When my in laws took our daughter to canada a few years ago to visit family the check in staff at Air Canada asked if they had a letter of permission to remove her from the country. Luckily we had gone to the airport to say them off so i was able to write one in front of them. Not sure they would have let her go if i had not be there to do that. When we came through immigration in sept. they asked if the children were both of ours as the children have my surname. Told them our daughter was his but she had my surname as i had not changed mine when i got married. They didnt ask to see proof although i had her birth certificate ready!

It would be laughably easy for a determined person to fake quite a convincing "letter of permission", hence my point about "stupidity". Although there is a difference between a child travelling with one parent as opposed to none.

I've not heard of travellers in any other country being hassled this way (and before anyone shouts otherwise, I do know people who travel regularly with their children without problems - not in Canada, however).

As I have said before, I get stopped every single frickin' time I leave the country from YVR and Calgary. I have sole custody of all my kids, the ex has no access rights or any guardianship rights whatsoever. I have the court order stapled into my passport, yet I still get hassled by airline staff who a) have no legal jurisdiction to do so and b) jobsworth pillocks who think I have nothing better to do than to book return tickets for my children and waste them.

Women do it to.My brother can not convince his wife to leave the place where they can't afford to live.She'd rather be there than improve her lot in life.He left and refuses to return.Its too bad people don't ask certain questions before they get deeply involved.Romance seems to replace common sense far too often.

Your right in that woman are just as selfish but love isnt a game where you ask a million questions & see what fits your criteria! It happnes & once your in love thats it. You want to do everything to please them. Thats how it was for me. He told me he wanted to move here within a month of getting together. He brought me here on holiday, ok i wasnt fussed but I went along with his dream as i loved him

I never imagined in a million years it would be this hard or id dislike it so much. I want my marriage to work so did he but unfortunately neither of us are happy in the place the other wants to be so it means a split is necessary. I stll love him & always will but its life & nothing i say will change his mind & vice versa for me

If i could turn the clock back id never have agreed but i cant & ive paid the price!

Presumably though, had you put your foot down and refused to come over you would have split up them if he was as desperate to come as you say.

yes we would have split up had i said i wasnt coming but i loved him & didnt want to lose him so i came with him! I took the chance & it went wrong & now im paying the price!

Megan

I hope it all works out for you.Every situation is different and no doubt there are reasons why things work out the way they do.Maintaining a healthy commited relationship should be the main focus of any couple, and when I become more important than we, the foundation that hold the two of you together becomes weaken.If he had a legitimate reason for not returning ,a good partner should understand.You being unhappy there should be enough reason for him to decide to leave Australia if he is truely in love with you.

A devoted couple who wanted to work it out would for instance pick a third option as a means of compromise.We live in a microwave world,people change their intentions in relations that have existed for 30 years.A short term 2-5 year relationship are the quickiest to end because partners grow apart once they get to know one another better.Short or long ,the break up of a relationship is painful.Better to know now than to live with this guy 5-10 more years and find your self still unhappy.Him not coming back with you might be another way of saying that the relationship has run its course.What ever you decide I hope you find happinest.Everyone derseves it.BTW.my brother misses his wife and kids,but he doesn't miss living a life that includes only her dream.

Excellent words yankee. Totally agree with all you say!

If he loved me enough he would comprimise but he wont so it has to be the end. I have to think of me as i refuse to become 2nd best anymore! I need to be happy & if that means the end of us & starting on my own then thats it is to be!

BTW my name is jude- megan is my daughters name lol!!!

Hi Jude

How you doing? Hope you're OK.
Have you booked your flight yet?
xxx

Hi Jude

Don't sweat it.Mr Right is out there give it time.Obviously this guy no matter how you felt about him,he is not Mr Right.Just come to terms with that reality and all will be fine.

No hun, im still waiting for the money. Hope to have some answers by the morning. Just want out!!!

& yankee, men are the last thing on my mind!! I do still love my hubs unfortunately & cant change that!

Im thinking of staying celibate anyway for a while yet as had enough of all men & just fancy being on my own for a change!!!

Nothing wrong being on your own for a while but like I tell my buddies when one is suffering a broken heart,best way to get over a woman who you love and has thrown you away, is to get another woman after healing for a while of course.Got to get back on that horse even if you've been thrown off into the dirt.Other wise we think all the opposite sex is the same and we know thats not true.

But you also need time to heal yourself and work out why you were in that relationship that didn't work for you in the first place. Or otherwise you just jump right back on the same type of horse again and fall off for exactly the same reasons.

Exactly right!!

Ive done that far too many times in the past & no way will i make the same mistake again!