Saxy

as for either of their infidelities that may or may not occur, then that too needs to be looked at as a potential possibility and not swept under the carpet as ofensive

Jo[/QUOTE]

As I said, there are no other options. Suppositions of the type being refered to are completely unnecessary and in this situation not amusing!

Domino

Jo - right on

it has nothing to do with Spain, it applies to any\all countries outside the English language influence.
I am sure the poster will not hit me too hard if I say she obviously is not a bouncy teenager (oh what memories) and I know from my current mobility problems that it can be difficult to just get out in the morning, letalone negotiate a car or bus journey and plod round Al Campo and then get back home. To be surrounded by the cheerful chatter of hundreds, nay thousands, of locals can be like total disorientation. Even now it reminds me of my first visit to Singapore in my teens.

I think it is very brave to make the move complete with the dogs. Our plan involved OH making the move, getting settled and comfortable, el perro coming out by car about 9 months later. Regretably he and I were ill for several months and it took almost 2 years before loading him into car and driving down thru France. But OH also got the car and it has increased her independence and house hunting no end. But not all rentals allow pets.

At the end of the day it must be the choice of the individual and family.
It would be nice to think the OP can make long distance contact with friends or future friends in an area that is flat, with medical and shopping nearby and make a move that will not involve too many follow up moves as she is going to need support on the ground from day 1.

Whatever happens don't just have "A Plan" - have Plan A, Plan B, Plan C, Plan D etc etc all targetted at the Final Goal - living together in peace and harmony.

regards

JLFS

I fyou bothered to read the definition of "DE RODRIGUEZ" that was kindly posted by Agoreira, you will see that, I did not imply infidelity and, simply asked for the English equivalent.

As for the posters who did mention it, some with sad stories of people who thought they had rock solid relationships, were they not pointing out the pitfalls of living in seperate countries?

Saxy

Another one who wants to dance!

For some people the only variation to the plan can be where to live. In this instance her husbands job will be in Mutxamelamel, she loves El Campello, which is ten minutes away by car. As for assistance, I live in the area and if I don't know the answer, I will know some very capable people who do!

Domino

Another one who wants to dance! I do not understand the reference please elucidate

It would seem from this posting that you have information from the OP that is not available to the rest of those on this thread. Therefore any helpful or unhelpful comments\suggestion is totally superfluous and we might as well wrap up this thread and all other associated threads by the OP. Just not sure if it can count as a success or not.

jojojojojo

Sadly, that little comment comes across as though perhaps you're a troll rather than a caring contributor

Jo

Saxy

Oh, I'm sorry didn't you see the humour in it!

dorishaslop

Hello I seem to have opened up a right can of worms here,

I am not offended by any remarks and I have taken all of them on board, My OH and I have already been through a long distance relationship as early in our romance we lived at separate ends of the country, We managed fine then with telephones and web cams, and now there's Skype it should be even easier. We both totally trust each other,
We both have the dream of coming to Spain so that's another plus for us.

I'm just sorry to have started an argument amongst you all, but I am grateful to you all for your input...

Thanks again, Jan.... (Doris is my nickname,) long story for another time perhaps...

Saxy

Posts #43 & 44

lynnxa

I had a feeling you were made of sterner stuff

you'd need to be to even consider coming to live here alone!

my god, when I think back to when we first arrived - me with mobility problems (although mild then), 2 little kids & couldn't speak Spanish

then my OH went away less than 2 weeks later

so glad you're not offended - none of it was personal, as you clearly realise

Domino

originally

now even more

jojojojojo

Well its nice to meet you Jan!! I can remember when I first came over, it was always the plan for my husband to commute until we were settled and he could start his business in Spain (Sadly we're still waiting for that thanks to the recession). My husband stayed for 10 days then had to go back the UK leaving me on my own AAAAGGGGHHHH!!!!! I cried for the first day and night and then had to learn to drive the car on the wrong side of the road and I had to learn not to get lost. I clung to the letting agents of our house cos I sisnt know anyone else and without them I think I'd have left and gone back to the UK. What made it worse was that we came here in February and it did nothing but rain after he left and I seriously wondered what on earth I was doing????

Three years on and I've now got a job and have made friends and love it, but I still miss husband when he's away

jo xxx

HBG

I'm pleased you're not offended and please don't be sorry for starting a debate. Especially in this terrible heat, we get a bit bored at times, and there's nothing worse than a question and answer session without humour.

I use Skype too, but luckily it breaks down when certain people come knocking. Some school friends of mine haven't aged well, and I prefer to remember them as they appear on the photographs from years ago.

I'd rather pay the extra than see their flickering face on my screen when I'm talking to them.

Sue

Hey everyone,

If you feel someone has made an inappropriate post or directed a derogatory remark at another member, please could you report the post so it can be brought to the attention of a moderator so we can deal with it, rather than take a thread off-topic by tackling the person concerned. As it just derails the thread and isn't fair to the OP of the thread or the other people who are contributing to the topic discussion.

Thanks so much.

As you were.

Domino

I have a cantankerous webcam that gets the blame rather than Skype