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No she was at the very end of her lot, which borders mine, and in being there (1) making sure the smoke doesn't enter her own house, and (2) hiding the fact she was smoking from her daughter, whom she'd told she'd quit.
Not very sensitive to neighbour's wishes if you ask me. My right to breathe clean air overrides hers to smoke.
But then again I probably won't get much sympathy on this site as Brits are a bunch of puffers anyway...
Not very sensitive to neighbour's wishes if you ask me. My right to breathe clean air overrides hers to smoke.
But then again I probably won't get much sympathy on this site as Brits are a bunch of puffers anyway...
I believe in polite neighbors as well, and would have very politely told you what you could do with your "intake".
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Either you're a smoker or have been brainwashed by them. Smokers seem to think there's an invisible wall around them about 3 feet in diameter that channels smoke away from the people around them.
The toxins need to go somewhere, and if there is any air flow, it usually goes in one direction.
The toxins need to go somewhere, and if there is any air flow, it usually goes in one direction.
But I do sympathise.... we have neighbours downstairs who smoke (we're in an apartment) and our laundry room smells like smoke constantly.
But like people have said, she's smoking outside and it's her property.... perhaps it would be nice if she moved further away from your house, but it's not like she's spitefully blowing it into your a/c. Have you considered febreze?
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Either you're a smoker or have been brainwashed by them. Smokers seem to think there's an invisible wall around them about 3 feet in diameter that channels smoke away from the people around them.
The toxins need to go somewhere, and if there is any air flow, it usually goes in one direction.
The toxins need to go somewhere, and if there is any air flow, it usually goes in one direction.
Illinois just went smoke-free in public places, a very strict law - and the smokers have to stay 15 feet from any entrances or windows that open.
And I have asthma, so I've spent a fair amount of time figuring out how far away from smoke I need to be - so as to be ABLE to breathe.
A smoker 50 feet away is really not generally even noticeable.
If you think your right to breathe clean air overrides her right to smoke ON HER OWN PROPERTY, you're definitely in the wrong state and perhaps in the wrong country. Not sure which country would agree with you actually.
As much as I dislike smoking personally, imo, you're way over the top on this one. Sounds very moralistic in addition - if she's hiding if from her daughter, or keeping it out of her house, that's her business really.
And I'd love to see some scientist turn up here - smoke does not go in a concentrated stream in one direction for 50 feet - I'm quite sure of that, but can't quote the science to back it - perhaps someone else will.
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Well she didn't react "politely"...
Same thing happened when we lived in a townhouse with the doors right next to each other and a shared step. So the neighbour was one foot from our front door and the smoke got in our house then. Response was identical. Rude and ignorant.
As for the smoke travelling that far, it DOES, and it DID. You may think I was hallucinating but I know when I smell smoke and I know where it comes from when I do. As stated previously, we are both sensitive to the crap.
Same thing happened when we lived in a townhouse with the doors right next to each other and a shared step. So the neighbour was one foot from our front door and the smoke got in our house then. Response was identical. Rude and ignorant.
As for the smoke travelling that far, it DOES, and it DID. You may think I was hallucinating but I know when I smell smoke and I know where it comes from when I do. As stated previously, we are both sensitive to the crap.
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Well she didn't react "politely"...
Same thing happened when we lived in a townhouse with the doors right next to each other and a shared step. So the neighbour was one foot from our front door and the smoke got in our house then. Response was identical. Rude and ignorant.
As for the smoke travelling that far, it DOES, and it DID. You may think I was hallucinating but I know when I smell smoke and I know where it comes from when I do. As stated previously, we are both sensitive to the crap.
Same thing happened when we lived in a townhouse with the doors right next to each other and a shared step. So the neighbour was one foot from our front door and the smoke got in our house then. Response was identical. Rude and ignorant.
As for the smoke travelling that far, it DOES, and it DID. You may think I was hallucinating but I know when I smell smoke and I know where it comes from when I do. As stated previously, we are both sensitive to the crap.
