JEM3110

My hubby and me got out of the "telling each other everything" stage a long time ago, we operate on a need to know basis - makes for a happier life all round. Oh, and we don't open each other letters or read each others emails, that's personal! Keeping the balance right between partner and family is always difficult, still trying to acheive that!!

paddingtongreen

Surely, what Roland did was to change direction without telling wifey. This left her believing that he was continuing in the one direction, and in a position where, if she had contact with her inlaws, she would have appeared to be going in her own direction. The inlaw relationship is almost always boobytrapped by a little questioning or suspicion, after all, the spouse will already have changed their perfect offspring in some ways.

Titchski

So you had some free time then as she ****ed off to bed? I always open a beer, stick some porn on and have a wank when that happens - I'm not getting any that night anyway, so may as well enjoy myself.

Lord Lionheart

Nip this shit in the bud Rolly and be a man. What you are doing now is laying the future foundations for your marriage and relationship. Women will usually push you as far as you let them. Time to grow some balls ( even if they are ginger). Reading and approving your e-mails FFS. Is she your Mommy or your wife?!?! Trust me, a woman will respect you more if you take control. Do it now before she loses respect for you. They won't admit it but most woman like strength of character in a man, not a shirt button.

Titchski

Wise words. I could have used that advice 10 years ago!

Tracym

PMSL Them's are fighting words

Actually I agree with some of it. NOT the "take control" part however - I detesting controlling by a man or a woman - wouldn't fly in my house. And it's pretty chauvanistic to say "Women will usually push you....".

However, Roland standing up for himself re. what I see as controlling behaviour on her part - there I agree with you.

Lord Lionheart

I'm here for you buddy

Lord Lionheart

You agree with me generally without taking apart the post line by line. Sometimes you need to take control of a situation and be a man. Generally controlling or abusive behavior is another topic altogether. You know you girls test the relationship to start with, as do men to see what the boundaries are in a relationship.
Rolly needs to set his boundaries now or regret it in the future...................... and shouldn't you be cooking breakfast or doing something useful

Tracym

Just finished cooking breakfast, thank you very much. I take fine care of my man (when he's here) and he would tell you so.

Taking control, and refusing to be controlled aren't the same thing I guess. I do have a problem with the idea of anyone "taking control", including myself. And not every woman tries to push men around, though I will certainly admit some do.

I've also seen the same behaviour from men too - but I wouldn't generalise it to all men.

So I guess I agree with you in general, setting boundaries and all - just not the control bit.

Roland Hulme

Well, things are much better this morning!

We talked and discussed things and I think there were various aspects to her outburst, including cabin fever, which had sent her over the edge.

So we're happy families today.

What Lord Lionheart was saying reminded me of a joke, though.

A man and a woman are on an airliner, when the engine explodes and it starts plummeting towards the ground.

"We've only got a few minutes to live," the woman huskily breathes. "Please, make me feel like a woman one last time..."

"Sure," says the macho man, tearing off his shirt. He hands it to her and says: "Iron this."

britex01

Resolve or Divorce! Spare the angst.

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Lord Lionheart

So you're basically admitting I was right apart from a little error in my choice of words. We are 90% there, see how easy it is. You would be putty in my hands

britex01

Good one, the roar of a Lion! No messing...

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Lord Lionheart

Humor is good too. Tell that to the wife in a semi-joking style. Then ask for breakfast, it's all subliminal

Lord Lionheart

He's young and just starting out.
If my vast experience can save just one marriage on BE then my time here will have been worth it