View Poll Results: Extra-marital affairs
0
17
65.38%
1
0
0%
2
1
3.85%
3+
8
30.77%
Voters: 26. You may not vote on this poll
Be truthful
#31
BE Forum Addict
Joined: Jan 2011
Location: Dubai
Posts: 3,467
Re: Be truthful
Polls like the one posted are generally bollocks as people aren't truthful when it comes to things like this. I can imagine that many who answered 'no' had done and then lied and more had done but had put it out of their memory and so didn't think they did....
DXB - As for boring engineers and architects.... you obviously just just not in the gossip circle. I work in engineering and know many architects and it'd make even you blush with some of the shit that goes on.
DXB - As for boring engineers and architects.... you obviously just just not in the gossip circle. I work in engineering and know many architects and it'd make even you blush with some of the shit that goes on.
#32
BE Forum Addict
Joined: Jan 2011
Location: Dubai
Posts: 3,467
Re: Be truthful
I've still never cheated when in a proper relationship though, whats the point. If you're in it give your all. If you want to go out and have some fun then you obvioulsy shouldn't be in a relationship so do it while single.
#34
Account Closed
Joined: Feb 2011
Posts: 0
Re: Be truthful
Although currently single, I agree...... When I was in a long term relationship I and living in the US I worked closely with this stunning minx of a chick. We and others partied a lot and she often laid it out on a plate for the taking but I was strong and declined.... Came home after six months and then..........split up with my long term GF a few months later...... the moral of this story is.....
I've still never cheated when in a proper relationship though, whats the point. If you're in it give your all. If you want to go out and have some fun then you obvioulsy shouldn't be in a relationship so do it while single.
I've still never cheated when in a proper relationship though, whats the point. If you're in it give your all. If you want to go out and have some fun then you obvioulsy shouldn't be in a relationship so do it while single.
Also, the bravado and bullshit around it is tragic, I bet 99/100 it comes from blokes who think they're cool and worthwhile but are so far from being meaningful that they think it's great to showoff about.
"Hey lads, guess what I did, ****ed someone and my wife doesn't know, but that's good because it'll probably really upset her and cause her a large amount of personal pain"
"Hey lads, guess what I did, ****ed someone and it's helping to keep me and the wife together for the kids, aren't I a good guy"
Whaaaay, pat on the back. Lads lads lads!
****ing tragic.
#35
Re: Be truthful
Exactly mate.
Also, the bravado and bullshit around it is tragic, I bet 99/100 it comes from blokes who think they're cool and worthwhile but are so far from being meaningful that they think it's great to showoff about.
"Hey lads, guess what I did, ****ed someone and my wife doesn't know, but that's good because it'll probably really upset her and cause her a large amount of personal pain"
"Hey lads, guess what I did, ****ed someone and it's helping to keep me and the wife together for the kids, aren't I a good guy"
Whaaaay, pat on the back. Lads lads lads!
****ing tragic.
Also, the bravado and bullshit around it is tragic, I bet 99/100 it comes from blokes who think they're cool and worthwhile but are so far from being meaningful that they think it's great to showoff about.
"Hey lads, guess what I did, ****ed someone and my wife doesn't know, but that's good because it'll probably really upset her and cause her a large amount of personal pain"
"Hey lads, guess what I did, ****ed someone and it's helping to keep me and the wife together for the kids, aren't I a good guy"
Whaaaay, pat on the back. Lads lads lads!
****ing tragic.
#37
Hit 16's
Joined: Mar 2010
Location: Of all the gin joints, in all the towns, in all the world, she walks into mine
Posts: 13,112
Re: Be truthful
For expats, possibly. For those who work permanently in the UK, and don't work/live in a major city, I'd suggest the number is well below 20%.
#38
Account Closed
Joined: Feb 2011
Posts: 0
Re: Be truthful
I cheated on a girlfriend in a different city at a party with people from a different college / school. Turns out the girl I pulled's best friend was friends with someone I went to college with and knew my mrs.
Boom.
Few days after, worlds of trouble.
People can't think they'll get away with it?
Is it just an easier way of saying it's over?
#39
Lost in BE Cyberspace
Joined: Nov 2012
Location: bute
Posts: 9,740
Re: Be truthful
"Cosi fan tutte" in the words of Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart. (They all do this.)
#40
Re: Be truthful
That's a good point actually, related to perception also. If you are outside of the 'gossip' circle so to speak then you really don't have an accurate idea of the reality in your workplace.
#41
Re: Be truthful
50pct of divorces are due to infidelity
theres 25pct right there.
Then there are those that are forgiven, don’t get caught, or simply continue on with a dead marriage. Got to be higher in my opinion.
#42
Re: Be truthful
Amazing to see, well a lot more prevalent in years gone by when the wives used to depart for the summer months the amount of wanker`s (Wifes Away No Kids Eating Rubbish) that used to appear in the less salubrious bars (Jockeys etc etc) and try and disappear surreptitiously whilst meeting the chosen one outside (lol)...the divorce rate for expats must be higher!
#43
Hit 16's
Joined: Mar 2010
Location: Of all the gin joints, in all the towns, in all the world, she walks into mine
Posts: 13,112
Re: Be truthful
Semantics, perhaps, but are those divorces due to infidelity or is the infidelity a symptom of the marriage already having broken down?
#44
BE Forum Addict
Joined: Jan 2015
Posts: 3,520
Re: Be truthful
A: Expat investment banker (with all the models and bottles implications that comes with the world of investment banking) and who's lived in the UAE for a decade and is already on marriage #2 and has alluded to being the child of a broken home too.
B. Hard partying and hard drinking engineer who's been a bachelor expat in the UAE for the past 10 years too and seems to jet off on massive stag dos monthly. And was also a club manager in his early life.
C. Construction project manager who bounces from high risk shithole to high risk shithole across the world and a bachelor expat the entire time.
Do you not think that perhaps these three life circumstances would easily distort the perceptions of life realities, including infidelities? Just something to consider.
#45
BE Forum Addict
Joined: Jan 2015
Posts: 3,520
Re: Be truthful
Would that not suggest there's a small but sizeable enough minority who are responsible for most of the infidelities? The divorce rates you referred to surely must include people already on their second and even third marriages and those marriages breaking up for the too common reason of infidelity? That surely distorts the overall figures. Just a thought.