They panic and then drop a few pills, they will happily take 2 antibiotics and say that they cured them of a runny nose or a sprained ankle.

A local Mayor died last year, everyone said it was of Rabies as he had been bitten by a dog, later I found out that the dog had bitten him 11 years before.

What I never understood was they can go from sniveling-death to full health in about 10mins from one paracetamol.

It is all Black Magic, here the kids wear a pouch of garlic and ginger around their necks to protect them from evil ( it does not make them taste any better though ), we dug up the garden but only after we killed a chicken and spread the blood to appease the elves. For some unknown reason there is a pigs head under the footings on our house but it was to stave off some evil spirit or another. There are "Wak/Waks" and "Tic/Tics" floating around the countryside after dark that will take your soul ( no one has ever seen one on the way to a party, just on the way home ). But they are all devout Catholics. Still a bit confused.

My lovely lady is flogging a Face and Body balm amongst other things. It is organic and produced locally....but it has magical healing powers. it cures her stomach problems (caused I think by wolfing down rice too quickly each day) and it cures all the kids ailments from cough, sore throat, colds etc. If they have got something, this cures it. Makes me wonder how she was presented with 3.4k bill at the pharmacy which I mention in my last post.

Her brothers 3 year old son is here being minded by sloth girl (explain later). He has a fever and is off school. But he is running around terrorizing our rabbits that have free reign of the grounds. Waddly sister also has a fever which I found out about on fb. It is full of copious pictures of her laying in bed (her face looking thinner and devoid of spots by the magic of photo editing). Also lots of posts about how she trusts in the Lord to get her through this life threatening crisis. Meanwhile, sloth girl is in our hammock with thumbs going ten to the dozen on her I-phone. Sloth girl is the name I have bestowed upon her youngest sister. She went to college to get a degree and was financed by my lovely lady. I financed her last year at college to the tune of about 90k including living expenses. Never had a job bar a few days since end of March. Cannot cook, wash and does little around her parents house. I have never seen her in a hurry or run anywhere. She has the speed and mentality of a sloth. Content to post on fb about searching for love and lurking around malls when pretending to be looking for a job. The malls she visits are about 10-12 hr return bus ride away and where all her college mates are. This financed by her father. My lovely lady feels cheated and so do I. She is angry with her and I don't blame her although she says little about it to me and I have never seen angry words exchanged. Only on one occasion have I seen angry words exchanged in the family which I find odd as I know tensions exist.

Lovely lady was up at the crack of sparrows this morning doing the washing. This is sad. The way we have supported her lot and gets nothing in return. Yesterday, she bought a weeks supply of goodies for the 3 yr old son of her brother to take to school. She has done this every week bless her. The family come around and pick up the bag full of food, stay for 5 minutes and then leg it. I see no sign of gratitude. The boys father comes home once a month for a weekend with his money. Judging by what I see when he has gone back, a lot of that money is spent on Emperador and Red Horse.

I just wonder if I have dysfunctional family here. Or maybe its normal?

Regards

You should be careful you may soon find your rabbits flying round the garden, ears flapping and a sharpened stick up their backside Mine were when we used to visit once or twice a year. But then when we moved here I sat the wife down and gave here a short list of what I expected and in general they are quite good now.

Takes me back to my schooldays, we used to eat Lemsip out of the packets, like sherbet! Lick yer finger and stick it in the powder, yummy

I financed her last year at college to the tune of about 90k including living expenses.[QUOTE][




WHY !!




Beginning to think its not the family that's dysfunctional........................You have got to be crazy to lob out that kind of money on someone you hardly know.
Despite your best intentions I can see you being bled dry.




Mike K

Mike K,

Why? Simple. That was the only way she could finish her last year in college unless her sister went back to Kuwait to earn money. If I did not help, or she did not go back to Kuwait.....how would my position here look if she failed to complete her course? Untenable.

Regards

[QUOTE=mikek1;12044919]I financed her last year at college to the tune of about 90k including living expenses. Sorry but Im with Mike on this one. I get the impression from all of your posts that you aren't exactly financially stable, waiting on the outcome of your divorce, outstanding loans to family, wife asking for large bank loans etc etc. Why would you splash out such a large amount of money on an extended family member??
I have made it clear to my wife that we will always be there to help her parents, medicines, emergencies etc., but siblings, brothers, sisters, cousins, in-laws are big enough and old enough to look after themselves.

90k for 1 year college is only 7.5k per month so not really a large outlay

Surely that's all relative...

Thanks Gazza. It was 30k up front fees and then 5k pm food and accommodation.

The only time my finances have become tenuous is now because my estranged wife has put in a financial order against me which I am fighting against. Prior to that everything was ok.

All the other siblings fend for themselves (except waddly sister sadly). This other sister was a dependant unlike the others who have a job.

The two previous commentators have not answered my question. What should I have done not to make my position untenable? Mike1 has been forecasting gloom and doom since this story began and thus far has been wrong. Maybe he will be right one day. We will see,

Regards

I didn't answer because I really don't want it seem like I am bashing you or questioning your motives. Its your decision at the end of the day. I just think to myself, what did she do before you came along? and how would she have managed if you weren't there.
I wish you good luck , really I do and I don't forecast doom and gloom for you, I really hope that all ends up well in paradise for you and the lovely lady.

Take care.

Have to disagree, If your LL felt very strongly about you she would not even be thinking about going back to Kuwait. Your LL will always put her family before you.............is that what you really want. You constantly go on about the small loans, and the wobbly sister taking advantage , yet you pay out PHP90K. Something is wrong.


Gazza states its only PHP90K , but if you add on all your other 'outlays' then it mounts up. Get a grip, before its too late.

Thanks for your responses as ever.

David. Thanks for your kind words. To answer the question you posed: The younger sister was supported wholly for the first 3 years in college by my lovely lady who was working as an OFW in Kuwait. When she came back to the Philippines she had one year left on her course. Her employers in Kuwait wanted her back and indeed still do now. She was part of the family there and was to all intents and purposes the "mother" of their 9 month boy. She misses her Kuwait family and indeed her "son". She was providing for her family here also. However, she was also 33 and had the urge to settle down and start her own family life. She could have gone back to Kuwait....or stayed with me.

Mike: I disagree with you obviously. Consider this. You would have read what I said to David above and the question of supporting her younger sister at college came after only about 4 weeks when I arrived here. If I had said no, she almost certainly would have gone back to Kuwait to continue supporting her sister and family. Our relationship was still developing after only a few weeks together. I would have done the same if I was her. I had to show commitment to the relationship and 30k was easily affordable. If it went wrong then I would not be liable for the monthly 5k. She needed me to show commitment and I was happy to do it so that our relationship could blossom. Yes, I could have baulked at that and this story would have ended not long after it started. She has repaid that commitment to me at the cost of her close family ties. They no-longer come around here as they used to do. Her waddly sister gets the visits and she feels left out. Her mother has stopped doing our washing. That's the price she has paid for shielding me from her family excesses. That goes some way to answering your point that she will always choose her family over me. Am I dysfunctional as you suggest? Maybe. Honest. Certainly. I am sad she has been treated this way because of our relationship. If she had chosen me over her sister on this issue she would have ended up as a pariah....and I would be an outcast. Her sister would have wasted 3 yrs and unable to complete her studies. Finally, although you have been predicting doom and gloom publicly, I thank you for your support you have given me privately. As I do the other readers. You know who you are.

Regards