What was the final straw for you?
Nov 9th 2006 | 12:21 am
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by Rosie Cheeks
Brilliant idea. Can we ask for the return of our sanity aswell when we leave, I would also like to have my original accent fully returned, as I am sounding a teeny weeny bit aussie :scared: on the odd occasion. When I say odd I mean odd.
Nov 9th 2006 | 12:29 am
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by toandfro
no matter what your responsibilites are they are yours no matter where you are. you cannot best serve your loved ones by constantly sacrificing to them you get taken for granted and as the kids are old enough there off . if the burning in your soul draws you home then you real have some talking to do .you can only do so much before you must put you first
Thanks for your insights.
My experience is having been away for soooo long and with a lot of water having passed under the bridge, the pull back home is still there.
Anyone been away a long time and still deal with the desire to return? How do you deal with it?
Cheers
Nov 9th 2006 | 12:37 am
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by gardnma
Thanks for your insights.
My experience is having been away for soooo long and with a lot of water having passed under the bridge, the pull back home is still there.
Anyone been away a long time and still deal with the desire to return? How do you deal with it?
Cheers
My experience is having been away for soooo long and with a lot of water having passed under the bridge, the pull back home is still there.
Anyone been away a long time and still deal with the desire to return? How do you deal with it?
Cheers
Nov 9th 2006 | 1:21 am
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by toandfro
We were away for 26 yrs returned for 7 came back obstensivly for the kids now the plan is to return asap we are no longer needed and we need home. We coped before by supressing the feeling and focusing on the effort of living but the pull was always there.we will miss our adult kids if they choose to stay but what do you do? three boys one desides Aust is the go one go's to the UK and one go's to canada where are you then ? somewhere that isn't home and for no reason
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Nov 9th 2006 | 10:38 am
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by gardnma
Hmmmm.
A question:
Do you "belong" where your responsibilities lie and where you can best serve those whom you love (family),
or:
Do you belong where you are comfortable and at ease and no longer think about "belonging".
Its allways a personal decision in the end, its just nice to hear others' views...
A question:
Do you "belong" where your responsibilities lie and where you can best serve those whom you love (family),
or:
Do you belong where you are comfortable and at ease and no longer think about "belonging".
Its allways a personal decision in the end, its just nice to hear others' views...
Nov 9th 2006 | 10:48 am
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by FPM
I used to ride and race motorbikes in my earlier years. One thing we used to say was that you know when the seat is comfortable, because you don't notice it. I'd say a similar thing about belonging. It just fits, and you go about your daily life not noticing the things that make it comfortable. Alas it's probably for this very reason, we feel there is something better elsewhere, but like so many, we only realise the error when it's too late.
Nov 9th 2006 | 10:55 am
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by RooksieJ
i will never forget the feeling i had when we were driving back to torquay from the airport. nothing but nothing could wipe the smile off my face. i wanted to kiss all the cows in the fields. i remember looking behind me at our eldest daughter in the back seat and just sharing a knowing smile - bliss 
Nov 9th 2006 | 11:28 am
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by Rosie Cheeks
I find it almost kind of sad in a way to skim through the Australia threads written by those who are excitedly arranging their new and better life in Australia. Having been in that position yourself, you know some of them will fail to prove that the Aussie hype is correct and find the whole thing a huge disapointment. It takes an awful lot of effort to organise moving to Australia in the first place, I feel like screaming at them "stop, don't do it!". But they would probably tell you that you don't know what you are talking about, and to get lost.
There are so many coming and going, what a money spinner that must be for somebody, and we know it isn't us - the ones in the middle of it all.
There are so many coming and going, what a money spinner that must be for somebody, and we know it isn't us - the ones in the middle of it all.
Nov 9th 2006 | 12:01 pm
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Some friends of ours in the UK are in the middle of the process. They are giving up a lovely home and he's got a great job with an excellent pension. She is very close to her parents who live just down the road from them.
I have been totally honest with them with everything about Oz. I've explained that this is not a bed of roses, it's the hardest thing they will probably ever do. She asked me once if I could turn back the clock would I do it all again and I couldn't answer her. On one hand it's been a life altering experience and I've learned so much about what I need as a person, on the other hand, I don't think it's been worth the sacrifices we made to get here.
They are still forging ahead with their plans because they say what we all said "What if?".
