Decision has been made!
May 31st 2007 | 10:03 pm
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Re: Decision has been made!
Good luck with your move back to UK I brought my eldest daughter up for a few years on my own, its hard but I wouldnt have had it any other way, met my OH while i wasnt even looking for love (they say it always happens that way).
Be strong and Im sure you will be fine.....
Good luck to you and your daughter.....
Kath
Be strong and Im sure you will be fine.....
Good luck to you and your daughter.....
Kath
May 31st 2007 | 10:03 pm
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No i dont think he will! he is adamant he will never leave this country as he loves it too much. i have no idea why but i guess he has his reasons!
I do hope he changes his mind but if he dosnt i will still make a new life for us both without him. It will be very hard but i know i will cope!
I do hope he changes his mind but if he dosnt i will still make a new life for us both without him. It will be very hard but i know i will cope!
Well done for making a decision m'dear.
You're a strong brave woman and dont forget that!
Sending you lotsa love and all the very best
big kissus
Tanya
XX
May 31st 2007 | 10:11 pm
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Hi Jude - you are a very brave young woman and I'm sure that you will have the courage and determination to make a new life for yourself back home in the UK with the love and support of your family.
Sometimes things just don't work out as you plan them and with the best will in the world, the hardest of trying, you sometimes have to give in and do what is best for yourself as you only get one life and it should not be spent being miserable and sad.
I truly hope that it all works out for you - the next few months are going to be really tough but hopefully there will be light at the end of the tunnel and soon you will be laughing and smiling again.
Good luck to you and your daughter XX
Sometimes things just don't work out as you plan them and with the best will in the world, the hardest of trying, you sometimes have to give in and do what is best for yourself as you only get one life and it should not be spent being miserable and sad.
I truly hope that it all works out for you - the next few months are going to be really tough but hopefully there will be light at the end of the tunnel and soon you will be laughing and smiling again.
Good luck to you and your daughter XX
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May 31st 2007 | 10:16 pm
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Re: Decision has been made!
All the very best in your life....I hope you will find peace and happiness. Life's too short.
Cheers
Ginny
Cheers
Ginny
May 31st 2007 | 10:17 pm
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Re: Decision has been made!
Jude, always remember that you deserve to be happy!
I really hope that your OH has a change of heart and decides to go back with you, but either way I just wanted to wish you all the best for you and your daughter.
Good luck mate
Jo x
I really hope that your OH has a change of heart and decides to go back with you, but either way I just wanted to wish you all the best for you and your daughter.
Good luck mate
Jo x
May 31st 2007 | 10:19 pm
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How does your husband get along with your relations ?
He gets on ok with my family but they dont have a lt of respect for him. Mum has stayed with us in the past & seen 1st hand how he can be towards me!
Have you had any past major problems that have followed you here ?
None that i know of, though his dad died 20 years ago & he has never got over it as he was there at the time & couldnt save him. i truly believe in my heart that he has come here to escape. I have spoke to him on this at length but he wont admit it!
I too agree that he i wrong to let us go but by the same token i dont want to stay so whats the point in him persuading me. Id rather he was coming tto but i know it wont happen!
He gets on ok with my family but they dont have a lt of respect for him. Mum has stayed with us in the past & seen 1st hand how he can be towards me!
Have you had any past major problems that have followed you here ?
None that i know of, though his dad died 20 years ago & he has never got over it as he was there at the time & couldnt save him. i truly believe in my heart that he has come here to escape. I have spoke to him on this at length but he wont admit it!
I too agree that he i wrong to let us go but by the same token i dont want to stay so whats the point in him persuading me. Id rather he was coming tto but i know it wont happen!
May 31st 2007 | 10:56 pm
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Well done for making what must of been a huge and difficult decision, Jude.
As others have said, you only have one life......
Go back with your head held high, with no regrets and after reading your posts, FWIW, I think you are doing the right thing.
In time, Im sure both you and your partner will feel some happiness, so try to see this as a win/win situation.
Take care and keep in touch
Chissy x
As others have said, you only have one life......
Go back with your head held high, with no regrets and after reading your posts, FWIW, I think you are doing the right thing.
In time, Im sure both you and your partner will feel some happiness, so try to see this as a win/win situation.
Take care and keep in touch
Chissy x
May 31st 2007 | 11:03 pm
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Re: Decision has been made!
Im going home!
