I will, i will still be around for a while yet!!

How has his reaction been since you have told him, i have told my H i'm not happy and may end up returning alone and he has gone very quiet since i told him x x

My hubs has beeen upset & moody for the past 2 days!

He didnt expect me to go ahead with it as ive threatend it so often.

Until i book the ticket he may well stay the same but he knows im going & is genuinly upset . He keeps accusing me of breaking up the family!!! Thats him who came here without his son in the 1st place!

From his perspective you are breaking up the family, whatever the rights and wrongs of the situation are.
I wish you and the rest of the family well and hope that you can some how reconcile what appear to be huge differences.

Just thought i would tell you what someone told me just a few weeks ago, never feel guilty for the decision we make, just learn from them and move on!! I know its easy to say but you can only do what you think is right, even when you think its wrong! take care ang

I must be old fashioned....I think people should be accountable for all decisions they make, good or bad. Not feeling guilty if your decision had adversely impacted someone's life, is precisely why some people wander through life these days with a false sense of entitlement. (Nothing to do with the OP on this thread, BTW just in general).

Bloody hell I'm glad I'm not married to you. You sound like the nuns at my primary school

Guilt is a non productive waste of time, energy and emotion. We are humans not robots

so who is accountable for the decisions you make then? i would have to agree with Dingbat.

We are all accountable for the decisions we make but what the hell is the point of feeling guilty about it all (unless of course you made someone unhappy deliberately).

We are HUMAN. We make mistakes. Show me a perfect person and I will concede defeat.

Well done MM, I hope you soon feel the weight lifting from your shoulders and your life brightening.
Follow your instinct, your heart, not your head. Do the best you can, no one can ask for more. You are loved and supported by your family and friends. Life will be uncomfortable for a while, but happier I am sure. x

Right on. We do the best we can at that time in our life...thinking that is the best decision...at that time. Guilt is so destructive and crippling for all involved. Sadly it follows like a stray !

Do you not fancy joining Optus Dei with me seasprite? We could do a bit of self mortification together hey

Of course guilt can be dsetructive but it dosnt stop you feeling it whatever the rights or wrongs

This decison has been one of the hardest ive ever made but i had to do it for my own sanity & for the future of my daughter as she was in a unhappy environment with 2 parents constantly arguing

Thats not right for any child & i wont feel guilty for that!

Totally agree with you!! I find it amazing how judgemental people can be about other people's lives, sitting behind their computer screens being judge and jury about some bloke they know little of.

We all have our OWN lives. Why should he have to return to the UK and be miserable? As indeed MM should not have to stay in Oz.
Its his life. Its her life. No one should be 'made' to do ought in situations like this. He does what's right for him and ditto MM.

Go girl.......home. Don't want to upset you, but.....if he was able to leave one child in the UK, he'll have no qualms you two leaving OZ