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Trixie_b Jul 22nd 2013 9:38 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by SultanOfSwing (Post 10813606)

Why bother? Prayer doesn't deserve respect.

Prayer doesn't deserve it, but the people do.

kimilseung Jul 22nd 2013 9:40 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by SultanOfSwing (Post 10813606)
It is what it is, far better just to keep quiet and stand for a few minutes, rather than risk getting into a barney about it......
It's America, FFS - you might get shot :whistle:


Originally Posted by SultanOfSwing (Post 10813621)
There are places, I'm sure, where not singing the national anthem might get you followed by a couple of good ol' boys who want a word.

This is the paradox, if you are intimidated in to doing it, it really is not worth respecting at any level.

SultanOfSwing Jul 22nd 2013 9:43 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by Trixie_b (Post 10813701)
Prayer doesn't deserve it, but the people do.

No they don't. Nobody deserves anything. They may earn it by not being preachy douchebags like some of their religious compatriots but you're not born deserving respect.

That's just another construct of the woolly, everyone's 'special' era of vomit inducing pap we live in.


Originally Posted by kimilseung (Post 10813704)
This is the paradox, if you are intimidated in to doing it, it really is not worth respecting at any level.

I was being overly facetious for the most part. I don't think, on the whole, there is any intimidation but sometimes it's better to just quietly do something, rather than have to explain yourself o-v-e-r and o-v-e-r again, if you know what I mean.

Pulaski Jul 22nd 2013 9:50 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by SultanOfSwing (Post 10813713)
...... but sometimes it's better to just quietly do something, rather than have to explain yourself o-v-e-r and o-v-e-r again, if you know what I mean.

I do, ..... but apparently HungryHorarse wants to discover it for himself!

SultanOfSwing Jul 22nd 2013 9:55 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by Pulaski (Post 10813724)
I do, ..... but apparently HungryHorarse wants to discover it for himself!

Best of luck to him, then ...

hungryhorace Jul 22nd 2013 10:08 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by Pulaski (Post 10813724)
I do, ..... but apparently HungryHorarse wants to discover it for himself!

I just don't want to (or feel) compelled to show 'respect' in certain situations such as when the national anthem / stars and stripes are bounded about like the situation described above (sports game where a soldier comes out to show how the Yanks took care of those nasty Iraqi's etc). I find the whole situation nauseating. I might add, I choose not to put myself in those situations for the most part.

NB: If i'm at an alumni dinner here, or a corporate / state event, then of course I will stand and show respect.

benblaney Jul 22nd 2013 10:14 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by Holliver (Post 10811966)
Last night I went to a rodeo with my husband. At the beginning of the show all the Americans stood up while the DJ/commentator was saying something (my husband doesn't know exactly what it was, but it was about America and its history). Anyway, he got really angry with me because I didn't immediately leap up and said that I was being disrespectful. When the commentator finished everyone sat down, then about five mins later we all stood up again for the 'Star Spangled Banner'.

I would stand for the anthem (and would stand for any country's anthem).

But I would not stand for some commentator's history lesson.

RoadWarriorFromLP Jul 22nd 2013 10:24 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by robin1234 (Post 10813291)
Anyway, that particular campaign (the burning of Washington etc.) was a resounding British success

The Canadians like to take credit for that.


Originally Posted by hungryhorace (Post 10813433)
If it makes you feel any better, I have the same attitude towards the British flag, though the brain washing levels of patriotism are minuscule compared to here in the US.

Speaking for myself, it doesn't.

It's not a matter of "brainwashing," but of being polite. You can respect the customs of others without necessarily agreeing with them or even liking them.

Likewise, you can stand up for the anthem without supporting every US foreign policy initiative. The Pledge of Allegiance is to the country, not to the government. If you don't agree with it, then don't say it, but disrespecting it is another matter.

And if it makes you feel any better, the Pledge was the creation of a socialist during the late 19th century. It has nothing to do with the Iraq War, or for that matter, with any war in particular.

