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Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by TraceyW
(Post 4859344)
I've seen this happen a few times and I am still amazed and bemused how a man could put any country before his wife and child.
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Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by moneypen20
(Post 4860103)
Is there any chance everyone can lay off bad mouthing someone who is not on the forum to defend himself. Wish MM all the best obviously but leave the guy alone. He presumably has his reasons and they are for him and MM to discuss not everyone else.
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Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by The Smiths
(Post 4859231)
Wow ......tough decision but I think it sounds like you are doing the right thing for you and your daughter.
FWIW I think any father who is prepared to watch his family leave for the other side of the world and not put up a fight to keep them with him doesn't deserve to have them in the first place. Do you think he'll change his mind when the reality hits? |
Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by islandmom
(Post 4860352)
I have to agree with that - I hope everything goes well MM for you both - and so sad your OH has prioritised living in Oz over his wife and daughter (you'd have to kill my OH before he'd let the kids be away from him).
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Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by megansmummy
(Post 4859591)
Thanks for that!!:(:blink:
Thankfully he wont do that cos as much as i think he may be wrong for letting us go he wouldnt do anything to hurt me ! You may find that he does just that. When these situations progress, people change and legally you do not have a leg to stand on. Get a legal document signed by him NOW that allows your daughter to leave Aus before he changes his mind. You may otherwise be faced with the prospect of staying in Aus until your daughter comes of age, or leaving her behind. |
Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by megansmummy
(Post 4859017)
Im going home!
As you all know,I hate it here & have been unable to settle for a long time. Its caused immense strain on our marriage, to the point where we have argued continually Anyway after some very long painful thinking & talking ive decided to leave. Si still adamant he iisnt coming with me as he wants to stay so its just me & megy I feel terrible for taking her from him but i cant carry on being unhappy any longer as it was affecting her & Karl Ive spoke to my family & they will be sorting out some airfare for me in the next few days I plan to fly back around the 8th July as have some things still needing doing here. When i do return i will stay with mum for a bit then i intend to try & make my home in newcastle near my sister Ive also been in touch with the benefits office & have been told i will get help so i feel quite relieved that i wont be completely skint! Its a very sad situation for all concerned but its for the best in the long run! |
Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by megansmummy
(Post 4859421)
How does your husband get along with your relations ?
He gets on ok with my family but they dont have a lt of respect for him. Mum has stayed with us in the past & seen 1st hand how he can be towards me! Have you had any past major problems that have followed you here ? None that i know of, though his dad died 20 years ago & he has never got over it as he was there at the time & couldnt save him. i truly believe in my heart that he has come here to escape. I have spoke to him on this at length but he wont admit it! I too agree that he i wrong to let us go but by the same token i dont want to stay so whats the point in him persuading me. Id rather he was coming tto but i know it wont happen! but in the end hopefully everything will work out for the better for you and your family and i always believe everyone should always follow their dreams. no matter where they laY. LESLEY X |
Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by megansmummy
(Post 4859421)
How does your husband get along with your relations ?
He gets on ok with my family but they dont have a lt of respect for him. Mum has stayed with us in the past & seen 1st hand how he can be towards me! Have you had any past major problems that have followed you here ? None that i know of, though his dad died 20 years ago & he has never got over it as he was there at the time & couldnt save him. i truly believe in my heart that he has come here to escape. I have spoke to him on this at length but he wont admit it! I too agree that he i wrong to let us go but by the same token i dont want to stay so whats the point in him persuading me. Id rather he was coming tto but i know it wont happen! but in the end hopefully everything will work out for the better for you and your family and i always believe everyone should always follow their dreams. no matter where they lIE. LESLEY X |
Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by dingbat
(Post 4860783)
You may find that he does just that. When these situations progress, people change and legally you do not have a leg to stand on. Get a legal document signed by him NOW that allows your daughter to leave Aus before he changes his mind. You may otherwise be faced with the prospect of staying in Aus until your daughter comes of age, or leaving her behind.
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Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by megansmummy
(Post 4859017)
Im going home!
As you all know,I hate it here & have been unable to settle for a long time. Its caused immense strain on our marriage, to the point where we have argued continually Anyway after some very long painful thinking & talking ive decided to leave. Si still adamant he iisnt coming with me as he wants to stay so its just me & megy I feel terrible for taking her from him but i cant carry on being unhappy any longer as it was affecting her & Karl Ive spoke to my family & they will be sorting out some airfare for me in the next few days I plan to fly back around the 8th July as have some things still needing doing here. When i do return i will stay with mum for a bit then i intend to try & make my home in newcastle near my sister Ive also been in touch with the benefits office & have been told i will get help so i feel quite relieved that i wont be completely skint! Its a very sad situation for all concerned but its for the best in the long run! Hi Megansmummy - been following your story on the forum - I know I don't know you or hubby but for what it's worth I think you've made the right decision for now - you need to come home to decide what is important to you - you are a very brave lady and I'm sure a fabulous mummy - whatever happens you will have your lovely little girl with you to keep you going. Lots of luck and best wishes to you. God Bless. |
Re: Decision has been made!
I haven't read all the story but have you both tried counselling? Perhaps if you both sat down with someone and explained how you were feeling something could be worked out?
My brother is going through a bitter divorce at the moment and he did try to get his wife to go to counselling but she wasn't having it so I know it's easier said than done! He continued with the appointments and it has helped him a bit. Good luck with it all anyway. |
Re: Decision has been made!
Originally Posted by moneypen20
(Post 4860103)
Is there any chance everyone can lay off bad mouthing someone who is not on the forum to defend himself. Wish MM all the best obviously but leave the guy alone. He presumably has his reasons and they are for him and MM to discuss not everyone else.
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Re: Decision has been made!
good luck for the future Jude,
ive learnt never to say never ,since coming here,and you dont know,maybe in time your OH will return to be with you and your daughter.If not ,then good luck and get on with your life x |
Re: Decision has been made!
HI Jude.
just to wish you and yours all the best. You wont be too far from me as im in the boro (but please dont hold that against me) I have brought two children totally by myself (28 and 15) and often thought theyd missed out on having their fathers around (who chose not to be in their childrens lives) Notwithstanding the fact that the ideal situation would have been to having a loving and supportive father, my kids havnt done too bad. They have had a very very stable upbringing considering its been a one parent family, at least they have had stability. Im sure its one of the hardest decisions you will probably have to make. Hopefully you can get your life and that of your daughter back on an even keel where ever that may be. Good luck |
Re: Decision has been made!
Hi Jude....GOOD LUCK and WELL DONE you really are a brilliant person, strong woman, fantastic mummy and i hope that you will be happy again soon...maybe inside the pain will stop because you are going home...
Lots of love lisa x x |
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