Can't decide what to do????
#91
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Joined: Dec 2006
Location: Wellington, New Zealand
Posts: 191
Re: Can't decide what to do????
If you are in a position to get a passport/citizenship I would take it even if you are determined to move back to the UK.
#92
Re: Can't decide what to do????
Where on earth did he hear rubbish like that? It's totally wrong. There is no rule saying "you can only have two"
He does not have to renounce either his British or New Zealand citizenship to become an Australian citizen.
There are plenty of triple British/NZ/Australian citizens out there.
#93
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Joined: Dec 2006
Posts: 176
Re: Can't decide what to do????
Just bear in mind that if your children return later on and you want to join them, you may not be able to do so. Parent visas are expensive and have other requirements too (balance of family, health criteria etc).
And even if you don't want to move to Australia to join them, you may find your ability to spend extended vacations in Australia is limited if you are not a citizen.
Also, if you plan having more children born in the UK later on, they will not be eligible for Australian citizenship if you don't take out citizenship yourselves. It is a very bad idea to have siblings with different nationality rights - can cause all kinds of problems.
You appear to be very confident about your future plans, despite the fact that circumstances and intentions can change greatly.
And even if you don't want to move to Australia to join them, you may find your ability to spend extended vacations in Australia is limited if you are not a citizen.
Also, if you plan having more children born in the UK later on, they will not be eligible for Australian citizenship if you don't take out citizenship yourselves. It is a very bad idea to have siblings with different nationality rights - can cause all kinds of problems.
You appear to be very confident about your future plans, despite the fact that circumstances and intentions can change greatly.
Appreciate what you are saying but we are both 45yrs old and really tried to make Oz work twice at great cost, we know where we want to be and where we are better off and our hearts lie in the uk, we made a decision that suits us and will put the oz adventure to bed now, the novelty wore off. i am doing well already after just 7 weeks back in uk, as soon as my family join me all effort will be put into appreciating this country.
my eldest is staying in perth until he finishes his apprenticeship which is great, he is 20yrs old and with his quals he can work in either country of his choice, thein lies one of the probs i faced I was too old when we left for Oz. . i will say again glad we tried it glad we back and will appreciate what we have in uk
#94
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Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 210
Re: Can't decide what to do????
Hi all,
Just wanted to write down how we are feeling at the mo and see if anyone else is the same. We have been in Perth since May 05 and are now thinking of maybe renting the house out here and going home for 6/12 mths to see if we want to live there again. That is my idea to safeguard our money/future and not be ping pongs with no money!
Mark has been homesick since we got here and really missed his mates/pub/football. Typical bloke really! He has got better and better in the last few months but in November he hurt his wrist at work and hasn't been able to work which has been his downfall. He keeps talking about wasting time here because he knows he doesn't want to live here forever and says we are just prolonging the inevitable.
I absolutely loved it when we got here, Mark's sister lives here and introduced us to a few people. I got a bit disillusioned when after a few months I realised we weren't really being included, obviously these people already had a life here and friends here and we would have been better off trying to get our own friends. I then got pregnant in Feb this year and suddenly started feeling homesick. I think it was a mixture of hormones and also the fact that some friends moved here in Nov last year and went home in April this year. They didn't like it from the start, despite doing a 3 week reccie and taking nearly 4 years to get their visa due to having a baby mid way through. I had an answer for all their negativity about Perth, but I think now that maybe their feelings for the place had some effect on me. I found myself worrying about the children growing up and having no job opportunities, or them going to the UK to travel and us ending up here on our own without the funds to return. I also started seeing the arguements against coming here in the first place like isolation/no family/no culture etc. in a different light. I had the baby and was fine. Got sad because my Mum came over for 3 weeks and my brother and new wife came here as part of their honeymoon. Not great timing as the baby was a week old and I was getting no sleep/crying/trying to breastfeed. I think they thought we would all be sitting outside drinking massive amounts of wine and having a laugh every night like we used to!
Anyway, the bottom line is, we don't really know what to do. I miss the things I didn't think I would like the buildings, the town, the river (we lived in Maidenhead in Berkshire), friends and family obviously and just familiarity I think. Mark just says it's boring here, which I used to argue with and talk about taking kids to beach/park etc. but now I can't be arsed to argue because I'm bored with it too! I could quite happily never have a barby again and have gone to the beach with our 3 year old and the baby once (never again until he can walk, it's just no fun). I realised last night that I haven't been out for a drink since New Year's Eve last year, how sad is that??? I know I was pregnant for most of the year, but still! The main problem is that we still know why left the UK but don't know if we want to live here, so our dilemma is that we feel in limbo. I am totally realistic about the UK and yet I hanker after walking out of the house into the town and seeing people I know. The trouble is, I'm not sure that after a couple of months back in the UK we won't want to return here. This scares me because I know we're not happy here, so what does all this mean!!!