I do sympathise with not wanting to smell smoke - I certainly don't either. But until laws change, it's pretty much my responsibility to avoid it - I don't feel I can expect smokers on their own property to accomodate me.
My friend can't stand the smell of BBQ grills - but of course, when people grill in their back yard it makes a lot more smoke and smell than one cigarette. But... would you ask/expect that people not BBQ in their backyard?
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I think there is a law of physics dealing with this called entropy.
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"Would you please smoke somewhere else in your yard, as it is going into our house"
Maybe it was the Simon Cowell accent that made her assume I was being stroppy about it.
You can throw all the laws of physics you like at me, but I smell my neighbours' smoke from yards away. Depending on air flow (wind direction) it can be in the back yard or the front. But I know where it's coming from. Since that woman moved out, I haven't smelt smoke in our yard at all, and she moved out before the weather turned cold. Maybe it was just her brand.
Maybe it was the Simon Cowell accent that made her assume I was being stroppy about it.
You can throw all the laws of physics you like at me, but I smell my neighbours' smoke from yards away. Depending on air flow (wind direction) it can be in the back yard or the front. But I know where it's coming from. Since that woman moved out, I haven't smelt smoke in our yard at all, and she moved out before the weather turned cold. Maybe it was just her brand.
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"Would you please smoke somewhere else in your yard, as it is going into our house"
Maybe it was the Simon Cowell accent that made her assume I was being stroppy about it.
You can throw all the laws of physics you like at me, but I smell my neighbours' smoke from yards away. Depending on air flow (wind direction) it can be in the back yard or the front. But I know where it's coming from. Since that woman moved out, I haven't smelt smoke in our yard at all, and she moved out before the weather turned cold. Maybe it was just her brand.
Maybe it was the Simon Cowell accent that made her assume I was being stroppy about it.
You can throw all the laws of physics you like at me, but I smell my neighbours' smoke from yards away. Depending on air flow (wind direction) it can be in the back yard or the front. But I know where it's coming from. Since that woman moved out, I haven't smelt smoke in our yard at all, and she moved out before the weather turned cold. Maybe it was just her brand.
I'm glad that she moved out and has given you a reprieve from the cigarette smoke.
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"Would you please smoke somewhere else in your yard, as it is going into our house"
Maybe it was the Simon Cowell accent that made her assume I was being stroppy about it.
You can throw all the laws of physics you like at me, but I smell my neighbours' smoke from yards away. Depending on air flow (wind direction) it can be in the back yard or the front. But I know where it's coming from. Since that woman moved out, I haven't smelt smoke in our yard at all, and she moved out before the weather turned cold. Maybe it was just her brand.
Maybe it was the Simon Cowell accent that made her assume I was being stroppy about it.
You can throw all the laws of physics you like at me, but I smell my neighbours' smoke from yards away. Depending on air flow (wind direction) it can be in the back yard or the front. But I know where it's coming from. Since that woman moved out, I haven't smelt smoke in our yard at all, and she moved out before the weather turned cold. Maybe it was just her brand.
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"Would you please smoke somewhere else in your yard, as it is going into our house"
Maybe it was the Simon Cowell accent that made her assume I was being stroppy about it.
You can throw all the laws of physics you like at me, but I smell my neighbours' smoke from yards away. Depending on air flow (wind direction) it can be in the back yard or the front. But I know where it's coming from. Since that woman moved out, I haven't smelt smoke in our yard at all, and she moved out before the weather turned cold. Maybe it was just her brand.
Maybe it was the Simon Cowell accent that made her assume I was being stroppy about it.
You can throw all the laws of physics you like at me, but I smell my neighbours' smoke from yards away. Depending on air flow (wind direction) it can be in the back yard or the front. But I know where it's coming from. Since that woman moved out, I haven't smelt smoke in our yard at all, and she moved out before the weather turned cold. Maybe it was just her brand.
I'm thinking about how people / requests are perceived. I was just telling a friend of mine - sometimes we are perceived differently than we see ourselves.
