Over 40's Moving Back and Catching Up
May 27th 2014, 2:29 am
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My husband has always put a brave face on our move, but just today he said, "Instead of all the hassle of coming here, why didn't I just go into X X's office and tell him exactly what I needed?"
May 27th 2014, 3:12 am
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Cheers, Windsong....No I dont think so. At one point I thought it was curleytops but dont think thats right. Someone did mention her a few weeks ago, she had been back a couple of years but has bad health and was in and out of hospital, I think one of the reasons for returning was her health problems.
May 27th 2014, 6:26 am
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Trottytrue, small world. Preston is my part of the world as I lived in Fulwood from 1969 until moved to US in 1984. I will be in Preston in June and July of this year. I only asked because in US many veterans are in facilities and not aware there is money for themselves to help with costs of assisted living etc. I know that cos in my former life worked with seniors using my degree in Gerontology. Now I work with kids of all ages and disabilities and love it.
May 27th 2014, 8:33 am
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Trotty, you have a point when you say we could at least urge would-be emigrators to think carefully. I did this on the USA forum the other day, in response to a poster who, with his wife, hadn't seemed (to me) to really think carefully enough about why they wanted to go to the USA.
Bev, that is indeed a brave post by the person in NZ who after 6 months is sure she and her husband made a mistake. The important thing is --and it's hard--to distinguish between the normal ups and downs of adjusting, and the knowledge that it is really a big mistake.
Then it takes courage to go back home, which apparently will be seen by many other Brits as strange, incomprehensible, even a sort of failure....
Anyway, yes, people thinking the grass is greener elsewhere should be encouraged to think about why they are feeling that way....and to look at things they take for granted in UK, and really try and think what life will be like without them.
Bev, that is indeed a brave post by the person in NZ who after 6 months is sure she and her husband made a mistake. The important thing is --and it's hard--to distinguish between the normal ups and downs of adjusting, and the knowledge that it is really a big mistake.
Then it takes courage to go back home, which apparently will be seen by many other Brits as strange, incomprehensible, even a sort of failure....
Anyway, yes, people thinking the grass is greener elsewhere should be encouraged to think about why they are feeling that way....and to look at things they take for granted in UK, and really try and think what life will be like without them.
May 27th 2014, 8:35 am
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May 27th 2014, 1:29 pm
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Re: Over 40's Moving Back and Catching Up
Spouse of Scouse,
What a wonderful story of how you and your husband met and fell in love! Just beautiful.
On the topic of your dog. One of my good school friends moved to Oz with her family, they had a beautiful golden retriever who they really adored but who they did not want to put through the stress of the trip. Money was no issue it was purely that they didn't want to put her through it. So she came to live with us, we did a trial run she did great and so it was agreed she would become ours. Absolutely wonderful, wonderful dog who we loved just as much as her first family. It was really hard for her first family to leave her but they had the comfort of updates from us and they knew it was the right thing for her. I saw first hand that as long as a dog is loved and well cared for by whoever they are with they do great!
Do what you know is right for your dog, whether that be to bring or re-home you and your husband are the ones who know what would be best
What a wonderful story of how you and your husband met and fell in love! Just beautiful.
On the topic of your dog. One of my good school friends moved to Oz with her family, they had a beautiful golden retriever who they really adored but who they did not want to put through the stress of the trip. Money was no issue it was purely that they didn't want to put her through it. So she came to live with us, we did a trial run she did great and so it was agreed she would become ours. Absolutely wonderful, wonderful dog who we loved just as much as her first family. It was really hard for her first family to leave her but they had the comfort of updates from us and they knew it was the right thing for her. I saw first hand that as long as a dog is loved and well cared for by whoever they are with they do great!
Do what you know is right for your dog, whether that be to bring or re-home you and your husband are the ones who know what would be best
May 27th 2014, 1:38 pm
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Thanks so much dunroving, NiHao, between two worlds and trotty true - writing about Murphy and reading yours and other posters experiences and thoughts has done a lot to help Scouse and I realize that sticking our heads in the sand won't make this decision any easier.
For myself, I decided to stay until I was able take my pets with me. I could never do otherwise.
May 27th 2014, 2:22 pm
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Trotty, you have a point when you say we could at least urge would-be emigrators to think carefully. I did this on the USA forum the other day, in response to a poster who, with his wife, hadn't seemed (to me) to really think carefully enough about why they wanted to go to the USA.
Bev, that is indeed a brave post by the person in NZ who after 6 months is sure she and her husband made a mistake. The important thing is --and it's hard--to distinguish between the normal ups and downs of adjusting, and the knowledge that it is really a big mistake.
Then it takes courage to go back home, which apparently will be seen by many other Brits as strange, incomprehensible, even a sort of failure....
Anyway, yes, people thinking the grass is greener elsewhere should be encouraged to think about why they are feeling that way....and to look at things they take for granted in UK, and really try and think what life will be like without them.
Bev, that is indeed a brave post by the person in NZ who after 6 months is sure she and her husband made a mistake. The important thing is --and it's hard--to distinguish between the normal ups and downs of adjusting, and the knowledge that it is really a big mistake.
Then it takes courage to go back home, which apparently will be seen by many other Brits as strange, incomprehensible, even a sort of failure....
Anyway, yes, people thinking the grass is greener elsewhere should be encouraged to think about why they are feeling that way....and to look at things they take for granted in UK, and really try and think what life will be like without them.