Somebody help me! I suppose we should just think of it all as an experience and rent the house and go home for a bit and re-evalute the situation. This is what I think is a sensible option, but the thought of the organisation involved to move again fills me with dread.
Jo
Just wanted to write down how we are feeling at the mo and see if anyone else is the same. We have been in Perth since May 05 and are now thinking of maybe renting the house out here and going home for 6/12 mths to see if we want to live there again. That is my idea to safeguard our money/future and not be ping pongs with no money!
Mark has been homesick since we got here and really missed his mates/pub/football. Typical bloke really! He has got better and better in the last few months but in November he hurt his wrist at work and hasn't been able to work which has been his downfall. He keeps talking about wasting time here because he knows he doesn't want to live here forever and says we are just prolonging the inevitable.
I absolutely loved it when we got here, Mark's sister lives here and introduced us to a few people. I got a bit disillusioned when after a few months I realised we weren't really being included, obviously these people already had a life here and friends here and we would have been better off trying to get our own friends. I then got pregnant in Feb this year and suddenly started feeling homesick. I think it was a mixture of hormones and also the fact that some friends moved here in Nov last year and went home in April this year. They didn't like it from the start, despite doing a 3 week reccie and taking nearly 4 years to get their visa due to having a baby mid way through. I had an answer for all their negativity about Perth, but I think now that maybe their feelings for the place had some effect on me. I found myself worrying about the children growing up and having no job opportunities, or them going to the UK to travel and us ending up here on our own without the funds to return. I also started seeing the arguements against coming here in the first place like isolation/no family/no culture etc. in a different light. I had the baby and was fine. Got sad because my Mum came over for 3 weeks and my brother and new wife came here as part of their honeymoon. Not great timing as the baby was a week old and I was getting no sleep/crying/trying to breastfeed. I think they thought we would all be sitting outside drinking massive amounts of wine and having a laugh every night like we used to!
Anyway, the bottom line is, we don't really know what to do. I miss the things I didn't think I would like the buildings, the town, the river (we lived in Maidenhead in Berkshire), friends and family obviously and just familiarity I think. Mark just says it's boring here, which I used to argue with and talk about taking kids to beach/park etc. but now I can't be arsed to argue because I'm bored with it too! I could quite happily never have a barby again and have gone to the beach with our 3 year old and the baby once (never again until he can walk, it's just no fun). I realised last night that I haven't been out for a drink since New Year's Eve last year, how sad is that??? I know I was pregnant for most of the year, but still! The main problem is that we still know why left the UK but don't know if we want to live here, so our dilemma is that we feel in limbo. I am totally realistic about the UK and yet I hanker after walking out of the house into the town and seeing people I know. The trouble is, I'm not sure that after a couple of months back in the UK we won't want to return here. This scares me because I know we're not happy here, so what does all this mean!!!
Somebody help me! I suppose we should just think of it all as an experience and rent the house and go home for a bit and re-evalute the situation. This is what I think is a sensible option, but the thought of the organisation involved to move again fills me with dread.
Jo
#95
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Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 210
Re: Can't decide what to do????
How long have you got?
Weather: crap mostly.
housing standards: Crap
Education: Crap and way behind UK
Roads: Crap, no proper road network to anywhere
Employment: Totally crap, longer hours than UK, less holiday entitlement
Wages: Crap
Taxes: High
Attitude: Mostly insecure and insular and nowhere is as good as NZ!
Cost if Living: High
Choices: few
Cost of Power Bills: High, way too high, learn to be cold indoors or go outside for a warm
Driving standards: Totally shite, boy racers, etc
Now thats just for starters, I have to go shopping to the local supermarket, has about the same choice as the Uk Kwik Save but double the price. There's no "buy one get one free here, its more like buy one pay price of two" Lol
Valitus, I am now convinced you are a Kiwi!
Weather: crap mostly.
housing standards: Crap
Education: Crap and way behind UK
Roads: Crap, no proper road network to anywhere
Employment: Totally crap, longer hours than UK, less holiday entitlement
Wages: Crap
Taxes: High
Attitude: Mostly insecure and insular and nowhere is as good as NZ!
