Is anyone else the Black Sheep?
Sep 3rd 2007 | 2:51 am
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Re: Is anyone else the Black Sheep?
Sod em, I have given up now!!!!!!
2 months ago my husband bought me an IPOD and the BOSE Docking station and then we bought an Nintendo WII, My parents have slagged us off for spending so much money (What the hell has it to do with them anyway), But yesterday they went out and bought the same
. When we bought our plasma tv, they went out a week later and got a slightly bigger one - just out of spite.
I think they are jealous - and I have no idea why. It seems like a competion to them, I'm sure of it. My mother says that my children are spoilt - I don't think they are, I just like to give them the best in life.
I feel as if I am fighting a losing battle with them. I know my parents are wishing that we fail in Canada - as they have told me so, they have even said that they put money on us being home within 6 months, What kind of parents do this............................
2 months ago my husband bought me an IPOD and the BOSE Docking station and then we bought an Nintendo WII, My parents have slagged us off for spending so much money (What the hell has it to do with them anyway), But yesterday they went out and bought the same
. When we bought our plasma tv, they went out a week later and got a slightly bigger one - just out of spite.I think they are jealous - and I have no idea why. It seems like a competion to them, I'm sure of it. My mother says that my children are spoilt - I don't think they are, I just like to give them the best in life.
I feel as if I am fighting a losing battle with them. I know my parents are wishing that we fail in Canada - as they have told me so, they have even said that they put money on us being home within 6 months, What kind of parents do this............................
The old saying you can chose your friends not your family seems very apt in this case.
Keep using BE to let off steam and put a smile on your face when it comes to your family
Sep 3rd 2007 | 3:00 am
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Re: Is anyone else the Black Sheep?
Karla
Its easy to say and so easy to type, but letting off steam in here will help.
We have the same with both familys, all waiting for us to fall or return after a short stint, but the way we look at it, Both sets are going into there retirement, both sets have had the chance to make the move when we was smaller and both sets decided to stick it out in the uk.
NOW they see the uk and think "what if"
Dont let them get you down, make a good life for you and the little ones and then sit back and watch the uk!!!!!!
It makes my blood boil to see retired people living off what the goverment say, but we have made the choice to invest our money and time in a country that fingers crossed will bring jobs for our children and grand children to come
{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}
Friends are good sometimes family just want to make you :curse: but all i say to them is "bless them" hehehehehehehe
gill
Its easy to say and so easy to type, but letting off steam in here will help.
We have the same with both familys, all waiting for us to fall or return after a short stint, but the way we look at it, Both sets are going into there retirement, both sets have had the chance to make the move when we was smaller and both sets decided to stick it out in the uk.
NOW they see the uk and think "what if"
Dont let them get you down, make a good life for you and the little ones and then sit back and watch the uk!!!!!!
It makes my blood boil to see retired people living off what the goverment say, but we have made the choice to invest our money and time in a country that fingers crossed will bring jobs for our children and grand children to come
{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}
Friends are good
sometimes family just want to make you :curse: but all i say to them is "bless them" hehehehehehehegill
Sep 3rd 2007 | 3:32 am
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Re: Is anyone else the Black Sheep?
If I did not have you guys and BE then I don't know what I'd do.
Thank you all so much for listening/Reading about my problems, your all so fantastic
Karla x x x
Thank you all so much for listening/Reading about my problems, your all so fantastic
Karla x x x
Sep 3rd 2007 | 4:37 am
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Re: Is anyone else the Black Sheep?
So will your folks be allowed to visit then?
My sister already said SK looked dreadful from a crap bit of videoing we did on our reccie....we were too busy to bother doing it right?
I will remember this when she is looking a free loading holiday at my fantastic Canadian home
Alison
xo
Ps, this place is so addictive because we are the only other peeps who truly know what each other is experiencing. IMO
My sister already said SK looked dreadful from a crap bit of videoing we did on our reccie....we were too busy to bother doing it right?
