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Good luck with your move back to UK I brought my eldest daughter up for a few years on my own, its hard but I wouldnt have had it any other way, met my OH while i wasnt even looking for love (they say it always happens that way).
Be strong and Im sure you will be fine..... Good luck to you and your daughter..... Kath |
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Originally Posted by megansmummy
(Post 4859319)
No i dont think he will! he is adamant he will never leave this country as he loves it too much. i have no idea why but i guess he has his reasons!
I do hope he changes his mind but if he dosnt i will still make a new life for us both without him. It will be very hard but i know i will cope! Well done for making a decision m'dear. You're a strong brave woman and dont forget that! Sending you lotsa love and all the very best big kissus Tanya XX |
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Hi Jude - you are a very brave young woman and I'm sure that you will have the courage and determination to make a new life for yourself back home in the UK with the love and support of your family.
Sometimes things just don't work out as you plan them and with the best will in the world, the hardest of trying, you sometimes have to give in and do what is best for yourself as you only get one life and it should not be spent being miserable and sad. I truly hope that it all works out for you - the next few months are going to be really tough but hopefully there will be light at the end of the tunnel and soon you will be laughing and smiling again. Good luck to you and your daughter XX |
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All the very best in your life....I hope you will find peace and happiness. Life's too short.
Cheers Ginny |
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Jude, always remember that you deserve to be happy!
I really hope that your OH has a change of heart and decides to go back with you, but either way I just wanted to wish you all the best for you and your daughter. Good luck mate :thumbsup: Jo x |
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How does your husband get along with your relations ?
He gets on ok with my family but they dont have a lt of respect for him. Mum has stayed with us in the past & seen 1st hand how he can be towards me! Have you had any past major problems that have followed you here ? None that i know of, though his dad died 20 years ago & he has never got over it as he was there at the time & couldnt save him. i truly believe in my heart that he has come here to escape. I have spoke to him on this at length but he wont admit it! I too agree that he i wrong to let us go but by the same token i dont want to stay so whats the point in him persuading me. Id rather he was coming tto but i know it wont happen! |
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Well done for making what must of been a huge and difficult decision, Jude.
As others have said, you only have one life...... Go back with your head held high, with no regrets and after reading your posts, FWIW, I think you are doing the right thing. In time, Im sure both you and your partner will feel some happiness, so try to see this as a win/win situation. Take care and keep in touch Chissy x |
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Originally Posted by megansmummy
(Post 4859017)
Im going home!
As you all know,I hate it here & have been unable to settle for a long time. Its caused immense strain on our marriage, to the point where we have argued continually Anyway after some very long painful thinking & talking ive decided to leave. Si still adamant he iisnt coming with me as he wants to stay so its just me & megy I feel terrible for taking her from him but i cant carry on being unhappy any longer as it was affecting her & Karl Ive spoke to my family & they will be sorting out some airfare for me in the next few days I plan to fly back around the 8th July as have some things still needing doing here. When i do return i will stay with mum for a bit then i intend to try & make my home in newcastle near my sister Ive also been in touch with the benefits office & have been told i will get help so i feel quite relieved that i wont be completely skint! Its a very sad situation for all concerned but its for the best in the long run! Be interesting to see how your OH will manage when he is a lone parent in Oz, specially round school holidays etc. Being a single parent is not easy even when surrounded by friends & family. |
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Hi Jude,
As all the other posters on here have said, well done on making an extremely tough decision. Hopefully now you have made definate plans that grey cloud may lift slightly. July will be here before you know it so stay positive for you and your daughter. You only have one life so live it the best you can. Good luck Lynne x We should be back in September (Durham) keep in touch and we could meet up if you do plan to go to Newcastle |
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Originally Posted by TraceyW
(Post 4859344)
I've seen this happen a few times and I am still amazed and bemused how a man could put any country before his wife and child.
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Originally Posted by JAJ
(Post 4859585)
Bear in mind that he may have the legal right to demand that the child be returned to Australia.
Thankfully he wont do that cos as much as i think he may be wrong for letting us go he wouldnt do anything to hurt me ! |
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Originally Posted by TraceyW
(Post 4859344)
I've seen this happen a few times and I am still amazed and bemused how a man could put any country before his wife and child.
Good luck to you, lady! |
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Jude
Maybe if he's prepared to put Australia (which is just a country after all) before you and your daughter, he isn't worth being with anyway... All the best back in England. |
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Hi Jude,
It seems you decided to move home a while ago but you didn't know it :) Good luck ! BTW karen is disapointed you cancled you little party ;)
Originally Posted by megansmummy
(Post 4859017)
Im going home!
As you all know,I hate it here & have been unable to settle for a long time. Its caused immense strain on our marriage, to the point where we have argued continually Anyway after some very long painful thinking & talking ive decided to leave. Si still adamant he iisnt coming with me as he wants to stay so its just me & megy I feel terrible for taking her from him but i cant carry on being unhappy any longer as it was affecting her & Karl Ive spoke to my family & they will be sorting out some airfare for me in the next few days I plan to fly back around the 8th July as have some things still needing doing here. When i do return i will stay with mum for a bit then i intend to try & make my home in newcastle near my sister Ive also been in touch with the benefits office & have been told i will get help so i feel quite relieved that i wont be completely skint! Its a very sad situation for all concerned but its for the best in the long run! |
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Is there any chance everyone can lay off bad mouthing someone who is not on the forum to defend himself. Wish MM all the best obviously but leave the guy alone. He presumably has his reasons and they are for him and MM to discuss not everyone else.
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