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Mallory Jan 5th 2011 9:26 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by Englishman43 (Post 9080243)
I think there is , that's when I started to question what am I doing here . For me it was the realization that " O.K if I stay here this is my life : See my family for a week or two each year at best, all the while my parents grow older, my nephews grow up and I'm barely in their lives anymore, I'm surrounded by fake, shallow, materialistic people, I'm paying an arm and a leg in taxes, insurance etc, etc and eventually I'll grow old wither and die with no one around that gives a sh**t " .

Sorry if that's too maudlin but it's the truth - it's really made me think. Like a lot of people say "Stuff" is just stuff, family & friends are what count for everything in life.

Isn't it YOU though that is fake, shallow and materialistic. You were the one that came to the US, probably to enjoy a big house, big car, and a certain lifestyle. You left your family for all those shallow reasons. Now you realise that you miss them, and don't want to stand up and say how shallow you are. Americans aren't leaving in droves to go to the UK, Aussie, NZ and Canada searching for a "better lifestyle."

Englishman43 Jan 5th 2011 9:34 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by Mallory (Post 9080283)
Isn't it YOU though that is fake, shallow and materialistic. You were the one that came to the US, probably to enjoy a big house, big car, and a certain lifestyle. You left your family for all those shallow reasons. Now you realise that you miss them, and don't want to stand up and say how shallow you are. Americans aren't leaving in droves to go to the UK, Aussie, NZ and Canada searching for a "better lifestyle."

You dont know the first thing about me so keep you small minded opinions about me to yourself.
I live in a small rented apartment, I drive a small cheap car and I originally moved here to pursue a sporting career not a "better lifestyle" as I knew it would be no better than were I came from.

Sounds like I hit a raw nerve, what's your real problem ?

ldyinlv Jan 5th 2011 9:41 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by Englishman43 (Post 9080297)
You dont know the first thing about me so keep you small minded opinions about me to yourself.
I live in a small rented apartment, I drive a small cheap car and I originally moved here to pursue a sporting career not a "better lifestyle" as I knew it would be no better than were I came from.

Sounds like I hit a raw nerve, what's your real problem ?

Americans are brainwashed into believing this is the best country in the world, and although it has some wonderful points, it is far from the best.

Englishman43 Jan 5th 2011 9:45 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by ldyinlv (Post 9080308)
Americans are brainwashed into believing this is the best country in the world, and although it has some wonderful points, it is far from the best.

Yup, and I thought this forum was made up of a supportive group of people, helping each other to deal with the troubles & decisions they face day to day.

I suppose you always get a minority of pathetic, spiteful people wherever you go - even here.

ldyinlv Jan 5th 2011 9:48 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by Englishman43 (Post 9080315)
Yup, and I thought this forum was made up of a supportive group of people, helping each other to deal with the troubles & decisions they face day to day.

I suppose you always get a minority of pathetic, spiteful people wherever you go - even here.

I understand exactly what you are saying English, 19 sleeps and a wake up left for me..:)

reeni Jan 5th 2011 9:54 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by ldyinlv (Post 9080319)
I understand exactly what you are saying English, 19 sleeps and a wake up left for me..:)

26 sleeps for me ... and i are panicking. did i dot all the i's and cross all the t's?????

Mallory Jan 5th 2011 9:54 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by Englishman43 (Post 9080315)

I suppose you always get a minority of pathetic, spiteful people wherever you go - even here.

Poor you. :rolleyes:

sallysimmons Jan 5th 2011 9:56 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by Mallory (Post 9080283)
Isn't it YOU though that is fake, shallow and materialistic. You were the one that came to the US, probably to enjoy a big house, big car, and a certain lifestyle. You left your family for all those shallow reasons. Now you realise that you miss them, and don't want to stand up and say how shallow you are. Americans aren't leaving in droves to go to the UK, Aussie, NZ and Canada searching for a "better lifestyle."

Most Americans have no idea that there is such a thing as a better lifestyle because they never go anywhere. They also think America is 'the greatest country in the world,' as if there is some sliding scale of objective greatness, which is laughable.

I'm not sure how you came to the conclusion that we are all in America for 'a better lifestyle' but I came because my company transferred me here. Being one of the people who has experienced other countries, I would now like to leave thank you very much.

Isn't this supposed to be the section of the forum where people can discuss going home? Why attack someone for their feelings just because you don't share them?

ldyinlv Jan 5th 2011 9:56 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by reeni (Post 9080326)
26 sleeps for me ... and i are panicking. did i dot all the i's and cross all the t's?????

I know that...i have moments of sheer panic, melencholly, excitement, its a rollercoaster

Englishman43 Jan 5th 2011 9:57 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by ldyinlv (Post 9080319)
I understand exactly what you are saying English, 19 sleeps and a wake up left for me..:)

Careful , this Mallory character will be along to slag you off in a minute if you keep talking like that :eek:

Mallory Jan 5th 2011 9:57 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by ldyinlv (Post 9080331)
I know that...i have moments of sheer panic, melencholly, excitement, its a rollercoaster

Good luck Jackie! I bet your daughter is sad to see you go though. Is she an American?

ldyinlv Jan 5th 2011 9:58 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by Englishman43 (Post 9080333)
Careful , this Mallory character will be along to slag you off in a minute if you keep talking like that :eek:

Pay no attention to him, obviously just trying to cause trouble...

ldyinlv Jan 5th 2011 9:59 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by Mallory (Post 9080335)
Good luck Jackie! I bet your daughter is sad to see you go though. Is she an American?

Yes shes sad, and yes shes Amerian, and has her own life here.

J.J Jan 5th 2011 10:23 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by Englishman43 (Post 9080333)
Careful , this Mallory character will be along to slag you off in a minute if you keep talking like that :eek:

But looking at her history of Posts, Mallory has previously posted a lot of useful info on the message boards. This is out of character.

I can't help but wonder what starts tizzies such as this, but certainly postings can be read in a completely different tone than intended.

There seem to have been more initial inflammatory statements and more offense taken.

Across the board I have noticed an increase in tizzies generally and wonder if the stresses of the Christmas / New Year season has people more on edge than usual.

There are stresses too in being at the point of making a huge decision to move from overseas and back to UK.

Deep breath in everyone, let it out slow,

ldyinlv Jan 5th 2011 10:26 am

Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
 

Originally Posted by J.J (Post 9080403)
But looking at her history of Posts, Mallory has previously posted a lot of useful info on the message boards. This is out of character.

I can't help but wonder what starts tizzies such as this, but certainly postings can be read in a completely different tone than intended.

There seem to have been more initial inflammatory statements and more offense taken.

Across the board I have noticed an increase in tizzies generally and wonder if the stresses of the Christmas / New Year season has people more on edge than usual.

There are stresses too in being at the point of making a huge decision to move from overseas and back to UK.

Deep breath in everyone, let it out slow,

You are right JJ, I have noticed the same thing....I dont think anyone means to be offensive or rude, maybe just having a bad day, or misunderstood..:)


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