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Old Apr 25th 2010, 9:36 pm
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Originally Posted by Fly Away View Post
We should at least try to make ethical choices. It's not impossible to avoid porn or most things made in china or eating meat. The only things we really need are food and shelter. Everything else is choice.
Mate, the only things not made in China are our kids

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Old Apr 26th 2010, 12:59 am
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Originally Posted by sonlymewalter View Post
It does negate your point mate as the point is we all buy unethical crap to satisfy our needs,

Sorry, The "I can't change everything so I will change nothing" mentality doesn't fly with me - I do what I can, always have always will - I am proud of that
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Old Apr 26th 2010, 1:05 am
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Originally Posted by Shellfish View Post

Sorry, The "I can't change everything so I will change nothing" mentality doesn't fly with me - I do what I can, always have always will - I am proud of that
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So...your logic is the same then i.e most people buy porn as they believe it is consenting adults making porno films.

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Old Apr 26th 2010, 1:55 pm
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Originally Posted by Kapri View Post
Another porn aspect that nobody has mentioned is the negative effect it can have on an individuals sex life.

If used occasionally then a lot of people can find it enhances their experience. However, some men (and women) use it so often that they find it difficult to *perform* without it.

It's also much easier now to get hold of more and more explicit porn - people can find that something unexpected (and illegal) turns them on and this can create problems.

For some people it's not as simple as someone looking at a copy of Razzle.
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Old Apr 26th 2010, 5:37 pm
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Old Apr 26th 2010, 6:23 pm
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Originally Posted by verystormy View Post
I have a bit of a problem!

As some of you are aware i work away from home and called the wife last night who was VERY upset. Turns out she had gone through the computer and discovered i have looked at some "naughty" sites.

I think most guys do / have, but havent a clue what to say to her. Its not easy being stuck here talking over the phone.

Help please
As a few other people on here have said, try and think of it from your wife's point of view. She would certainly not be unique in being upset as women often have a very different view on this than men do.

Next, consider whether you think it's unreasonable for her to be upset - ignore what you think "most guys" might think. If you do think that she's being unreasonable then you need to reassure her (see earlier posts about the reasons it is likely to make her feel upset) and try to get her to see things differently if it's that important to you.

However, following this conversation with her, if your wife is still really upset regardless of how normal you believe it is, you need to decide what is more important to you - your wife's feelings or your wank sites.

Don't forget that what "most guys do/have" is a bit of a red herring since she is married to you and not to "most guys"!

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Old Apr 27th 2010, 1:16 am
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Default Re: Need "personal" advice

Originally Posted by verystormy View Post
I have a bit of a problem!

As some of you are aware i work away from home and called the wife last night who was VERY upset. Turns out she had gone through the computer and discovered i have looked at some "naughty" sites.

I think most guys do / have, but havent a clue what to say to her. Its not easy being stuck here talking over the phone.

Help please
I feel for your wife, could she be feeling betrayed and as if the trust has been broken? Possibly not so much upset because of the sites you've been looking at but because she didn't know about it or suspect it? Your wife possibly never thought in a million years that this would be the kind of thing you'd be into and therefore didn't see it coming which then means when she found it on the pc she'd have been shocked, upset and wouldn't know what to think or do.

I think communication is very important along with honesty here.

I hope you can sort it out and reach a compromise.

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Old Apr 27th 2010, 8:12 am
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Tell her to put out more than you need, or at least lend you her best looking mate, so that you actually dont need to look or want relief elsewhere.

Wimmin just dont get it sometimes. '

Cant believe how selfish some women can be.
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Old Apr 27th 2010, 11:06 am
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Originally Posted by ozzieeagle View Post
Tell her to put out more than you need, or at least lend you her best looking mate, so that you actually dont need to look or want relief elsewhere.

Wimmin just dont get it sometimes. '

Cant believe how selfish some women can be.


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I am quite concerned we haven't heard from the OP. Do you think he's become 'porned out'?
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Old Apr 27th 2010, 11:37 am
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Originally Posted by TiddlyPom View Post
I am quite concerned we haven't heard from the OP. Do you think he's become 'porned out'?
He's probably a dead man walking mate
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Old Apr 27th 2010, 11:39 am
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Old Apr 28th 2010, 1:46 am
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Originally Posted by TiddlyPom View Post
I am quite concerned we haven't heard from the OP. Do you think he's become 'porned out'?
He took some of the advice posted on here literally?
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Originally Posted by ozzieeagle View Post
Tell her to put out more than you need, or at least lend you her best looking mate, so that you actually dont need to look or want relief elsewhere.

Wimmin just dont get it sometimes. '

Cant believe how selfish some women can be.
I have to agree with this. If the wife was actually fulfilling the husbands needs in the bedroom he wouldn't need to even go on porn sites.

At the end of the day, it's her own fault, she shouldn't be so selfish.
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Originally Posted by verystormy View Post
I have a bit of a problem!

As some of you are aware i work away from home and called the wife last night who was VERY upset. Turns out she had gone through the computer and discovered i have looked at some "naughty" sites.

I think most guys do / have, but havent a clue what to say to her. Its not easy being stuck here talking over the phone.

Help please
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