Some of these responses have unfortunately led to the OP becoming upset. I think this is because people have been excited about their move and when they ask for tips on Australia, they don't expect to get replies that they perceive as negative and discouraging.
A forum that's specifically for people thinking of moving from the UK, one that's been established to give advice and knowledge about the good, the bad and the ugly, would probably mainly attract posters who are open to all ideas. BE members from all countries could be encouraged to respond to posters that are thinking of moving to 'their' country. I think it'd be a goer!
May 27th 2014, 2:24 pm
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May 27th 2014, 3:36 pm
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Thanks so much for the lovely welcome everyone Places like this are gold, aren't they? I'm fairly active on the Oz forum, not that I'm particularly useful! I mainly just try to give new arrivals, and those going home, a bit of advice about Oz stuff.
Fish and Chips, I'm probably going to sound silly but I don't think Murphy (dog/friend) would be able to handle the long haul flights. As uncommon as it is for the breed, he's always been terrified of traveling in cars, and that's with one of us with him to (trying to) reassure him. Trips to the vet, even when he's not sick and just going for immunization shots, are such an ordeal for him. He trembles violently and froths at the mouth. We used to get a vet that did home visits but then a vet opened closer to us, so we walk him there now. It takes about half an hour each way so our vet always gives us the earliest appointment in summer, and we take water so he can have a drink on the way.
Places like this are gold, aren't they? I'm fairly active on the Oz forum, not that I'm particularly useful! I mainly just try to give new arrivals, and those going home, a bit of advice about Oz stuff.Fish and Chips, I'm probably going to sound silly but I don't think Murphy (dog/friend) would be able to handle the long haul flights. As uncommon as it is for the breed, he's always been terrified of traveling in cars, and that's with one of us with him to (trying to) reassure him. Trips to the vet, even when he's not sick and just going for immunization shots, are such an ordeal for him. He trembles violently and froths at the mouth. We used to get a vet that did home visits but then a vet opened closer to us, so we walk him there now. It takes about half an hour each way so our vet always gives us the earliest appointment in summer, and we take water so he can have a drink on the way.
Things didn't work out for us in the UK, we returned to the USA 7 months after leaving, we could see my parents didn't want to give Toby up and hadn't the heart to ask, from there on he lived with my parents, we lived just around the corner so it all worked out good for Toby, we would have him when my parents left town, Toby lived to be 19 years old.
May 27th 2014, 3:57 pm
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Spouse, We moved back to the USA in 1989 with no intentions of retuning, we left our little dog (Toby) with my parents, he was 9 years old at the time, he was timid and a very bad traveler too, (sick in the car etc) we couldn't subject him to the trip and six months in quarantine, my parents really loved him, it seemed like the kindest thing to do, we were greatful my parents would take him as it was the one thing we were struggling with.
Things didn't work out for us in the UK, we returned to the USA 7 months after leaving, we could see my parents didn't want to give Toby up and hadn't the heart to ask, from there on he lived with my parents, we lived just around the corner so it all worked out good for Toby, we would have him when my parents left town, Toby lived to be 19 years old.
Things didn't work out for us in the UK, we returned to the USA 7 months after leaving, we could see my parents didn't want to give Toby up and hadn't the heart to ask, from there on he lived with my parents, we lived just around the corner so it all worked out good for Toby, we would have him when my parents left town, Toby lived to be 19 years old.
(except the bit about the UK not working out). Toby obviously had a great life with your parents - 19 is a very good age!
May 27th 2014, 11:12 pm
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Hi cheers,
Mums getting much better thanks to the physio therapists coming around every day to put mum through her exersises, she has progressed from her walking frame to a walking stick, and her appetite has returned to normal, she is gradually learning to look after herself rather then relying on me for everything,
yesterday it was a lovely day, blue skies and sunshine and I got Mum outside in the garden for the first time in over 2 months, and together we were pulling out all the weeds, we had fun doing it too, then after that we sat on the garden bench and enjoyed the sunshine and listening to the birds sing and admiring our garden,
Today though its raining quite heavy, but I love it!!! I love the constant change in our skies, the white patchy clouds that turn into dark clouds in minutes, a perfectly blue sky that can change into a cloudy sky in 10 or 15 minutes, rain one day, sunny the next, a week of rain then a few days of sun,
Lovely!!!!!
Art my friend had to return to the States early cause he had a family emergency, but it was nice having him stay with us while he was here!!!
Take care cheers,
Rodney.
Mums getting much better thanks to the physio therapists coming around every day to put mum through her exersises, she has progressed from her walking frame to a walking stick, and her appetite has returned to normal, she is gradually learning to look after herself rather then relying on me for everything,
yesterday it was a lovely day, blue skies and sunshine and I got Mum outside in the garden for the first time in over 2 months, and together we were pulling out all the weeds, we had fun doing it too, then after that we sat on the garden bench and enjoyed the sunshine and listening to the birds sing and admiring our garden,
Today though its raining quite heavy, but I love it!!! I love the constant change in our skies, the white patchy clouds that turn into dark clouds in minutes, a perfectly blue sky that can change into a cloudy sky in 10 or 15 minutes, rain one day, sunny the next, a week of rain then a few days of sun,
Lovely!!!!!
Art my friend had to return to the States early cause he had a family emergency, but it was nice having him stay with us while he was here!!!
Take care cheers,
Rodney.
May 27th 2014, 11:14 pm
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