Originally Posted by Irn-bru

I don't know her and if she said that before or after those comments as OP said shes young and happy and just wants her friends to be happy with her, if they weren't I could see her saying that comment being hurt.

I know I never said that when I moved back (I thought I was back for good) but I got all that and the hate US comments (from my OH family) only my family have positive comments to help me here...its sad. Glad I have a couple of friends not like that.

Maybe all cultures are like that and express it in different ways - I don't know but it is sad when people can't be happy for you even if you completely disagree with them and their choices - its just mean and petty IMO.

But I guess the only way to show others how you would like others to act is to lead by example.

Now I sound all self-righteous and pious

Originally Posted by cindyabs

No you don't, but would you like to throw your hat in the presidential race ring?

Originally Posted by sambapink

Some of your know that my Daughter is in the UK for a week (she's the one that had a nightmare on Virgin Flight - 'suspicious sick person' on board!!)
Anyway..as any 18 year old would.. she has completely stretched herself all over the place to see all the friends and family that she can..

She calls me this morning almost in tears saying that she is sick of people saying things like 'oh its not ATM, its cashpoint, your not american ya know' or 'its not Gas its petrol, tut...' Then people saying " so whats it like in California?" and then she tells them they are like "yeah ok, don't rub it in" :curse: WTF?? Do they think she's doing it to show off?? Do they have any idea what its like to live in another country??
What do people expect??? Would they be happier if she was having a terrible time over here?? Mostly I have to say its her friends of the same age.. and yes its an immaturatey and jealously issue i'm sure.. but jeeezzzz ... Some family friends have also made comments!

Ofcourse she has picked up on the slang... infact all 3 of my kids have made an effort to use their friends terminology because they were sick of being picked up for their English expressions!!!

On one hand people are getting annoyed cos she can't spend as much time with them as hoped, and on the other hand their getting narked with her cos shes loving her new life and using Americanisms...

She was so happy to be home on a visit.. (although she never wants to live there again ) and I wanted it to be a really positive visit for her,
I just don't get people sometimes, truely I don't.. What's wrong with just being happy for some???

But s'ok I'm back in UK friday... I'll be telling some home truths and no mistaking

Originally Posted by sambapink

Some of your know that my Daughter is in the UK for a week (she's the one that had a nightmare on Virgin Flight - 'suspicious sick person' on board!!)
Anyway..as any 18 year old would.. she has completely stretched herself all over the place to see all the friends and family that she can..

She calls me this morning almost in tears saying that she is sick of people saying things like 'oh its not ATM, its cashpoint, your not american ya know' or 'its not Gas its petrol, tut...' Then people saying " so whats it like in California?" and then she tells them they are like "yeah ok, don't rub it in" :curse: WTF?? Do they think she's doing it to show off?? Do they have any idea what its like to live in another country??

What do people expect??? Would they be happier if she was having a terrible time over here?? Mostly I have to say its her friends of the same age.. and yes its an immaturatey and jealously issue i'm sure.. but jeeezzzz ... Some family friends have also made comments!

Ofcourse she has picked up on the slang... infact all 3 of my kids have made an effort to use their friends terminology because they were sick of being picked up for their English expressions!!!

On one hand people are getting annoyed cos she can't spend as much time with them as hoped, and on the other hand their getting narked with her cos shes loving her new life and using Americanisms...

She was so happy to be home on a visit.. (although she never wants to live there again ) and I wanted it to be a really positive visit for her,
I just don't get people sometimes, truely I don't.. What's wrong with just being happy for some???

But s'ok I'm back in UK friday... I'll be telling some home truths and no mistaking

Originally Posted by bevinva

All I can say is I'm sorry. Going home is a strange experience for all of us in some ways. You have received some good advise. Part of it might be a lot of Brits tell themselves not all Americans have the CA beach lifestyle so it's not all that really. Then your daughter goes and has just that and they don't know what to say!

Originally Posted by TruBrit

exactly!

Originally Posted by Mallory

I'll drink to that with a superb glass of Californian Merlot!

Originally Posted by robin1234

but I'm not a fu**ing idiot, yet.

Originally Posted by Mallory

I'll drink to that with a superb glass of Californian Merlot!

Originally Posted by TruBrit

some people have no taste

Originally Posted by AmerLisa

I'd have to say you already are.....but then again, that's just my perception on the whole thing.....

Originally Posted by sambapink

Well just to carry on from original post.. Hubby just came in from work (skiving again !!) Anyway I was telling him about it all.. and he was saying that one of his best mates has stopped emailing him. This mate and family (long time friends, his OH is my best mate) were supposed to be coming out in August. They aren't now.. We weren't entirely sure why. I have a love hate relationship with this fella. He is one of those who feels its his opinion or no opinion, his way or noway kinda thing. Has always been a bit jealous of the relationship I have with his wife .. Anyway, he made it known before we left that he felt california was 'soul less'.. which was nice considering the huge step we were about to make.. I have gotten the impression when talking to his wife that he's very unimpressed by what we're up to. He'd be the type to slag America off to us. Anyway, my poor OH, unaware of whats going on (as always ) has been happily emailing a group of his mates back home, giving them updates, sending pics etc.. mostly chatting about how rubbish Arsenal have been playing to be fair.. and he said today that this mate had just stopped replying to emails... ( OH was only sending one a month or so). Makes me sad.. My OH just wants to keep intouch with the fella, they have been mates since nursery school!... Again.. why can't he just be happy for his mate? .. My OH is happy for him, even if he is a Narrow minded so and so!!

I think they aren't coming because i think it would be too much too bare for him to say he enjoyed it... !! (or am i just being cruel to say that )

And as a footnote.. it was his 17 yr old daughter who made some of the comments to my daughter

We have got some really lovely friends too... Don't want you lot thinking we only have 'orrible ones

Originally Posted by paddingtongreen

Are you the new Elvira?

Originally Posted by TruBrit

i think she likes californian wine, french or chilean for me