Thanx everyone for your comments. I do get out and about and we do make the most of our weekends to visit new places. And im sorry but i love all the soaps back home!!!

I am trying to make the most of it here florida is beautiful. But it dnt stop me missing my home in the uk!

An easy way to get corrie is youtube !

I watched last night !

I think you always feel weird and sad no matter where you move to if its different and you dont know it... when i left fort lauderdale to live in orlando i was miserable for months,now when i just moved to S.Carolina to stay with my mom while i get ready to go the UK. I hated it i cred and was miserable and wanted to go back to florida... only been here in S.C since November and i make less money and its still hard to get used to... but i found some good people.. hng in there and if u are leaving next year, then have as mmuch fun and go to as many palce as you can, look at it like and extended holiday

Just thought i would update on how im feeling now! I feel even worse my husband keeps giving me false hopes one minute hes with me on moving back to the uk and then as son as the weekend comes he says that he really wants to make a go of it here. Hes just not getting how im feeling? Ive started sewing in the day which has been really nice as its something that i really enjoy but never really had the time to do back home. Im trying my hardest just taking each day as it comes but its getting harder every day. I had a really tearful day yesterday it was horrible! Ive been bitten all over which is driving me mad so i need to and buy insect repellent! Im not looking forward to this hot humid summer, I just really want to go home!!!!! I did tell my husband last night again that i will go home with or without him hes not to happy he said that he will go anywhere else in the world but the uk! Are things really that bad back home? And is america really that much better? Because i seriously dnt see it!!!

Sounds like ur husband is wrapped up in the sunshine and sparkles of florida I was for a long time now after 20 years I can't wait to leave and go home this year... everyone who just moves or who wants to leave the uk for the sunshine has the old "England is crap" attitude... when he starts missing stuff.. like the people... he will change his mind... home is home.... as far as mosquitoes the 1st year or 2 they love u to death.. the like english blood.. then u adapt... good luck.. cheer up go lie on the beach the ocean always chilled me out... by some "off" bug repelent....

I too lived in Florida for a couple of years before i was married.I actually liked it for the two years i was there,but home is where the heart is.After the two years (which i really classed as one long holiday) i was ready to go home.
We are now in Alberta,Canada and after 10yrs i have that feeling back........I am desperate to go home again .I keep hoping the house will sell in the spring,but if it doesnt i think i will be pulling my hair out !!!!!! I just want to get back sooooo much.The Canadian experiance has been good,but really dont know how we have last this long here. Just want to get back to some good living in the UK..........

I couldnt even imagine staying here more than 2 years let alone 20!!!! The weather is great but if your not happy inside then it just isnt going to work! Ive told the OH he can stay here i really dnt care we had a deal that we would stay for 18 months and if one of us didnt like this then we would return! Im so angry because i have been in this situation before i moved from weymouth to birmingham and the same thing happened he said he would never go back to my hometown!! I think hes being extremely selfish he says hes only doing the best for us all but how can he when myself and my oldest lads are not happy!

Its making truly miserable

Florida is beautiful but its just not for me. I think after this weekend there will be no turning back for me. I was willing to stay for a couple of years like we planned and make the most of the whole experience but now my husband is saying he doesnt ever want to go back.

To be honest i was a bit like that myself here in Canada until a few years ago.I didnt want to go back,but it could have been that i never went back to the UK for 5yrs too.When i did go back last year i knew that i wanted to be back there.I knew what i (we) were missing. Yeah might have a fancy house here,but thats material.............just want to get back to a proper Uk life style.Life is too short being some where that makes you miserable. Do it !!!!!! I am missing the UK more and more......cant wait till the day comes to go HOME!

Awww (((hugs))) I suppose in the end you have to do whats right for you, if he's determined not to hold up the deal and go back in 18mths then he's not a man of his word and you do what you feel is right for you in long run. Don't live your live just to make someone else happy, you need to be happy at some point too.

agred after 20 years in the U.S i stil have never felt truly "settled" i hve that at home (:

Dear Weymouth

Just wondering - how is your DH's new job going?

I ask because if I were him and had recently been made redundant, my primary concern right now would be to make sure that I have secured a good job with good income to support myself and my family.

If you have travelled all that way to allow your DH to find a suitable position, that suggests to me that work is not easy to find for your man back in Blighty - and hence he may not be at all keen to even think about going back there.

Certainly that would be my attitude - and I would be expecting you to 'suck it up' a little and quit complaining!

OK I was joking a little with that last remark, but you might want to look at things from his point of view before complaining openly too much (esp. as you have only been in Florida a few months). My guess is that he will still be stressed out having dragged you and the family a quarter of the way round the world.

But of course I could be completely wrong - so I will shut up now!

All the best

Tahiti

I know what i have to do and i know how i feel. I will stay here for as long as i can and keep my part of the deal then after that its up to him what he wants to do ive spent to many years being un happy!! Cant do it much longer!!!

Hello Weymouth1506,

I'm from Somerset (not Dorset, but at least it's the West Country) and my husband is from Birmingham, and even though our circumstances are different I wanted to weigh in and wish you luck. It sounds like you're having a very hard time. I'm especially sorry to hear you had to move so soon after a loss in the family, which must be tremendously sad and disorienting.

I also wanted to say: never ever underestimate the impact culture shock is having on your feelings. 'Culture shock' doesn't only happen when you move to a non-English-speaking country. During one stage of culture shock it's very common to feel intensely unhappy and angry with your new home. You find yourself frequently using or thinking the words hate, disgusting, awful, unbearable, stupid etc, and may feel depressed, anxious, tearful and unable to cope.

The cruel thing about culture shock is that, while you're feeling it, you're immersed in it, like a terrible depression or PMT. You can't see it from a logical perspective. Nobody can change your mind for you; even reasoning with yourself doesn't get rid of the emotions.

The emotions are totally real -- but they may not accurately represent your situation. Of course, some people don't suit some lifestyles/locations, and we all have a right to leave places that make us miserable. But it takes a while to sort out which of your views are culture shock, and which are really yours.

I spent 2 years in Germany, and loathed it at first. I was with my husband, who'd got a job there and liked it, and when he tried to make me see the positive sides it would make me even angrier. I felt he didn't understand or care what I thought, and we got locked into a series of arguments: Team Germany vs Team Get-The-Hell-Out-Of-Here.

I just say this because it sounds like you may be getting into a similar argument. It's none of my business, but it would be very sad if this were to rip a marriage apart -- especially as you have kids, who are probably very aware who is Team Florida and who is Team Let's-Get-The-Hell-Out-Of-Here, and may feel under pressure to pick a side.

If you've agreed to give it x months, then maybe you should both honour that arrangement by at least trying to keep an open mind, however impossible that seems. It's not fair of either of you to say you'll *definitely* go back OR stay once this trial period is up -- it makes a joke of the trial period, and gets the other's hackles right up.

Sorry -- I didn't mean for this to be a marathon post . Have you considered seeing a therapist on your medical insurance? Depending on your plan it might be affordable, and can be very useful -- and you don't need to be on your very last legs to 'deserve' it.

Good luck and best wishes from CA.