years anyway. J will be nearly left school but we want to be in Oz before our son starts school.
Good luck all.
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If we get our visa we arent planning on going for about another 3 years anyway. J will be nearly left school but we want to be in Oz before our son starts school.
Good luck all.
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Firstly - if child is 13, then what on earth is stopping you taking him to a medical anyway? Is his mother locking him up or something?
Secondly - if he is unhappy with his mother and doesn't want to live with her, have you not thought about going to court for full custody? Courts will normally listen to the views of teenage children.
Thirdly - if he wants to stay with his mother for the time being, but needs your support, then maybe you should be re-thinking your immediate migration plans. Even if you get a visa now and validate, it may not be such a good idea to leave him on the far side of the world at such a vulnerable age.
Secondly - if he is unhappy with his mother and doesn't want to live with her, have you not thought about going to court for full custody? Courts will normally listen to the views of teenage children.
Thirdly - if he wants to stay with his mother for the time being, but needs your support, then maybe you should be re-thinking your immediate migration plans. Even if you get a visa now and validate, it may not be such a good idea to leave him on the far side of the world at such a vulnerable age.
We have thought about going to court, but understand it is very difficult to get sole custody, especially against the mother. And also very expensive!
We are emigrating for various reasons, including the fact that my husbands contract for work finishes in May. We live in rented accomodation, and on my salary alone we will not be able to afford to stay here, thus unable to provide any support to B. By going to Australia, we hope to be able to save money (we will live with my family until we are settled), and support B through university in the future. Also, all of my close family are in Australia, and I miss them like crazy! While we have B to think of, I also have my sister (and best friend), mother and nephew who i miss dearly.
I know there are steps that look simple from the outside, but when you are involved in a situation like this, it is so difficult to reason with someone who is just out to cause as much upset as possible. There are people on here who know this situation, and while we appreciate advice from DIMIA's point of view, i personally feel we are being criticised for our handling of this situation. The ex-partners we have mentioned are irrational, awkward, and will do anything to hurt us, while we all still try to do the best by our kids. I think only those going through this can really understand what we mean.
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Hang in there Tracey. We know how you feel. Marks ex is exactly the same. If he did the meds behind her back she would also stop him from seeing J. She has done it before. Its all very well people saying about going to court but its not that easy and very expensive. She would get legal aid, and as with the divorce she made everything difficult and M ended up with a £7k bill because of all her messing about.
We are going to try to speak to CO in the next few days to see what the options are.
Keep your chin up.
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We are going to try to speak to CO in the next few days to see what the options are.
Keep your chin up.
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Hiya Joe,
Its just such a nightmare!
Hubby spoke to c/o this morning and he said that we need to do a stat dec stating that we have tried to get a medical done by B's mother, and she wont allow it, nor will she sign a stat dec stating this. Get our stat dec witness by solicitor (ie legal document).
He says they would accept that! So hopefully that is ok.
I hope things work out the same for you!
Tracey
Its just such a nightmare!
Hubby spoke to c/o this morning and he said that we need to do a stat dec stating that we have tried to get a medical done by B's mother, and she wont allow it, nor will she sign a stat dec stating this. Get our stat dec witness by solicitor (ie legal document).
He says they would accept that! So hopefully that is ok.
I hope things work out the same for you!
Tracey
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Hang in there Tracey. We know how you feel. Marks ex is exactly the same. If he did the meds behind her back she would also stop him from seeing J. She has done it before. Its all very well people saying about going to court but its not that easy and very expensive. She would get legal aid, and as with the divorce she made everything difficult and M ended up with a £7k bill because of all her messing about.
We are going to try to speak to CO in the next few days to see what the options are.
Keep your chin up.
Joex
We are going to try to speak to CO in the next few days to see what the options are.
Keep your chin up.
Joex
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