I will remember this when she is looking a free loading holiday at my fantastic Canadian home
Alison
xo
Ps, this place is so addictive because we are the only other peeps who truly know what each other is experiencing. IMO
Sep 3rd 2007 | 5:02 am
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Re: Is anyone else the Black Sheep?
well i for one agree
this is the only place that everyone knows what we are doing and going through.
but hay if everyone was happy we were going we would wonder why and what do they want ???
but my oh his family just give him the guilt trip
we will never see are grand child ever again but hay you moved and gave us the chance so deal with it
but they are the ones that are going to suffer the loss not us so ask for god to wrap his arms around you and his hand across your mouth when you talk them and things will be fine when you go over dont talk about it if they bring it up tell them you dont want to talk about it as it just brings up hard feelings and you dont want that
you want YOUR LAST memories of them to be happy ones
as you may never see them again as you know flight only go from canada to the uk
good luck cj
this is the only place that everyone knows what we are doing and going through.
but hay if everyone was happy we were going we would wonder why and what do they want ???
but my oh his family just give him the guilt trip
we will never see are grand child ever again but hay you moved and gave us the chance so deal with it
but they are the ones that are going to suffer the loss not us so ask for god to wrap his arms around you and his hand across your mouth when you talk them and things will be fine when you go over dont talk about it if they bring it up tell them you dont want to talk about it as it just brings up hard feelings and you dont want that
you want YOUR LAST memories of them to be happy ones
as you may never see them again as you know flight only go from canada to the uk
good luck cj
Sep 3rd 2007 | 6:07 am
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Re: Is anyone else the Black Sheep?
Karla,
As they say, don't let the bastards get you down. Just be happy in the knowledge that you will soon not have to deal with your families' petty, childish and jealous behavior. Shame on them.
As they say, don't let the bastards get you down. Just be happy in the knowledge that you will soon not have to deal with your families' petty, childish and jealous behavior. Shame on them.
Sep 3rd 2007 | 9:12 am
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Thats it, I've had enough......................................:curse ::curse:
When you all started out in your quest to move to Canada did anyone elses parents and Family try and stand in your way?
Things were looking good for a while, my parents were coming around to the idea of us moving to Canada and they were even talking about coming to visit us once we settled in, my sister was happy in her new flat and just got her self a new boyfriend and then BANG all hell breaks loose.
My sister is now pregnant and is due just before we move, now she hasn't got much money neither has her boyfriend so my husband and I have given her most of the baby stuff she will need (Cot, steamer, clothes, highchair, rocker etc etc) and my parents have bought her the rest including a new pram.
Now if that was you, you'd thank me for the things I have given but NO, my parents are now saying that I am jealous of her and the things that they are buying for her unborn baby (yet I have 3 fantastic children of my own and I don't want anymore). I am not jealous and there is nothing that my sister has or will ever have that I would be jealous of. My sister likes to stir and be number one in my parents eyes, she tells me that she hopes Canada doesn't work out and that she hopes I'll lose everything in the process.
I know family will try anything to stop me going but the past 8 weeks have been a nightmare, my parents are even in competition now with my husband and I (this week its who has the best IPOD - Sad I know). At one point I thought "Whats the Point" but then I looked at my children and I knew it was the right thing to do...............So Canada here we come. I really want them to see the plus side of moving and I know that it will be hard for them, but I just wished they would try.
Sorry to go on abit but I had to talk with someone.
Karla x x x
When you all started out in your quest to move to Canada did anyone elses parents and Family try and stand in your way?
Things were looking good for a while, my parents were coming around to the idea of us moving to Canada and they were even talking about coming to visit us once we settled in, my sister was happy in her new flat and just got her self a new boyfriend and then BANG all hell breaks loose.
My sister is now pregnant and is due just before we move, now she hasn't got much money neither has her boyfriend so my husband and I have given her most of the baby stuff she will need (Cot, steamer, clothes, highchair, rocker etc etc) and my parents have bought her the rest including a new pram.
Now if that was you, you'd thank me for the things I have given but NO, my parents are now saying that I am jealous of her and the things that they are buying for her unborn baby (yet I have 3 fantastic children of my own and I don't want anymore). I am not jealous and there is nothing that my sister has or will ever have that I would be jealous of. My sister likes to stir and be number one in my parents eyes, she tells me that she hopes Canada doesn't work out and that she hopes I'll lose everything in the process.
I know family will try anything to stop me going but the past 8 weeks have been a nightmare, my parents are even in competition now with my husband and I (this week its who has the best IPOD - Sad I know). At one point I thought "Whats the Point" but then I looked at my children and I knew it was the right thing to do...............So Canada here we come. I really want them to see the plus side of moving and I know that it will be hard for them, but I just wished they would try.
Sorry to go on abit but I had to talk with someone.
