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Sep 12th 2007 | 5:59 am

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

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I think you went home to quickly....

Sep 12th 2007 | 6:02 am

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

I'm not homesick and I don't think I have been...but I did go through a time where moving to America was the reason for all my problems....which it was not....I could of had them anywhere.......it must be a stage you go thought...because I know a lot of people who have had the same feelings ....

Sep 12th 2007 | 6:04 am

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

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Originally Posted by Kida

I'm sorry i'm not very original here but i can't figure it out myself.
I'm very optimistic person usually, but last 4 months I've been rather
unhappy with no visible reason for it rather than..homesickness..
I live in a beautiful place,have a great OH,have a job, but every morning i'm trying to pull myself out of the bed and wonder where the old myself go?
I feel guilty because the saying "home is where you heart" isn't really working on me.My heart-my husb is here but still i feel so out of place.:curse:
Does anyone have the same feeling of guilt when u have ur perfect life here and it doesn't make you happy?

Sorry i don't know if it makes any sense

Your suffering from the 1st year blues. This does go away eventually - my wife and i have lived in USA for 3 years now (Im 31 shes 29). We still miss home but last time we visited for a holiday we realised that we could never have what we have here in the UK and boy how everything looked soooooooooo small!!

Sep 12th 2007 | 6:06 am

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

I went to the UK last year for 3 weeks ..first time in 4 years ...

I was ready to come back here in 3 days ...

Sep 12th 2007 | 6:12 am

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Kida

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

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I think you went home to quickly....

Maybe.. but i was loosing my mind i just needed to get smth familiar and i missed my family like crazy..it got to the point where i couldn't sleep.

Sep 12th 2007 | 6:15 am

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

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Maybe.. but i was loosing my mind i just needed to get smth familiar and i missed my family like crazy..it got to the point where i couldn't sleep.

You need to go cold turkey for a year at least

Sep 12th 2007 | 6:18 am

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

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You need to go cold turkey for a year at least

:curse:

Sep 12th 2007 | 7:45 am

#53

Elvira

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

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It does???

How can you say that so categorically?

My parents are dead and I have no connection with any other relatives, but there is absolutely no way I would ever consider living here forever, and I know I am not alone.

So you have a huge house and big car.......... so what...

Sep 12th 2007 | 8:00 am

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

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Originally Posted by Elvira

It does???

this is what is doing my head in, if i move back to the states i keep thinking it might as well be forever or whats the point going through all the heart ache moving etc, but then again, i don't think i could stay there forever, mind you i'm not that keen on the UK as i'm back again and not happy here (again), i think, not where i live anyway.

Sep 12th 2007 | 8:00 am

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

I guess I'm in the minority, then. I moved to the USA from Canada 14 years ago. Never had the slightest bit of homesickness, and am utterly uninterested in moving back. The USA is my home now.

Sep 12th 2007 | 8:06 am

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Maybe it's the "across the ocean" thing that scares me. And also i noticed that i miss old european stuff which i thought was boring before

Sep 12th 2007 | 8:07 am

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

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I guess I'm in the minority, then. I moved to the USA from Canada 14 years ago. Never had the slightest bit of homesickness, and am utterly uninterested in moving back. The USA is my home now.

good for you bill, it's comforting to know you're home and for you it's the usa. for me it's england and i am so glad i know where home is because for the peeps that don't know and can't settle it's very distressing.

Sep 12th 2007 | 8:20 am

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

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Yeah I'm married to an american and NO children (as you said till i figure stuff out).I really like it here logically, but the problem is that the feelings are playing tricky game with my head.I keep thinking of this place as the one where i'm gonna live for a while and..it hurts.

I went home not long ago, hoped that i would immediately miss US, but nope
everything felt familiar and mine.
I was even ok with the negatives because i didn't expect them to change.
What I really hoped is that coming back here i will look at everything with different eyes.Well i did and i didn't.
Funny never knew i've been so attached to my previous life/home.

Oh you poor thing. I have had my ups and downs, some years I feel settled, other years I want to run back to mommy. I'm with whomever said don't have kids until you feel somewhat settled

Here's a HUGE HUG for you

Sep 12th 2007 | 8:43 am

#59

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Re: Need your support and some thoughts

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Oh you poor thing. I have had my ups and downs, some years I feel settled, other years I want to run back to mommy. I'm with whomever said don't have kids until you feel somewhat settled

Here's a HUGE HUG for you

Thank you!
Having a baby is a serious move i understand that if i feel now like this no one can guarantee that after having a kid the PMD will layer on what i feel now.
Hopefully it wont take too long..

BE rules btw. Guys, you made my day!!!