I have been totally honest with them with everything about Oz. I've explained that this is not a bed of roses, it's the hardest thing they will probably ever do. She asked me once if I could turn back the clock would I do it all again and I couldn't answer her. On one hand it's been a life altering experience and I've learned so much about what I need as a person, on the other hand, I don't think it's been worth the sacrifices we made to get here.
They are still forging ahead with their plans because they say what we all said "What if?".
Nov 9th 2006 | 12:38 pm
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by TraceyW
Some friends of ours in the UK are in the middle of the process. They are giving up a lovely home and he's got a great job with an excellent pension. She is very close to her parents who live just down the road from them.
I have been totally honest with them with everything about Oz. I've explained that this is not a bed of roses, it's the hardest thing they will probably ever do. She asked me once if I could turn back the clock would I do it all again and I couldn't answer her. On one hand it's been a life altering experience and I've learned so much about what I need as a person, on the other hand, I don't think it's been worth the sacrifices we made to get here.
They are still forging ahead with their plans because they say what we all said "What if?".
I have been totally honest with them with everything about Oz. I've explained that this is not a bed of roses, it's the hardest thing they will probably ever do. She asked me once if I could turn back the clock would I do it all again and I couldn't answer her. On one hand it's been a life altering experience and I've learned so much about what I need as a person, on the other hand, I don't think it's been worth the sacrifices we made to get here.
They are still forging ahead with their plans because they say what we all said "What if?".
Nov 9th 2006 | 1:15 pm
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by Rosie Cheeks
I find it almost kind of sad in a way to skim through the Australia threads written by those who are excitedly arranging their new and better life in Australia. Having been in that position yourself, you know some of them will fail to prove that the Aussie hype is correct and find the whole thing a huge disapointment. It takes an awful lot of effort to organise moving to Australia in the first place, I feel like screaming at them "stop, don't do it!". But they would probably tell you that you don't know what you are talking about, and to get lost.
There are so many coming and going, what a money spinner that must be for somebody, and we know it isn't us - the ones in the middle of it all.
There are so many coming and going, what a money spinner that must be for somebody, and we know it isn't us - the ones in the middle of it all.
It's really heartbreaking to know that others will have exactly the same problems and difficulties that we've been through. But like you said, if you did tell them they wouldn't believe you. I suppose that they just have to find out for themselves like we did.
Nov 9th 2006 | 1:21 pm
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by toandfro
sanity no you must have been nuts to this in the first place. accent will return in 2 minutes but you could do a good Aussie impression for pints
My daughter does a brill Aussie impression of "Vodka, Triple Sec & Luuuuuym" she earned loads of drinks doing it.
Nov 9th 2006 | 2:15 pm
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by LouiseD
I was definately on glue when I agreed to sell up all my wordly goods and risk coming here!
My daughter does a brill Aussie impression of "Vodka, Triple Sec & Luuuuuym" she earned loads of drinks doing it.
My daughter does a brill Aussie impression of "Vodka, Triple Sec & Luuuuuym" she earned loads of drinks doing it.
Nov 9th 2006 | 3:50 pm
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by TraceyW
Some friends of ours in the UK are in the middle of the process. They are giving up a lovely home and he's got a great job with an excellent pension. She is very close to her parents who live just down the road from them.
I have been totally honest with them with everything about Oz. I've explained that this is not a bed of roses, it's the hardest thing they will probably ever do. She asked me once if I could turn back the clock would I do it all again and I couldn't answer her. On one hand it's been a life altering experience and I've learned so much about what I need as a person, on the other hand, I don't think it's been worth the sacrifices we made to get here.
They are still forging ahead with their plans because they say what we all said "What if?".
I have been totally honest with them with everything about Oz. I've explained that this is not a bed of roses, it's the hardest thing they will probably ever do. She asked me once if I could turn back the clock would I do it all again and I couldn't answer her. On one hand it's been a life altering experience and I've learned so much about what I need as a person, on the other hand, I don't think it's been worth the sacrifices we made to get here.
They are still forging ahead with their plans because they say what we all said "What if?".
We should start a thread on the Australia forum titled
"For Christ sake, whatever you do DON"T sell your house"
I didn't sell up, I still own my little house, it is now worth (apparently) 4 times what I paid for it. And its not exactly flash.
Nov 9th 2006 | 3:52 pm
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Re: What was the final straw for you?
Originally Posted by toandfro
is that on glue or un glued
What are you suggesting, it is outrageous.