Karla x x x
Wow! Hmmmmmmmm What do you say to all that! I think with all that has been said, I'd be on the first plane out of there. Think as a parent what's best for your kids!
Sounds like your Sis is a little jealous of your adventure! Best thing to do GO & then invite them to your nice house & all that Canada has to offer.
You will have the last say that's for sure. Although you do seem to be struggling for a little family support, especially when you need it most!
I wish you luck
Gary
Sep 3rd 2007 | 8:55 pm
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Sep 3rd 2007 | 9:03 pm
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Re: Is anyone else the Black Sheep?
CAN i join 
I've been the black sheep ever since me and OH got togeather....
So now I HAVE decided we are moving to canada and I AM taking the grand kids away from there grandparents, then im blacker than black
O well nice to know others have the same problems
Shame they cant see that its not me getting a job, so why not kick at OH, blue eyed boy :curse::curse:
Its ok ive just had a gut full yesterday...come on dancers buy my house
I've been the black sheep ever since me and OH got togeather....
So now I HAVE decided we are moving to canada and I AM taking the grand kids away from there grandparents, then im blacker than black
O well nice to know others have the same problems
Shame they cant see that its not me getting a job, so why not kick at OH, blue eyed boy :curse::curse:
Its ok ive just had a gut full yesterday...come on dancers buy my house
Sep 3rd 2007 | 9:36 pm
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Re: Is anyone else the Black Sheep?
im feeling the opposite to you guys. My mum and sister are very supportive, Mum wanted to go herself when she was my age, but didnt feel she could leave her parents as her only brother emigrated to oz. Doesnt want me to have the same regrets.
I have always wanted to move to Canada for as long as i can remember but am already dreading the airport, my sister is my best friend and i hate the thought of not being there when her kids are born etc. All my aunts and uncles emigrated so i feel we missed out on that and now im doing the same to my future niece's and nephews.
Im working on them all to move out with me, my longing to live in canada is strongest at the moment so we'll just have to wait and see.
I just feel life here in Scotland anyway is rubbsih, could be soo much better in canada.
i feel for all you guys who arent getting the support though,
I have always wanted to move to Canada for as long as i can remember but am already dreading the airport, my sister is my best friend and i hate the thought of not being there when her kids are born etc. All my aunts and uncles emigrated so i feel we missed out on that and now im doing the same to my future niece's and nephews.
Im working on them all to move out with me, my longing to live in canada is strongest at the moment so we'll just have to wait and see.
I just feel life here in Scotland anyway is rubbsih, could be soo much better in canada.
i feel for all you guys who arent getting the support though,
Sep 3rd 2007 | 10:19 pm
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Re: Is anyone else the Black Sheep?
Just thought that I'd add to this thread to say, I am one of the lucky ones with a supportive Mum. However, the in-laws are the opposite and I really feel for my wife.....
We are due to make our final decision in two weeks on whether or not to emigrate to Canada. I know that she is going through hell with the guilt trip that her parents will give her (us) if we decide to go. We haven't told them yet of our intentions but we do suspect that they already have guessed judging by the hints and probing thats been going on.
I've always longed to go to Canada for myself, but now that we have two young children, I know it is the best bet for the future. The UK has had its day and the future does not hold as much promise.
I think what comes out of this thread is that some families are either over envious or simply selfish. No one likes to leave their family, but when they are not supportive it can have the opposite effect. Even if they reject us we would still want them to come over to see for themselves and to appreciate that what we do is for the benefit of their grandchildren and all their subsequent dependants.
I hope it helps you Kara that you are not the only one with this problem. I know it's harsh, but my view is that if they can't support you then they're not worth worrying about. It is your immediate family that matter and hopefully when you make the plunge, your parents and inlaws will see the light and come cup in hand for nice family holidays out there with you in your nice big house with space around and a happier more secure outlook on life. This is what Canada offers. If you really want to go, do it before it is too late or you will end up with regrets. So many do as this forum proves.
Good luck.
We are due to make our final decision in two weeks on whether or not to emigrate to Canada. I know that she is going through hell with the guilt trip that her parents will give her (us) if we decide to go. We haven't told them yet of our intentions but we do suspect that they already have guessed judging by the hints and probing thats been going on.
I've always longed to go to Canada for myself, but now that we have two young children, I know it is the best bet for the future. The UK has had its day and the future does not hold as much promise.