Sally Redux Jul 22nd 2013 10:26 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by kimilseung (Post 10813313)
But that's the point. Its our house now too.
and I have not heard of anyone trying to shout down the anthem or sing over it.

I can't remember who it was now, but someone on here said their Mum sang 'God Save the Queen' loudly over the top of the US anthem :lol: Different for a visitor I suppose.

Pulaski Jul 22nd 2013 10:42 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by hungryhorace (Post 10813750)
..... NB: If i'm at an alumni dinner here, or a corporate / state event, then of course I will stand and show respect.

So now we learn you apparently have principles that you're not afraid to display, .... unless they would hurt your credibility with your peers, associates, and superiors? :confused: ..... You had already gone done severely in my estimation today, but apparently you haven't reached the bottom of the barrel yet. :unsure:

kimilseung Jul 22nd 2013 10:45 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by Sally Redux (Post 10813779)
I can't remember who it was now, but someone on here said their Mum sang 'God Save the Queen' loudly over the top of the US anthem :lol: Different for a visitor I suppose.

Ha ha, I stand corrected. i expected to be shocked rather than amused.

Sally Redux Jul 22nd 2013 10:50 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by hungryhorace (Post 10813750)
I just don't want to (or feel) compelled to show 'respect' in certain situations such as when the national anthem / stars and stripes are bounded about like the situation described above (sports game where a soldier comes out to show how the Yanks took care of those nasty Iraqi's etc). I find the whole situation nauseating. I might add, I choose not to put myself in those situations for the most part.

NB: If i'm at an alumni dinner here, or a corporate / state event, then of course I will stand and show respect.

I cannot understand why we have to pledge at PTA meetings etc. To me it smacks of paranoia. Not all Americans are into it either. I was a member of a predominantly Jewish group who kept forcing the pledge at meetings, against a majority decision to drop it. One person told me it actually goes against the Jewish belief in not putting a country first (not sure if that's factually correct, but what I was told). There was a lot of graoning and "Oh God not again" last time I went to a school event as well.

sir_eccles Jul 22nd 2013 11:04 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by Sally Redux (Post 10813808)
I was a member of a predominantly Jewish group who kept forcing the pledge at meetings, against a majority decision to drop it. One person told me it actually goes against the Jewish belief in not putting a country first (not sure if that's factually correct, but what I was told).

Interpretation varies but in general Judaism teaches that the law of the land has primacy over Jewish law and you should respect and observe local laws.

yellowroom Jul 22nd 2013 11:21 am

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by Holliver (Post 10811966)
It got me thinking. My questions are - do you stand up for the 'Star Spangled Banner'? Is it disrespectful not to? Is it acceptable not to? Should you stand up for it, even though you are not an American?

I'd love to hear your thoughts and opinions on this. Also, I'd be interested to know what some of the Americans on this board think.

I've had similar experiences at events like rodeo, baseball & NASCAR. I stand when everyone else stands out of respect, fold my hands in front of me (like The Queen, but without the handbag), and also adopt the vague and neutral expression mentioned by others. I don't sing because I couldn't carry a tune in a bucket, and I don't know the words. Never been challenged or feel uncomfortable, but if I was I'd just explain in my very British accent that I was a visitor/resident and not a citizen.

If I was in the UK and an American visitor did the same as me, then I'd be happy that they were being repectful to their hosts. Where is do get uncomfortable is round some of the other patriotic ra-ra stuff going on which to my british sensibilities seem to be inappropriate at a sporting event. I just grit my teeth and think "when in Rome" etc until its over.

hungryhorace Jul 22nd 2013 12:09 pm

Re: Do you stand up?
 

Originally Posted by yellowroom (Post 10813837)
If I was in the UK and an American visitor did the same as me, then I'd be happy that they were being repectful to their hosts. Where is do get uncomfortable is round some of the other patriotic ra-ra stuff going on which to my british sensibilities seem to be inappropriate at a sporting event. I just grit my teeth and think "when in Rome" etc until its over.

That's (pretty) much how I feel. The whole OTT patriotism thing is beyond nauseating.


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