I should have thouht it out better, my Dad works in same place as I do has been there 37 years and hates it as much as I do, think I should have gone done that route, or the illegal immigrantes may have worked, his pet hate

P.S. completely off subject, thanks for PM Rach added you in, much appreciated

Anyway what is it with parents going totally upset over that news???? As a mother of 2 young boys (2 and 6) all I want for my boys is to be happy in life and fulfill every dreams they may have. I don't want them regretting anything in life... no such thing as I should have!!! My parents live 800km from Toronto and well my mother comes like once every 2-3years and my dad once every 10 months. So I don't think I'll see much of them when I'm in Oz. I suggested they buy a webcam but they were not very happy with the idea. Good luck with your parents!!!
Oh and I was home this last Xmas and my dad instead of concentrating on the fact that I was there for Christmas, he was living in the future already!!! Totally ignoring the fact that I was there sitting right next to him!!!!!!!!!! Crazy isn't it?
I believe that showing too much attachment to your children is not showing them how much you care about them. THAT'S IT!!!

you are more than welcome
rach

My folks seemed to be totally cool with the idea - which I sprang on them when I got back form holiday....might be something to do with the fact that there was a bloke involved and at 35 they were just relieved I'd got back into a relationship at last

Ha Ha Ha Ha
Mine are relieved I've got rid of mine

lol mine were definitely relieved I got rid of the last one....which they were happy to tell me about in detail after the fact. Funny how they always do that isn't it

OOOOHHHHH YES
Never realised what idiots I've been out with until afterwards when they really let rip. Think it would be better to do this before hand would save a lot of effort. You could just say "Thanks Mum you're right, his green hair really does clash with my purple furniture......NEXT"

Emma,

What a nightmare! I've had it easy compared to a lot of you as my parents are coming with us, but its been tough enough dealing with friends and extended family. My girls nights out have been tearful for some weeks now and the constant outpouring becomes very draining after a while, I've got a while to wait yet so I can only imagine it getting worse.

Emma, how about softening the blow and suggesting to your parents that your going to try it for a year or so? It may not be completely dishonest and is easier to accept than forever?

Michaela

Ha Ha Ha . Interestingly (and this may be off the point of this thread) but they always have such high hopes for the next one. Eternal optimists (bit like me really dashing half way round the world for some fella )

Hi Michaela
That really is not a bad idea at all, I just need them to calm down a bit, will leave it a few days. IN the meantime might start having my girls' nights out now, will get about a years worth of them buying me beer

Must admit, I've made the most of it, I've had quite a few "last weekend away with the girls" and another planned for Feb! Gotta make the most of them whilst I've got some friends! Just wish they'd stop crying and get the round in!

Our two Mums didn;t take the news very well - so I just change the subject if it comes up now - I have heard all their reasons not to go at least four times - no longer interested.

I was really worried about telling my grandparents because my dad ( their only son) died two years ago, my sister and their only great grand child are already in NZ, my mum is out there at the mo and not due back before we go, no other family so they might feel like they are being abandoned. (they are in their 80s and a bit frail)

So I told them the job had come up out of the blue from a contact we made while out there (white lie), that it was for two years (white lie) and we didn;t want to pass up on the opportunity(true).

Luckily hubby and Grandma had had a chat about him wanting a new challenge when we visited before Xmas so she was really pleased for us, and even said 'I suppose if you like it you can extend the contract'.

So...(i get to the point )prepare the land a little bit - have a bit of a whinge about how bad it all is in this country etc etc - put Neighbours on and comment on how lovely Aussie looks and then tell them.

It might seem devious but it is better for everyone in the long run.

Hi

I don't post very often although I'm a regular on the forum. Whenever this topic comes up it always strikes a chord with me! My parents know of our plans to move to Sydney and are fine about it but my other half hasn't told his yet - can't say I blame him after their reaction when he told them a few years ago that we were going for a year on a working holiday... Both were very upset but his Mum in particular took it very badly. She cried constantly from when we broke the news until we left and since we've come home she's never let an opportunity pass to say how much she missed us when we were away and how it was the worst year of her life! I think he should tell them once we've applied as this will give them time to get used to the idea but he doesn't want to tell them until we have the visa in hand and our flights booked. I think this might make it even worse as when they find out how long it takes to plan this and for the visa application itself to be processed they'll no doubt be very hurt that we didn't say anything.

Anyway, I just wanted to say I empathise with anyone who has family difficulties with the whole going to Oz thing!

Cheers,

Bidd

My parents are convinced the only reason we are going is to be with my bilogical parents !!! .
Gave them beautiful pictures of the Grandchildren for xmas to which there were lots of tears and guilt trips and we havent even got our visa yet !!!