I think what comes out of this thread is that some families are either over envious or simply selfish. No one likes to leave their family, but when they are not supportive it can have the opposite effect. Even if they reject us we would still want them to come over to see for themselves and to appreciate that what we do is for the benefit of their grandchildren and all their subsequent dependants.
I hope it helps you Kara that you are not the only one with this problem. I know it's harsh, but my view is that if they can't support you then they're not worth worrying about. It is your immediate family that matter and hopefully when you make the plunge, your parents and inlaws will see the light and come cup in hand for nice family holidays out there with you in your nice big house with space around and a happier more secure outlook on life. This is what Canada offers. If you really want to go, do it before it is too late or you will end up with regrets. So many do as this forum proves.
Good luck.
Sep 4th 2007 | 3:47 am
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Hi everyone,well i have had my problems with the other half{girlfriend}i had a job offer with Edge 3 years ago,at that time i was living in Watford,Steph said "move to the Isle Of Wight and we will look at Canada",so i moved to the Isle Of Blinking Wight instead of Canada.When i had the interview with Edge Steph wouldnt go to Canada as i would be away for a number of days,so after doing another Recce i got in touch with westcan,Interviewed and offered a job on their petrol Tankers.{Edge found out about this interview and cancelled my LMO}.I would be home every day,no nights out,was Steph Happy? NO!!,She still wont go.I want to go to OZ She says,OK i said,We had an interview,Yes we can get in on the 457 Visa,placement in Bunbury WA.We will go next year she says,the 457 visa is scrapped/taken away.My Mother is saying "Phil she wont leave do it yourself".I am going on my own to Canada,house almost sold,it is so unbearable living under the same roof,i know i am doing the correct thing,my gain,Stephs loss.I now have my LMO for Edge,again.I will be going hopefully in 4-6 weeks,my mother is so chuffed.{that doesnt mean she hates me}I am fortunate,my Mum says this country{UK} has had it. Never forget,if it doesnt work out you can always come back.Its better to fail by trying,than by failing and not trying!!So what have i lost;3 years by trying to convince my girlfriend,i cant get those 3 years back,not only that,one day these gates may close for truckers in canada from abroad.Good Luck to each and everyone of you black sheeps.Good thread karla.Phil.
Wow, has Steph made a mistake! You wait, you'll get settled & she'll realise the mistake she has made.
But will you take her back is the question?
But fair play to you for getting on with it, & I think your Mom is right too.. The Uk has had its day!
All the best
Gary
Sep 4th 2007 | 4:19 am
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Hi All,
Our families have been great. They are a little sad obviously, but they can see the way the Uk is going & that for all concerned it will be the best move.
We too also had the comment about "Great cheap hols"
Not sure if this is the right way or not! But about 15 years ago, some friends of ours emigrated to New Zealand. It came as a great shock, as they didn't tell anyone about their plans.They finally announced what they were intending to do 2 week's before actually going. After we had got over the initial shock, I asked them why they had kept this a secret for 2 years?
They replied:
"We told family earlier but didn't tell our friends because we didn't want to be persuaded to stay" as well as trying to cope with emigrating as well. It just adds to the stress of it all.
So after reading this thread, & some of the things that have been said by family & friends, to those members who are taking the "Leap of faith" I think what my friend did was a wise decision!
I'm sure most mean well, its just a shock to Mum's & Dad's ear's. As regards friends, I think if they are real mate's they would support & be pleased for you, not add negative comments to an already stressful situation.
But only you know really how your family & friends will react!
Best of luck all
Gary
Our families have been great. They are a little sad obviously, but they can see the way the Uk is going & that for all concerned it will be the best move.
We too also had the comment about "Great cheap hols"
Not sure if this is the right way or not! But about 15 years ago, some friends of ours emigrated to New Zealand. It came as a great shock, as they didn't tell anyone about their plans.They finally announced what they were intending to do 2 week's before actually going. After we had got over the initial shock, I asked them why they had kept this a secret for 2 years?
They replied:
"We told family earlier but didn't tell our friends because we didn't want to be persuaded to stay" as well as trying to cope with emigrating as well. It just adds to the stress of it all.
So after reading this thread, & some of the things that have been said by family & friends, to those members who are taking the "Leap of faith" I think what my friend did was a wise decision!
I'm sure most mean well, its just a shock to Mum's & Dad's ear's. As regards friends, I think if they are real mate's they would support & be pleased for you, not add negative comments to an already stressful situation.
But only you know really how your family & friends will react!
Best of luck all
Gary