Cost if Living: High
Choices: few
Cost of Power Bills: High, way too high, learn to be cold indoors or go outside for a warm
Driving standards: Totally shite, boy racers, etc
Now thats just for starters, I have to go shopping to the local supermarket, has about the same choice as the Uk Kwik Save but double the price. There's no "buy one get one free here, its more like buy one pay price of two" Lol
Valitus, I am now convinced you are a Kiwi!
#96
Re: Can't decide what to do????
Why do people think the UK education system is so great? All you ever get in this forum is over-generalised statements without any real hard proof to back up these claims. The UK newspapers are full of articles about the dire educations system and that heaps of kids are not meeting literacy and numeracy targets. These articles are not just in the Daily Mail either. I teach in schools in the Uk that are falling apart, and have rude, lazy kids and demoralised teachers. Please stop sprouting this nonsense.
#97
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Joined: Jul 2006
Posts: 14,188
Re: Can't decide what to do????
As for rude, lazy kids... doesn't every generation think the kids were better behaved when they were young?
#98
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Location: BC
Posts: 3,648
Re: Can't decide what to do????
Why do people think the UK education system is so great? All you ever get in this forum is over-generalised statements without any real hard proof to back up these claims. The UK newspapers are full of articles about the dire educations system and that heaps of kids are not meeting literacy and numeracy targets. These articles are not just in the Daily Mail either. I teach in schools in the Uk that are falling apart, and have rude, lazy kids and demoralised teachers. Please stop sprouting this nonsense.
#99
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Location: Melbourne
Posts: 629
Re: Can't decide what to do????
I have to differ with your comments regarding the UK education system. We are Aussies with 3 English born children who all attended an excellent govt (albeit Catholic) school in Surrey. The school had great facilities, the teaching was excellent and to think it cost us less than £50 pa.
We have now returned to Melb and the two youngest are attending what Melburnians think is a good school. Personally I think it is rubbish and it is costing us $2500 pa!
I believe there are good and bad schools everywhere and for anyone to slate either system is incorrect.
Interestingly at our school in Surrey the two teachers in Year 6 were a Kiwi and a Sth African and both were excellent!
We have now returned to Melb and the two youngest are attending what Melburnians think is a good school. Personally I think it is rubbish and it is costing us $2500 pa!
I believe there are good and bad schools everywhere and for anyone to slate either system is incorrect.
Interestingly at our school in Surrey the two teachers in Year 6 were a Kiwi and a Sth African and both were excellent!
#100
Re: Can't decide what to do????
The policy of inclusion has been a disaster - to the point where the govt is now talking about throwing money at bright kids as they have been failed so badly.
From a teaching point of view, I have heard very positive things about Australian schools - obviously all schools are individual, but the overall impression seems to be that behaviour is less of an issue there than in the UK.
#101
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Joined: Jul 2006
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Re: Can't decide what to do????
That's great, but sadly not typical. On the plus side, there does seem to be a wave of new contruction for schools, which is great, but unfortunately there are still many schools with old buildings that lack facilities and cannot seat large classes. I am sure that schools like this exist in all countries, but it would be wrong to say that all, or even most, UK schools are great.
The policy of inclusion has been a disaster - to the point where the govt is now talking about throwing money at bright kids as they have been failed so badly.
From a teaching point of view, I have heard very positive things about Australian schools - obviously all schools are individual, but the overall impression seems to be that behaviour is less of an issue there than in the UK.
The policy of inclusion has been a disaster - to the point where the govt is now talking about throwing money at bright kids as they have been failed so badly.
From a teaching point of view, I have heard very positive things about Australian schools - obviously all schools are individual, but the overall impression seems to be that behaviour is less of an issue there than in the UK.
#102
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Joined: Jul 2006
Posts: 2,199
Re: Can't decide what to do????
Same here, i can only comment on the schools my kids attend, but compared to the level of education they had in the UK, the OZ system sucks.!!!!
Sorry if that dissapoints anyone, but even the teachers here from England say the same thing.
Sorry if that dissapoints anyone, but even the teachers here from England say the same thing.
#103
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Joined: Dec 2006
Posts: 176
Re: Can't decide what to do????
My partner and son return end of Jan and it seems my son may have to be back classed as the kids are more advanced here in the uk and also started school a year earlier. Bright kids will always get on. since being back I have seen a few from my school who lafet with no quals and they all own several properties.