I perceive you, on this issue, as somewhat rightiously indignant, and that you feel you are right and the neighbor is wrong. I wonder if she did too.
I also wonder (and here then Brits, and the yanks, can chime in a disagree with me if they think I'm wrong) that sometimes the Brits and the yanks tangle, just by the way things are phrased - and are thus perceived differently than they were intended to be.
"Would you please smoke elsewhere in your yard..." would possibly be perceived by me not as a request for a favour, but rather as something you EXPECT to be done. If I was telling an employee what to do, that's just how I would phrase it. The word "please" just to be polite, but I would expect compliance. Perhaps that's not what you meant, but I suspect that's how many a yank would take it. And you're also right, sometimes the Brit accent can sound "haughty" to the yanks - unfortunate, and it shouldn't, but sometimes it does.
If I were trying to get that neighbor to do what I'd want, I probably would have said something like "I'd like to ask you for a possible favour... my wife and I are SO extra-sensitive to smoke, that even though you're fairly far from my house, we're still able to smell the smoke. I'm sure you never would have thought of that. Do you suppose there's possibly somewhere else in your yard, a bit further from us that you could smoke? I'd really appreciate it if that would work out."
Now, you might have gotten the same response. But if she was rude to that, then I'd think she was at fault.
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If I were trying to get that neighbor to do what I'd want, I probably would have said something like "I'd like to ask you for a possible favour... my wife and I are SO extra-sensitive to smoke, that even though you're fairly far from my house, we're still able to smell the smoke. I'm sure you never would have thought of that. Do you suppose there's possibly somewhere else in your yard, a bit further from us that you could smoke? I'd really appreciate it if that would work out."
Hah Tracy! All that coming from the lady who just last week stood in a car sales garage ever-so-not-politely telling the manager that he didn't know what he was talking about! I know it's not the same as tactfully asking someone not to smoke on their own property.. but practice what you preach girlfriend!!!
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Incidentally, I can remember being in the bath upstairs at our house in England, and being able to smell fresh cigarette smoke... My hubbie was supposed to have quit smoking, so it struck me as odd. So I got out the bath and looked out the window and sure enough, there he was secretly puffing on a crafty fag... I had no windows open - only the vent that's supposed to dispel moist air... alright he wasn't 50 feet away from the house, but I could still definitely smell it very clearly!
Back to the OP's question... Illinois is very flat but it's also very nice, good schools, good jobs around Chicago area and very civilized! Which is always very important...
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You called? Smoke (a gas mixture) goes from higher concentration to lower concentration in the act of 'diffusion.' Kinetic theory states that the motion of these gas molecules is rapid, constant, and RANDOM. They are bouncing off each other and anything they come into contact with like miniature bouncy balls on crack. The higher the molar mass of the gas (heavier) the longer it takes to diffuse and vice versa. I highly doubt that the OP is smelling her neighbor's cig smoke. 50 ft is a long way for one smoker's fumes to travel.
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Well, it would have been nice if she reacted politely. But I wonder how you put it - as a request, or a demand? And I think here, a lot of people would be quite outraged to be told they shouldn't smoke on their own property - it is quite legal after all. You seem to feel that she "shouldn't" and that you are in the right. Whereas truly imo, you needed to be kindly asking a favour, which she was not obliged to grant. Perhaps you did, I don't know, but I wonder.
I do sympathise with not wanting to smell smoke - I certainly don't either. But until laws change, it's pretty much my responsibility to avoid it - I don't feel I can expect smokers on their own property to accomodate me.
My friend can't stand the smell of BBQ grills - but of course, when people grill in their back yard it makes a lot more smoke and smell than one cigarette. But... would you ask/expect that people not BBQ in their backyard?
I do sympathise with not wanting to smell smoke - I certainly don't either. But until laws change, it's pretty much my responsibility to avoid it - I don't feel I can expect smokers on their own property to accomodate me.
My friend can't stand the smell of BBQ grills - but of course, when people grill in their back yard it makes a lot more smoke and smell than one cigarette. But... would you ask/expect that people not BBQ in their backyard?
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