As you all know,I hate it here & have been unable to settle for a long time. Its caused immense strain on our marriage, to the point where we have argued continually
Anyway after some very long painful thinking & talking ive decided to leave. Si still adamant he iisnt coming with me as he wants to stay so its just me & megy
I feel terrible for taking her from him but i cant carry on being unhappy any longer as it was affecting her & Karl
Ive spoke to my family & they will be sorting out some airfare for me in the next few days
I plan to fly back around the 8th July as have some things still needing doing here. When i do return i will stay with mum for a bit then i intend to try & make my home in newcastle near my sister
Ive also been in touch with the benefits office & have been told i will get help so i feel quite relieved that i wont be completely skint!
Its a very sad situation for all concerned but its for the best in the long run!
As you all know,I hate it here & have been unable to settle for a long time. Its caused immense strain on our marriage, to the point where we have argued continually
Anyway after some very long painful thinking & talking ive decided to leave. Si still adamant he iisnt coming with me as he wants to stay so its just me & megy
I feel terrible for taking her from him but i cant carry on being unhappy any longer as it was affecting her & Karl
Ive spoke to my family & they will be sorting out some airfare for me in the next few days
I plan to fly back around the 8th July as have some things still needing doing here. When i do return i will stay with mum for a bit then i intend to try & make my home in newcastle near my sister
Ive also been in touch with the benefits office & have been told i will get help so i feel quite relieved that i wont be completely skint!
Its a very sad situation for all concerned but its for the best in the long run!
Be interesting to see how your OH will manage when he is a lone parent in Oz, specially round school holidays etc. Being a single parent is not easy even when surrounded by friends & family.
May 31st 2007 | 11:21 pm
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Re: Decision has been made!
Hi Jude,
As all the other posters on here have said, well done on making an extremely tough decision. Hopefully now you have made definate plans that grey cloud may lift slightly.
July will be here before you know it so stay positive for you and your daughter. You only have one life so live it the best you can. Good luck
Lynne x
We should be back in September (Durham) keep in touch and we could meet up if you do plan to go to Newcastle
As all the other posters on here have said, well done on making an extremely tough decision. Hopefully now you have made definate plans that grey cloud may lift slightly.
July will be here before you know it so stay positive for you and your daughter. You only have one life so live it the best you can. Good luck
Lynne x
We should be back in September (Durham) keep in touch and we could meet up if you do plan to go to Newcastle
May 31st 2007 | 11:29 pm
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Jun 1st 2007 | 12:41 am
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Re: Decision has been made!
Good luck to you, lady!
Jun 1st 2007 | 12:54 am
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Jude
Maybe if he's prepared to put Australia (which is just a country after all) before you and your daughter, he isn't worth being with anyway...
All the best back in England.
Maybe if he's prepared to put Australia (which is just a country after all) before you and your daughter, he isn't worth being with anyway...
All the best back in England.
Jun 1st 2007 | 12:58 am
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Re: Decision has been made!
Hi Jude,
It seems you decided to move home a while ago but you didn't know it
Good luck !
BTW karen is disapointed you cancled you little party
It seems you decided to move home a while ago but you didn't know it
Good luck !
BTW karen is disapointed you cancled you little party
Im going home!
As you all know,I hate it here & have been unable to settle for a long time. Its caused immense strain on our marriage, to the point where we have argued continually
Anyway after some very long painful thinking & talking ive decided to leave. Si still adamant he iisnt coming with me as he wants to stay so its just me & megy
I feel terrible for taking her from him but i cant carry on being unhappy any longer as it was affecting her & Karl
Ive spoke to my family & they will be sorting out some airfare for me in the next few days
I plan to fly back around the 8th July as have some things still needing doing here. When i do return i will stay with mum for a bit then i intend to try & make my home in newcastle near my sister
Ive also been in touch with the benefits office & have been told i will get help so i feel quite relieved that i wont be completely skint!
Its a very sad situation for all concerned but its for the best in the long run!
As you all know,I hate it here & have been unable to settle for a long time. Its caused immense strain on our marriage, to the point where we have argued continually
Anyway after some very long painful thinking & talking ive decided to leave. Si still adamant he iisnt coming with me as he wants to stay so its just me & megy
I feel terrible for taking her from him but i cant carry on being unhappy any longer as it was affecting her & Karl
Ive spoke to my family & they will be sorting out some airfare for me in the next few days
I plan to fly back around the 8th July as have some things still needing doing here. When i do return i will stay with mum for a bit then i intend to try & make my home in newcastle near my sister
Ive also been in touch with the benefits office & have been told i will get help so i feel quite relieved that i wont be completely skint!
Its a very sad situation for all concerned but its for the best in the long run!
Jun 1st 2007 | 1:49 am
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Re: Decision has been made!
Is there any chance everyone can lay off bad mouthing someone who is not on the forum to defend himself. Wish MM all the best obviously but leave the guy alone. He presumably has his reasons and they are for him and MM to discuss not everyone else.
